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[Music]
let’s clap our hands if we’re excited to
be in the house of God this morning I
can tell by that intro some of y’all
just had a conniption y’all just like oh
my god in the house of God today we’re
talking about sex and I’m gonna approach
this topic very delicately but very
directly because I believe God’s clear
about it but the church many times
doesn’t communicate about it I’m so glad
for all the first-time visitors that I’m
seeing in new faces and old faces who
haven’t been here long and the faithful
that are here
I think this relationship gold series
has been one of these things that we’ll
be able to benchmark when things changed
in our church and this is what’s
happening right now things are changing
in the lives of people and so I’m so
excited about what God’s gonna do today
but what I want everybody to do right
now is just take a deep breath in come
on everybody just take a deep breath in
now just let it out and I want you to
say out of your mouth relax okay look at
your neighbor and just say relax okay
this is gonna be okay okay this is gonna
be okay some of y’all like you’re gonna
bust me out no no relax it’s funny that
something that the Bible is very clear
on the church is really silent on like
there’s tons of scriptures about sex
there’s a whole book of talking about
how to please your wife there’s like
there’s all kinds of stuff you know that
cuz you don’t read your Bible but what I
am saying is that I feel like that
this perversion in sex in our society
today is silently eroding the destinies
of so many people and and and you maybe
in this room like I was and the things I
didn’t know about sexual sexual
interactions sexuality sex period all of
those things came to literally take from
my life they never came to add to my
life they always came to take from my
life and I was just in delusion for so
long and I would go to
youth group and I would go to church and
I would praise and I would jump and I
would shout but nobody talked about what
I was struggling in and so what are
adults older kids with more
responsibility so if it doesn’t get
addressed when you’re a kid and it
doesn’t get addressed when you’re a
teenager guess what shows up in your
adulthood the same thing with more
consequences and more sophisticated ways
to hide it and what I said is God if
we’re gonna be a church that represents
you we’re gonna talk about the things
that people are really dealing with and
and sex and sexual impurity and sexual
relationship is something that is
usually being defined by culture and not
defined by the Word of God if we’re
honest you didn’t learn anything you
know about sex from going to Bible
School not one not one thing what did
you learn in church about sex is don’t
have it before you’re married that’s all
you need that’s it that’s all I need to
know whole courts do not have it until
you’re married and what that does is
leave a lot of us to figure it out and I
believe the Holy Spirit wants to do
something significant in this place so I
want you to open your heart and open
your mind for what God’s gonna do
because John chapter 8 I believe it’s
verse 32 says and you shall know the
truth and the truth shall set you what
it’ll set you free but there’s two
things that come before freedom it’s
knowing and truth and it’s one thing to
want to be free but if you don’t know
truth you’ll never get free and many
people in church are walking around
claiming freedom singing about freedom
wanting to be free but we’re not honest
and the truth is that sex is ravaging
most of our lives and it’s one of the
biggest things we deal with talked about
or untalked about sexual urges sexual
frustrations sexual partners um sexual
ideas whether we do them or not it’s one
of the issues that everybody is dealing
with some guys walk down all day long
because they don’t want
be tempted by anything some people on
social media all day skipping and
deleting and following people because it
speaks to you sexually it affects our
entire life but what does God say about
this well I think the first thing is
that we got to come clean and walk in
spirit and in truth and can I tell you
some things that I found that are the
truth the truth is that 80 percent of
adolescents say that they find out about
sex violence and drugs by their peers
television or on the Internet 80 percent
that means that 80 percent of
adolescents are not finding out about
sex from their parents from educators or
from church or biblical knowledge so
what ends up happening in most people’s
life is they get this image of what sex
is and then everything in their life is
coming against this image that was not
given by God but was given by their big
cousin and what we’re doing is we’re
fighting because it’s the truth and see
not a lot of churches want to talk about
this we want to shout hallelujah but
whenever we come off the hallelujah
we’re dealing with horniness okay let me
come to this side cuz maybe y’all will
be of look everybody over there was like
oh not me of no pastor no yeah yeah if
if we if we’re honest about it we’re
saved sanctified in sexual beings and
what happens is God has solutions for
these things but we’re not willing to
deal with the truth you know what the
truth is that children that are ages 10
to 17 will see a hundred and forty three
sexual images this week on prime-time
television this week not even at like
midnight one two or three in the morning
light for a hundred and forty three
sexual images you know the crazy thing
about it is that you’re you’re more
likely to see three to four times more
likely to see sexual relations happen
between men and women who are not
married than ones who are that’s the
truth you know one of the saddest truths
that I found as I was reading and
studying through some of these um health
and medical studies this week that 50%
of every high school student has been
sexually active half of all high school
students have had in sexual experience
some of you parents are sending like nah
my child and the satyr fact is that for
African Americans 72% have been sexually
active by the time they are out of high
school seven out of ten fifty two
percent for Hispanics forty seven
percent for white people
yay white people
here what I’m saying though the sad
truth is if the church does not stand up
and begin to say something about this
topic then we let the enemy win and we
never put up a fight and I’m and I’m
here to say that many of the problems
that you deal with in in security today
become it is because you never sexual
things were never addressed when you
were younger you have secrets and pains
and frustrations from your family things
that you saw things that happen to you
that nobody ever had the gall to address
with the Word of God they told you to be
quiet they told you no that didn’t
happen you didn’t say nothing because
you knew if you even hinted that
anything happened he was gonna get a
whuppin you were gonna get in trouble
you was come on let’s be honest and so
now we’re sitting here in the greatest
most vulnerable position for the enemy
isolation and anything he can isolate
it’s the same thing he can destroy but
today there’s freedom coming for you
that we’re gonna expose the lies of the
enemy and this thing that is called sex
and I want you to realize this one
simple truth and I want you to know that
sex is good
come on let’s have therapy just for one
second everybody in the room I want you
to say sex is good everybody say it sex
is good okay and this doesn’t want to
take it one more step further sex was
God’s idea see this is this is the crazy
thing some of y’all just broke out in
hives right there by saying sex is good
in church because you were taught that
it was bad but what happens is the first
mention of something usually is the
thing that you that you grade everything
else by and so because many of us were
introduced to sex I know when I was
introduced to sex it was in sixth grade
in a locker room and in a bathroom and
these nasty little perverted sixth-grade
boys told me everything that I knew I
mean majority of so I didn’t know
nothing and they just took me from a
little sheltered Christian prophesy and
family background and they said bro
here’s what it is now hear me I didn’t
learn it in Bible School I didn’t learn
it at my house I didn’t learn it
anywhere else so that was the foundation
of my sexual building and it was given
to me by some dumb sixth graders now
think about how crazy that is but people
are educated who educated you how did
you did a magazine tell you did it did
it did a friend tell you did late-night
pornography tell you that HBO tell come
on let’s be honest who educated you and
what happens is then I grow up and I
start coming to church and they give me
the sex talk the birds-and-the-bees talk
at church don’t have sex until you’re
married
is that it and it’s coming against
something that already was my foundation
all this stuff I’ve been exposed to so
now I’m in a battle what I know is true
cuz it was presented to me first and
what you’re saying God says about it and
that’s where most Christians stay and a
battle between what was first planted in
their hearts and allowing God to uproot
that thing and put something else new
there I’m proud of every parent that has
a middle school student or somebody in
here though we gave
that announcement cuz they already know
if your child is over 12 they already
know they know what’s going on they see
it but it’s time for us to address it so
my first point today is that sex is
God’s idea we have to redeem and reclaim
this idea of sex being a bad thing it’s
a bad thing out of the context that God
meant for it to be in it’s a great thing
inside of the context that God meant for
it to be in and I’m gonna help you
understand this this morning cuz Genesis
1:28 what is the first statement that
God says to Adam and Eve after their
creation the first thing he does is
bless them he said I bless y’all now go
be fruitful and multiply
so what basic can I translate it for you
he said y’all are bless go have sex do
that thing put it down Abin put them
down Adam do you understand that’s what
God that’s what my god that’s what my
God said to Adam okay he wasn’t talking
about planting a tree to be fruitful he
told them to go be fruitful and multiply
okay I want you to realize this because
until you can acknowledge the fact that
sex is good and that sex was created by
God your distorted perversion of what
sex is will always be preeminent in your
mind and I have to resect this so that
we can see it how God sees it God didn’t
tell them to go learn and pray he didn’t
tell them to start creating something he
told them to go have sex and be fruitful
what does this tell us that God knows
how he made us and inside of the
covenant of marriage he made us to enjoy
and be sexual
everybody just nod your head like just
yes that’s what somebody I was just
sitting there like you hear me because
the enemy has distorted it so bad in
your heart in your mind that when you
think about sex is something that’s
supposed to be covered something that’s
supposed to be secret something that’s
supposed to be behind the scenes
and what God says is what I created I
look at it and I say it’s good when I
created it in the right thing but what
we have done is we’ve taken it out of
the context that God meant for it to
being I want you to just get this God’s
first command to humanity was go have
sex
be fruitful and multiply
I’m telling you that sex is not bad what
you’ve been taught about sex is bad sex
is not an abomination sex is amazing
but he put it in a container that is
supposed to control it so that it can
give him glory when it is out of that
container then it becomes destructive
and it causes death to come to people’s
lives so the title of today’s message is
sex the container okay
sex container I want everybody to see
this what does Jesus say about this mark
chapter 10 let’s go to verse 6 mark
chapter 10 verse 6 this is Jesus talking
he’s talking to a group of people who
are trying to figure this thing out just
like you trying to figure it out he said
but God made them male and female who
made him okay so God made them both male
and female that means God knows our
parts he knows our desires he knows our
urges he knows our appetite he knows all
of that and how does he know it because
he created us from the beginning that’s
what it says this explains why a man
leaves his father and mother that’s the
only reason you leave your father and
mother is from marriage covenant and is
joined
I want everybody the underlying Circle
that word joined right there because it
means when you study it out in the Greek
in the Hebrew it means so much more than
what we say right here this is talking
about sexual intimacy right here they’re
joined together through marriage and I
want to explain this you’re joined
physically through sex you’re joined
emotionally through intimacy and you’re
joined spiritually through covenant now
let me help you with this every time you
have sex with somebody it is not just a
physical act this is not just
skin-to-skin when you have sex you are
joining to that but this is how powerful
God made sex is that every time that you
join with somebody come together you are
joining physically through that action
you are joining emotionally through
through what God has called us to be
close together or into
and you are joining spiritually through
covenant what I’m trying to say that
every time you have sex you’re marrying
somebody without the covenant no no no
hear me I want you to get this clearly
every time you have sex you are marrying
somebody without the Covenant prove it
to me Pastor Mike marriage was supposed
to be the perfect picture of God
everything that he does in human nature
is supposed to be seen in a marriage
so when Humanity was separated when God
was separated from his church he had to
send a sacrifice a blood sacrifice one
that was poured out so that we could be
in covenant you could go to the Old
Testament think about the children of
Israel when they pass through they had
to circumcise themselves why because it
was a blood covenant I could speak this
whole thing but I want you to understand
that inside of every woman God has put
blood that if you understand Anatomy at
all that when a man penetrates a woman
blood is shed because every time that’s
supposed to happen they’re supposed to
be a covenant established every time you
have sex and so what people are doing is
they’re marrying people willy-nilly and
walking around for a piece of pleasure
and God is saying that every time that
you joined with somebody you’re not just
getting that physical moment you’re
getting their emotional status you’re
not just getting a physical connection
you’re getting a spiritual withdrawal
that’s why some people can be in abusive
relationships for 17 years and all
they’re doing is having sex it’s because
they didn’t just have sex they married
that person they emotionally physically
and spiritually join with that person
that’s why there’s somebody right now
that you had sex with before you got
married if they walked in this room
right now you’d be all jacked up been 15
years since you’ve seen them but if they
walk in this room or they’re seen
because there’s something called a soul
tie that has you connected to them you
thought it was one night that you would
forget but it was something that God
said you married that person without the
covenant and we have an entire society
of people who are having one-night
stands our hookups
or Netflix and chill and what they don’t
understand is they’re robbing their bank
deposit they are filled with something
that every time they connect with
somebody it’s taking a withdrawal and
when they get with they’re husband and
wife they may be in the negative I want
you to see sex was God’s idea but inside
of what God called it to be so when we
look at this this scripture mark chapter
10 verse 6 go back to what he said
that’s why they leave their mother and
father so they can be joined physically
emotionally and spiritually to who their
wife so this makes you know that it’s
supposed to be in marriage that you’re
not supposed to be just joined to that
dude who you work with they’re joined to
that person that you go to school with
this is supposed to be joined not to the
mailman you’re joined to your husband or
to your wife oh don’t act like this
don’t happen every day
don’t don’t act like you don’t see
people at your job and at the
watercooler
and at the different things and you know
what’s being planned right now you know
it matter of fact some of y’all in this
room are people who have made
opportunity for your sin to give life
and what I’m trying to say right here is
it’s not bad it just has to be in proper
context it said and the two are united
in two what is this word one and then he
says it again since he knew some of us
like me would be remedial like God what
are you really trying to say you saying
like the two really become one like
every time I have sick like what is sex
anyway you know I’m saying a sex oral
sex it’s say y’all know we’d be asking
these questions like no you know what it
is it’s what you did and look he says it
again for the remedial once he says the
two are united into one since they are
no longer two but one
let no one split apart what God has
joined together now this is crazy
because God didn’t puts his stamp of
approval owner
see every time you have sex what God is
saying is I’m joining this together you
know I’m on the inside of you and I’m
joining this together many of you don’t
realize that marriage was not a piece of
paper and was not a a ceremony in a
white dress when they were writing this
it was a covenant was made when you had
sex with the person so you did not have
sex with anybody you were not planning
to spend the rest of your life with and
so what happens when we talk about this
in this passage what we’re doing is
we’re saying well I ain’t it ain’t legal
with the courts and I haven’t had a
marriage ceremony God says all that’s
for you like the dress I don’t get no
glory from that the bridesmaids the
groom’s men the music the people walking
down and saying all of it that’s you
that’s what you want that’s American
Americanized view of what marriage is he
said you know what marriage is with me
when a person decides what is it so
valuable in me that I’m ready to give it
to somebody else and I’m ready to give
it to this one person for the rest of my
life and I’m gonna give them all love me
and so when we step into that covenant
God is there saying I do when the
intersection of joining comes together
so my question is how many times have
you made God say I do and you didn’t how
many people have you been in sexual
relationship with that wasn’t you making
a covenant with them but it was you
satisfying a fleshly need that God could
meet if you allowed him to but you
decided not to allow him to so you went
and did it for yourself saying that
you’re your own provider and it ended up
robbing you I’ve never met anybody
that’s sexually active and charged and
all this other stuff who comes out
feeling freer after the situation oh I’m
just blood they may act like it I see
this this whole generation of people
like I’m free I can I can do what I want
to do this independent woman if men are
gonna pimp I’m a pimp too and all this
other stuff that is all a broken
insecure person trying to figure out how
to
God in their own life and it’ll never
happen so you got to understand that sex
is not bad everybody say sex is not bad
sex was God’s idea but then comes to my
second point
sex was perverted it’s the enemy’s plan
in society to prefer anything that God
says is good so if God says sex is good
the enemy’s automatic plan is to come in
and figure out a way to make it bad just
think about it in the garden listen the
enemy never showed up until there was
unity and Eve came into the picture you
don’t ever hear about the devil when it
was just Adam and God but it was when
there was supposed to be a picture of
what God’s relationship with his bride
look like in a marriage that the enemy
said I was like I can’t have this unity
thing I can’t have this oneness thing I
can’t have this so I need to deceive can
I give you what I’m calling God’s plan
of oneness look at this this was God’s
plan this was God’s idea he wanted it to
be one God one man one woman one
marriage one sex partner one flesh one
lifetime to create one picture that’s
what God designed marriage to look like
it’s to be a reflection but I’ve seen
these things you know there are people
that have like an expensive painting of
Van Gogh or a Renoir or something like
that and then because everybody can’t
afford how amazing that picture is they
make prints of it okay so a lot of us in
our houses or in our dorm rooms or in
our plays we got prints of like the real
thing okay but it’s beautiful because
you can appreciate the real thing
because it’s a copy of it it’s supposed
to be a picture of it but it would be
like God creating this picture of
marriage that is supposed to be all of
these ones and then us getting sent a
copy of it but somebody took a sharpie
and started drawing things on it and
perverting the picture and this is what
a lot of sex looks like in our society a
lot of perversions all you can be with
two women or you can do it like
you don’t even need no man you can do it
by yourself or man go get your homeboy
y’all can get to it’s all perversion or
sleep with your kids or have six wives
and all these what it is it’s the
perfect picture and why do they want to
be married if it’s an institution that
God has set up it’s because everybody
desires on the inside of them to create
to connect with the Creator and it’s
what God placed on the inside of us but
most of us are creating counterfeit
pictures that have been perverted so the
enemy has come to pervert what God has
made good and it reminds me of Paul in
first Corinthians go there 1st
Corinthians chapter 6 and we’re gonna
look in this but let me give you a
little backstory that Paul is basically
talking to a society that’s kind of like
our society today a society that is full
of lust a society that glorifies people
and things that that basically are a
fantasy in somebody’s head you all know
that we glorify people who put fake
implants and they butts and in a chest
and literally have fake we fake this
fake that and then we put them up on
stages and people watch in mass views
and they just shake they but they don’t
got no talent no nothing but we glorify
it even people in church oh she should
be a sec Julia move so I can see the
devil that word just let’s be honest we
we glorify things and so this city of
Corinth is like the Las Vegas Strip
of its time so like Las Vegas they cater
to your sin like like y’all know the
phrase what happens in Vegas yeah and
even been and you know you got what I’m
saying
and so it’ll cater to the things of your
flesh and this is where Paul is and he’s
talking to believers who are coming out
of this lifestyle and trying to live a
Christian lifestyle but he’s trying to
give them practical steps of how they
live spiritually in a world that looks
like this kind of like what we got to do
every day and let’s see if we can’t find
some keys
to what God says about sex in this verse
9 don’t you realize that those who do
wrong will not inherit the kingdom of
God and this part messes me up every
time don’t fool yourself I mean the Holy
Spirit came to me so hard when I started
reading this and really giving God my
sexual um impurities and did he said
Michael don’t fool yourself don’t think
that I’m about to come and bless what
you won’t allow me to come in and fix
don’t fool yourself you will not inherit
the kingdom of God in that area of
relationships cuz you will not stop
sleeping around don’t fool yourself you
got grace you are saved you’re gonna
make it to heaven but don’t fool
yourself that i’ma bless what I’ve
already cursed and some of us walk
around like God is just gonna work in
this relationship guys just gonna take
this God is doing no don’t fool yourself
maybe that relationship has been taken
from you since you got into it and
you’ve been giving your body and you’ve
been been been lowering your standards
and fella don’t fool yourself
everything that’s sitting up right now
is gonna fall gravity gets us all don’t
blow yourself hear me what I’m saying
because these people were Christian
people but they thought they could
dabble in sin and still have the
blessings of God and Paul was telling
them you’re saved you’re gonna make it
into heaven and that’s what I hate I
hate this thing that that all we need to
do is make it into heaven that is the
lowest level of blessing that God has
for your life did you just make it into
heaven that would be like my parents
having an inheritance for me that could
be on this earth but they say hey Mike
we just gave you the house no furniture
in it you got the house but they said
man we also had a fully furnished
furnished house for you we had cars we
had a jet we had on bank accounts we had
trust we had funds but we watched how
you managed your other things we gave
you we so we can’t give you the
inheritance we wanted to give you God
has so
much for you so much more beyond what
you can see in what you’ve experienced
and what you’ve done but don’t fool
yourself the area you won’t allow him to
come in and you keep doing wrong in he
cannot supply he cannot supply and
that’s why he’s saying these people’s
like oh that sounds kind of rough like
what do you mean don’t fool yourself
what are you saying
what do you mean people who do wrong and
Paul clarifies he says those who indulge
in sexual sins who worship idols commit
adultery or male prostitutes practice
homosexuality our thieves are greedy
people
some of y’all was good till we got there
y’all was like honor that I mean that I
meet that I’m greedy oh who are
drunkards who are abusive or people who
just simply cheat people none of these
will inherit the kingdom of God I want
to tell you the saddest story in our
earth today is that there are people
with Kingdom inheritances that God gun
wants to give you right now he wants to
give you not just an eternity but in
history he doesn’t want you to just have
an eternal reward he wants you to have a
right now reward but don’t fool yourself
if you keep entangling yourselves in
these situations and not allowing him to
come in and deal with them you’re still
hiding them you’re still walking around
with them you will not inherit the
promise of God and all that he wants to
do in your life right now and that’s why
we get frustrated and then we go to
other things to fulfill something that
God already has if we’ll surrender what
we have if you would just give up what
you have he’ll give you what he has and
I promise you it’s better than anything
you could have for yourself but it’s
been perverted look at verse 11 but it
says some of you were like that thank
God
but you were cleansed you were made holy
you were made right with God by calling
on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and
by the Spirit of God just for one second
I thank God for grace I think that some
of us need to remember who we used to be
some of us need to take 10 seconds
and just remember how faithful God has
been to us that we used to be just like
that I looked at that listen I said I
was all of those things but for the
grace of God see some of y’all have
forgotten how God has delivered you
you ain’t always been that smart you
ain’t always been that put together you
were a ho and it’s been buried so long
that you forgot how to relate and what
you forget you judge I’m gonna just say
it one more time what you forget you
begin to judge others based on that
thing
he’s so critical but when it when when I
look at my Bible the ground is even at
the foot of the cross that everybody
from the homosexual to the liar it’s
standing on even playing field saying
god I need you and so I want you to see
that it’s not about where you are it’s
about letting the god of the universe
come into that thing because it’s been
perverted sex sexuality impure thoughts
it’s been perverted verse 12 it says
because these people was like okay I
hear what you’re talking about
and Paul knew what type of people he was
dealing with and he said I already know
what y’all thinking right now I know
what you think of look of ourselves you
say I’m allowed to do anything but not
everything is good for you
now watch this and even though I’m
allowed to do anything
I must not become a slave to anything
now this ups the ante because this ain’t
even about sin you can be slaves to
something that’s not sin some of y’all
are slaves to video games every day
we’re 2k
some of you are slaves to social media
some of you are slaves to the opinion of
others oh she won’t do anything because
God told you to do it you’ll do it if
everybody agrees with it
and and this is saying sins shouldn’t
just be your first bar you know you’re
maturing when you start not evaluating
things like is that a sin is that a sin
is that a sin no is this maturing me is
this making me better is a my a slave to
this yes some of y’all slave to
fast-food if Starbucks went out of
business you die die die like it and
hear me but the Bible’s telling us we
shouldn’t have anything that’s a master
over us except the master does everybody
understand what I’m saying
and so my question is what are you a
slave to and I can’t answer that
question for you but you can answer it
what are you a slave to and let me help
you one of the worst things to be a
slave to is sexual impurity let me tell
you why because sexual impurity is one
of those sins that doesn’t come alone
you can’t be sexually impure and not be
a liar if you’re sexually impure you
have to lie you can’t do it in the open
you can’t be like just think about it if
you were sexually active before you were
married and you were in high school or
something and you were going to have sex
and your parents ask you hey what are
you going to do tonight you didn’t say
going to have sex then they said see you
at 11 that didn’t happen what you do
what are you going to do tonight oh
we’re going bowling you know just
bowling strikes fair see you know just
and just you automatically learn to lie
with sexual impurity comes the session
comes manipulation I’m telling you it’s
like when you when you when you look and
somebody’s knocking on the door and
you’re not fully dressed are you not in
your your swag yet and stuff and you be
like before maybe like who is it I’m
like oh it’s just them okay and then you
open the door never like come on in
everybody
cause sexual see
brings unbelief doubt it brings the
whole party to your house and that’s why
when you deal in sexual sin it allows
every other kind of spirit to join to
you that’s why the enemy would love for
you to keep secrets in those areas
because it invites other things in that
you don’t have no control to keep out
and so we sit here I mean just think
about it even David the man after God’s
own heart when he committed adultery
what’s the first thing he did he lied
and after he lied he murdered this was a
man after God I’m telling you you can’t
be in sexual impurity and it be the only
sin that comes and that’s why God says
that you have to get free you have to
take this perverted view of sexuality
that is breaking you that has you
looking at people distorted that has you
looking at yourself like you’re not
worthy you have to give that back to me
and you have to let me redefine it what
I created sex to be is good who I
created you to be is good but what this
thing is doing to you is bad you gotta
let pornography go you gotta let slide
into the DMS and stay sexting and
talking late at night and allowing those
people to come into your life and slip
in and slip out you gotta stop joining
the people and marrying them without the
Covenant you gotta let me have this why
cuz for God’s sake if you’re not going
to get sexually pure for yourself get
sexually pure for your children and your
grandchildren
see what you don’t understand is that
most of y’all are dealing with the
problems that your grandmama and your
granddaddy had and it’s passed to you
I’m going to teach you two words that
that may seem kind of churchy to some of
you but they’re all through the Bible
the word transgression and the word
iniquities transgression write it down
transgression and write the word
iniquities down because I want to show
you what these two things are okay a
transgression is it’s something it kind
of reminds you of the English word
trespassing like it’s committing a sin
and coming back like it’s I made a
transgression I stepped on the property
and I wasn’t supposed to and so I got
off the property it’s what sin is is a
transgression and and and and a lot of
us make transgression adultery would be
a transgression okay I stepped over the
line and I trespassed in something that
wasn’t mine and I came back but lust is
the iniquity it’s the thing that’s in
the heart let me help you both of them
are sin but what happens inside and one
happens outside so transgressions are
the action the outward actions
iniquities is the heart posture stay
with me a lot of people will believe the
lie that since I don’t do anything it’s
not that bad you think about it you have
it in your heart and it’s all you have
iniquities in your heart but you don’t
transgress you don’t act on them so it’s
like as long as it’s not hurting anybody
it’s not that bad
as long as I masturbate in my bathroom
by myself it’s not that bad as long as I
touch myself it’s not that bad but what
you don’t understand is you’re arousing
something that can never be satisfied
you are starting a train down a road
that will lead you to destruction and
look what the Word of God says about
this thing right here called transition
trends aggressions and iniquities and
let me make it clear it’s all sin like
transgression and iniquity is not like
one like oh the transgressions ain’t
that bad the iniquities that no it’s all
saying Jesus said he said if you even
look on a woman lustfully you might as
well already done it so but this is what
I want you to understand is the Bible
tells us in Deuteronomy 5 chapter 9 it
says that the iniquities the inward
motivation those things that have been
in your heart and in your thoughts they
are passed on to your children to the
third and fourth generation here what
I’m saying
to you that if you do not stand up and
deal with the sexual impurity in your
life it is going to pass down to your
children and your children’s children
and your children’s children’s children
and they’re gonna have to deal with
stuff that God asks you to cut off may I
submit to you that you ain’t even
dealing with your own sexual problems
you’re dealing with your Grandmamma
sexual problems see cuz nobody stood up
and broke this thing off of your life
and you’re saying you said Pastor Mike
no no you do know your grandmama was a
hoe your mama was a hoe and now you are
hoe and you think there’s something
magically happening no no no baby it’s
the iniquities the heart position of
generational secrets oh come on y’all if
you really would open up and stop living
your life idealistic Lee like no my mom
was perfect you got here in your last
name which is Rory’s and her last name
Smith what you think happened and maybe
it’s starting with you and you have a
pornography addiction that you’re saying
as long as I handle it by myself
see that’s the lie the enemy told me he
told me as long as it’s not hurting
anybody else it’s okay but what it was
doing was arousing secret desires and
secret sins in my life that allowed me
to have a thirst for something that
nobody could ever quench and so now I’m
sneaking out of windows and I’m and I’m
going over to this girl’s house and I’m
doing this and I’m going to do this and
I’m texting nobody knows see it’s a hole
in the dark it’s all in the secret and
some of y’all are trying to be out front
with it and be like this is what I’m
doing but you ain’t tell everybody
everything that’s happening if they
really knew what was happening they
wouldn’t even be your friend they
wouldn’t touch you don’t give me a five
no no no baby
wash your hands do you understand what
I’m saying listen what I’m telling you
is that it’s enemy’s trick to arouse
your sexual secretive lifestyle at a
young age so now you’ve done it all
these years with your girlfriend and
your boyfriend and your friends and your
big cousin that you hope ain’t your big
cousin
and all these other things that are
having oh this is really happening
Oh can I come to your house and then you
get married and all of a sudden it’s no
longer pleasing because it’s not
scratching the edge because it’s not a
secret anymore
so so it was good when you couldn’t do
it and now that you get it inside of
marriage it no longer pleases you
because it loses the air of secrecy and
perversion and so the enemy has tricked
us to think that perverted sex is
enjoyable sex that perversion that
darkness being in the mix and that’s why
he’s like jump out and surprise me like
we’re not supposed to be doing this why
I’m supposed to be here like this is
what’s supposed to happen like bow here
I am come get it daddy like but no but
no that’s why a man will be in the
closet jacking off and has a woman right
there to meet his need but that’s not a
secret and this is I want y’all to hear
the Word of God today
some of y’all sitting so stiff right now
some of y’all ain’t that some people
ain’t moved all day what I’m telling you
is that the enemy has perverted what
this looks like to make you feel that if
it’s not secret if it doesn’t have that
spice in that adrenaline and all that
other stuff it’s not good God never made
when he made Adam and Eve he said they
were naked and unashamed and so what I’m
saying to you is that these words of
transgressions and iniquities it’s time
for somebody to stand up and say it
stops with me I’m not passing this on to
the next generation I’m not letting this
go past me I will not let this
homosexual spirit that keeps trying to
tempt me I’m stopping it with me I’m
letting these transgressions and these
iniquities be stopped they will not pass
down to my family the Bible says a good
man leaves an inheritance to his
children’s children my question is what
type of inheritance are you leaving
are you leaving one of iniquity and
transgressions one of blessings but this
is the beautiful thing and why the Word
of God is so congruent I love it
isaiah 53:3 because i know some of you
are dealing with transgressions and
iniquities and you’re dealing with
things that you haven’t even told the
person you’re married to and you’re
dealing with things yeah you were abused
and it happened to you and nobody even
really knows the turmoil that’s going on
on your heart and maybe you are out here
looking for love in all the wrong places
because you feel like you’re devalued
and maybe you are out here exploring
your sexuality and trying to be with men
are trying to be with women and women
and you’re tried you’re so confused
about who God has made you but this is
the beautiful thing about transgressions
and iniquities Jesus did something about
him he didn’t just leave us in this
place and say figure it out he didn’t
just leave us right here to have to try
to go through it he said but he was
wounded for our transgressions remember
what I said about transgressions
transgressions are the outward the
outward experience where do you get
wounded on the outside you get wounded
on the outside but he was bruised for
our iniquities that’s inside when you
get bruised that’s something that comes
from the inside and it comes to the
outside God said I took every
transgression every cell I feel the
presence of God every sexual sin
everything that the enemy meant for evil
and I let them beat me and I let them
bruise me and I let them take me so that
you could walk in freedom
you don’t have to live that life you
don’t have to struggle with that thing
you do not have to carry it he saw every
transgression and he saw every iniquity
and he said hit me again bruise me again
I’m not getting off of this until I get
it all out I want you to see that that’s
how much God loves you so you don’t have
to live in this that you don’t have to
perpetuate this cycle of fatherless
children that you don’t have to keep
going and rolling you’re sowing your
Wild Oats and leaving that’s a
generational iniquity
that’s a hard posture as God says I took
those bruises for every one of your
iniquities look at the rest of this
verse the chastisement for us to live in
peace was upon his shoulders he carried
the city on his back and by his we are
we were and we are right now I came to
tell you that if you receive the grace
of God for every transgression
transgression and iniquity it’s not
gonna take 20 years it’s not gonna take
15 years it’s not gonna take a look you
are you weren’t healed somebody shot at
me I am healed
come on with Kate say I am healed I
don’t care if you are abused I don’t
care if you’ve been in cycles I don’t
care by the stripes you I feel the
presence of God you heal somebody needs
you to say that over I am healed
I’m not what happened to me I am healed
I am healed I am healed I’m not broken I
don’t have to do what I am healed sit
down I want you to hear me say this
so because God is so good because he’s
so good he made sex and he said it was
good then sex got perverted because it
was so powerful you can mess up our
whole life so what did he do cuz he’s a
good guy he made a container for it to
go in and that container is my third
point is marriage so when you put sex
that destructive force inside of a
container that can handle the power it
becomes something that generates life
for you and for others can I give you an
example this is what water looks like in
a container hundreds of thousands of
gallons of power contained now produces
light and life for an entire city
because it’s in the right container if
you put sex in the container of marriage
it will produce light you are the light
of the world it will produce life
they’ll know you buy your fruit they can
eat all for that and you’ll be able to
change people’s lives but what does
water look like uncontained what does
water look like when we’re having sex
outside of marriage
it looks like destruction it looks like
total devastation it looks like you can
get into areas of our life that we never
thought it could get into and even when
it leaves it leaves residue
and we’ll be dealing with the
ramifications of this for years to come
what I’m asking everybody to do is to do
it God’s Way hold on to your purity and
stay close to God in marriage and even
when you get married to keep God in the
center of your marriage stop bringing
those other women in your head into that
bedroom and defiling it stop bringing
those other men and to get off of those
websites why cuz God took stripes so
that we didn’t have to live with these
transgressions or iniquities some of you
won’t make it another week dealing with
the things and heart and your mind that
you’ve been dealing with for years but
today God’s here to heal you young lady
you’re not your body you’re more than
that God has made you special and
beautiful and these buster’s around here
who just want you to send them pictures
and do all this they don’t want you they
want what you can provide for them but
if I tell you if you would just hold
back and say you’re not worth it you’re
the best thing I never had
I think Beyonce the prophetess Beyonce
said that and I and and what I’m what
I’m telling you is young man that if you
would know your Worth and would be able
to stand as men of God and not be drawn
by your other head I think that God
would be able to use you and be able to
produce in you men of valor men of honor
men of stature men that will stand and
say as for me and my house we are gonna
serve the Lord hear what I’m saying is
god cares that much about you so you
look at it God created a container and
so what are you saying Pastor Mike today
I want everybody to surrender your
sexuality surrendering peso Mike I was
taught this
I believe this I’ve done it like this
but today I’m giving it back to the
Creator he made it he knows what to do
with it and he knows everything about me
so I’m surrendering my sexuality I’m
talking to Mary two people who you’ve
been so jacked up in your sexual
relations some of you and I said earlier
that you need to come together because
sex is not just a physical act
it’s a spiritual act and it is an
emotional act you connect you can never
connect with somebody without getting
off on them some of y’all bedrooms have
been so dead and so dry you just need to
shut up and connect no hear me and
allowed the spit let your spirit and let
your emotion see this is bigger than a
physical act God’s trying to bring the
picture back to earth that he’s created
from the foundation so you gotta
surrender it God my life is not my own
I’m giving you everything today with
what Romans 613 says don’t let any part
of your body become an instrument of
evil look at this to serve sin instead
give yourself completely to God that
sounds like surrender to me for you were
dead but now you have new life so use
your whole body all of it your eyes your
ears your mouth your fingers you’re
texting thumbs use your whole body as an
instrument to do what is right for the
glory of God this is a decision day for
many of you that there are relationships
you’re gonna have to get out of there
are people that you’re just going to
have to delete out of your life not just
out your phone out of every contact you
have you you you may have to take a
season off of Instagram and Facebook and
you may have to go up to your wife and
apologize and come clean you may have to
go up to your husband and say I’ve
I’ve been emotionally cheating on you
with somebody at the office and today
I’ve come clean because God only frees
people in truth