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Jesus was an example in everything to us
he didn’t just say here’s the leadership
principles he lived the leadership
principles and you and I have those
leadership principles in the word of
God welcome back to loving fearlessly
and I actually am super super honored to
be able to dive into these questions
this is my home this is my world and I
want you to feel like we’re just sitting
across from a sofa or a chair and we are
in a conversation and that is such a
privilege to me that you would open up
your heart and invite me in to actually
talk about these things so this one was
kind of a reoccurring theme and I
actually I I actually really am going to
take some time on this question this
woman said to me what advice would you
give to a woman married to an unbeliever
who is the sole spiritual leader of the
home so I think what she’s saying is my
husband’s an unbeliever and that makes
me the sole spiritual leader in the home
what would you say to me and first of
all I know that’s not an easy situation
but I think that sometimes we mistake
what it means to be a leader so I want
to redefine this term leader and I’m
hoping as we redefine the term leader
then you’ll have this Insight on how to
navigate this one of my favorite quotes
uh that defines in my opinion leadership
so well is John Quincy Adams quote he
says if your actions Inspire others to
dream more learn more do more and become
more you are a leader so what does that
just mean it says if your actions
Inspire other people if your actions in
PR them to dream more do more become
more you are a leader so that’s saying
something to me right now the actions
means example if the way you live your
life speaks to your husband that he can
dream more that he can be more that he
can become more that he can do more if
he’s saying that to your children then
you’re an example and I think a lot of
times we feel pressure oh I’m a leader
I’ve got to come up with a plan you live
as an example Jesus was an example in
everything to us he didn’t just say
here’s the leadership principles he live
the leadership principles and you and I
have those leadership principles in the
word of God so I’m going to challenge
you to lead as an example and again none
of these are easy things what do we hear
in 1 Peter chapter 3 I’m going to read
verses 1-6 it says likewise wives be
subject to your own husbands so that
even if some do not obey the word a
unbeliever is not going to obey the word
but even sometimes Believers don’t obey
the word so God is saying I’m going to
making Provisions I’m going to tell you
how to position this so even if your
husband doesn’t believe the word or he
doesn’t obey the word this is what I’m
going to be able to do for you he says
they may be one without a word so you
don’t have to convince them you don’t
have to argue with them one without a
word by the conduct of their wives that
means your example that means your
actions when they see your respectful
and pure conduct not seductive not
looking at other men respecting
respecting the leader you wish they were
instead of making them feel bad or less
than what they are instead of being like
I got to be the spiritual leader cuz
you’re a spiritual loser you have to
understand people actually grow into
what we show them so if you’re
respectful you don’t have to respect his
Doctrine or his theology if he doesn’t
understand but respect him as a husband
respect him as a Son of God so you
respect him and it says pure kind and it
says do not let your adorning be
external now so many people are like
that means I’m naked that means I’m like
but he’s saying merely external external
the braiding of hair the putting on of
gold jewelry or the clothing you wear
he’s saying don’t put your trust in
those things don’t think if I can make
myself look beautiful if I can wear
these kind clothes if I do these things
and I’m attractive he’s saying that’s
good that’s not what’s going to win him
it’s your conduct it’s your pure conduct
it’s your respect and then he goes on to
say but let your adorning be the hidden
person of the heart well and the
Imperial Beauty of a gentle and quiet
Spirit which in God’s sight is very
precious and then he goes on to say I’m
going to give you like help on this for
this is how the holy women who hoped in
God used to Adorn themselves by
submitting to their own husbands as
Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him Lord
and you are her children if you do good
and do not fear anything that is
frightening it’s frightening when we
read to submit to a man that is not
following God that’s frightening Abraham
was like hey go in this Haram hey go in
that Harum say you’re my you’re my
sister that were brother and sister no
that was in but God went into ABC gave
him a nightmare and then the other time
it got exposed so you need to be able to
understand God isn’t putting you in a
bad situation that is just like oh
because your husband’s not saved you
need to get divorced he’s saying I
believe your husband’s going to be won
by your conduct and again I’m not
talking about abusive situations I’m
talking about good men who love their
family but just haven’t found Jesus as
their lord and savior yet so we want to
we want to see that change and sometimes
people get married and get one of them
get saved afterwards so I don’t know
what your situation so it can even be
scary submitting to a Godly husband so I
can only imagine what it’s like to
submit to a ungodly but let’s talk about
what this word submission means because
submission has been so distorted and if
I’m telling you to submit to a Godly or
ungodly I better tell you what
submission means submission means means
sub which means under so under Mission
which means assignment it means that you
have an assignment on your family you
have an assignment on your marriage you
have an assignment given by God the
first time we actually see this
assignment given an expression we see it
in the Book of Genesis when God looks at
Adam and Eve and he tells them be
fruitful multiply order the chaos have
dominion he gives them an assignment so
this is about God empowering you on your
assignment there is something on side of
you that God is saying I believe that
the assignment on you and the assignment
on your husband I can actually get
involved with this so he’s saying when
we Define submission we’re not talking
about doormats we’re not talking about
you not having a voice we’re having you
be wise with your voice and you say what
is the mission sit down with your
husband say I want to love you better
your husband’s not going to be like
that’s a horrible Mission he’s going to
be like I love that mission we already
talked about having those conversations
you can have a mission we want to raise
children who are Godly most husbands
aren’t going to say I want ungodly kids
no they’re going to be okay with Godly
kids obedient then’s not going to say I
want disobedient kids respectful he’s
going to say I want disrespectful kids
you can sit down what do we want to do
with our money how do we want to build
Legacy how do we want to pay for our
children’s College how do we want to do
family right now you can have
conversations without opening up your
Bible that are biblical and godly and
good stewardship and so I just want to
talk to you about this I’m not asking
you to be relational dormant I’m not
asking you to not have an opinion I’m
asking you to be wise with how you share
Genesis 1:28 just in case you want it
says God blessed them and God said to
them be fruitful multiply fill the Earth
subdue it have dominion over the fish of
the sea the birds of the heavens and
every living thing that moves on the
earth so God wants there to be Dominion
Dominion means to exercise Authority on
behalf as a daughter of the most high
God as somebody who knows the truth you
have the right to exercise Spiritual
Authority to pray for your husband pray
over your children to have dominion to
say on the behalf of other people I’m
going to exercise my Spiritual Authority
I’m going to exercise my wisdom my
virtue my strength I’m going to do this
to create an environment for my husband
to flourish and then he’s going to
experience the goodness of God because
he’s got a virtuous capable Godly wife
and my children are going to be
flourished because God says that your
children are actually his children so
that’s awesome you don’t need to worry
about that so much he’s like because of
your sake because you said I’m going to
love God you and your children is what
we have from acts 16:34 shall be saved
so there’s a gatekeeper anointing on
your life and I want to you I know it’s
not easy I know it’s not something I’ve
ever walked in but there’s provision in
the word of God that talks about this
ahead of time Book of Malachi 24 says do
you know why he’s saying he’s talking to
them about mistreating their wives he
said do you know why I’m not answering
your prayers because you’ve mistreated
your wife of your Youth and he said
simple because God was there as a
witness when you spoke your marriage
vows to your Young Bride so even though
you’re like my husband wasn’t saved no
God when we get married it’s a covenant
not just between two people it’s between
two people and their Heavenly Father cuz
he’s the one that makes this one when
you spoke your marriage vows to your
young brother and now you’ve broken
those vows broken the faith bond with
your VA vowed companion your Covenant
wife God not you made marriage so this
is God’s promise his Spirit inhabits
even the smallest details of marriage
and what does he want from your marriage
children of God that’s what so guard the
spirit of your marriage within you and
don’t cheat on your spouse so marriage
isn’t just about reproducing and having
natural children it’s a catalyst to make
us children of God the hard things the
good things the iron sharpening iron it
makes us more of a child of God God
wants your husband and you to have the
fullness of everything he wants your
husband saved even more than you do so
you just do your part and I believe that
God’s going to follow up and do
his
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