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I felt like this was something I
couldn’t close out the year without
addressing what is the
4B movement it originated in the country
of South Korea where the women there
said we are not going to take this
misogyny anymore they’re not going to
marry men they are not going to have
children they are not going to have sex
or date men and they’re going to break
all ties with the patriarchal system it
has been so aggressive in the United
States of America that we’ve even taken
it to another level women saying I’m
going to divorce my husband if he does
not share my same political values how
did we get to this place where women are
so angry at men that they are saying I
am just going to cut you guys off to be
honest with you it sounds like what
they’re saying they really want is
rooted in
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for me to hop on here I want to answer
the question what is the four B movement
and should we be concerned about first
and foremost what is the 4B movement it
originated in the country of South Korea
where the women there said we are not
going to take this misogyny anymore we
are not going to settle for oppression
we are not going to be party to this and
so they adopted this 4B movement and
their movement was they’re not going to
marry men they are are not going to have
children they are not going to have sex
or date men and they’re going to break
all ties with the patriarchal system now
what’s been interesting is it is
actually resulted in a plummeting birth
rate in South Korea well now after the
recent election the women in the United
States were like that’s it that’s it we
are going to adopt the tenants of the 4B
mov movement it has been so aggressive
in the United States of America that
we’ve even taken it to another level uh
this is what I’ve been hearing women
saying I’m going to divorce my husband
if he does not share my same political
values and I guess I’m at this place
where I’m like how did we get to this
place how did we get to this place where
women are so angry at men that they are
saying I am just going to cut you guys
off and will the 4B movement be
beneficial for women first of all I’m
just going to say I felt like this was
something I couldn’t close out the year
without addressing 4B movement now it’s
super interesting that what these women
are saying is they’re saying we’re not
going to date men if we are not
ideologically aligned with them if we do
not sh share the same
virtues if we do not value the same
cultural ethics we are not going to date
men here’s the thing I say yes and amen
you should not be dating men that you do
not share the same commonalities with I
watched a woman in her I would say early
to mid-30s just go off the rails she was
weeping and crying sharing her
frustration that she could no longer go
on dating apps and have hookups because
her potential Partners might have voted
Republican and she was weeping and
crying and I’m like what in the world
okay if you guys are wondering if I’m
telling the truth this is actually a
woman who looks like she’s in her her
mid-30s crying it says she is too afraid
to go on dating apps now because she may
accidentally hook up with a trump
supporter man I’m going to tell you
there’s a lot more reasons why I would
be afraid to go on a dating app and hook
up with a
stranger way more than their political
affiliation I would be concerned that
maybe they’re passing an STD an STD or
they might kill me I am actually happy
that this woman is safer now then we
have women saying all right that’s it
you guys want us to look attractive
we’re shaving our heads we are going to
shave our heads we’re going to make
ourselves unattractive to the men
because we are not going to date you I’m
going to just put Maya side into that I
actually feel like you’d have more power
if you were attractive and then refus to
date than being unattractive and then
refusing to date but that’s just my
opinion they also have taken it to the
place where they’re not giving birth to
males now it’s interesting in South
Korea it was like I’m not going to give
birth to children but in America it is
like okay you guys are taking away our
abortion rights we’re taking away your
sex rights crazy because there have been
more abortions since the overturning of
roie Wade and none of these women lost
their rights when they actually elected
president Trump to be the next president
so I feel like we’re having a incredibly
fearful response to something that is
just crazy then it’s it’s actually we’re
like we’re going to break all ties with
the patriarchal system in the United
States of America and I guess there’s a
part of me that thinks I feel like we’ve
been doing that for a while now I feel
like men are so disempowered they don’t
know how to be fathers they don’t know
how to be husbands they don’t even know
how to be Sons right now and so women
are responding to toxicity in some men
by lab in all men toxic Patriarchs and I
feel like that is incredibly dangerous I
want to acknowledge and I had some women
reaching out to me when I I posted
something kind of tongue and cheek like
listen because of the 4B movement your
sacrifice is going to mean less
pregnancies less unwanted pregnancies
less abortions less spread of STI and
STDs which is something we don’t even
talk about anymore but it is a major
epidemic in our Nation with an estimated
50% of sexually active girls 15 to 24
have an SDI which is just crazy and
should be incredibly alarming so all of
this pushing back and all of these women
I had some say but we’re afraid I don’t
know what you’re afraid of I don’t know
why you’re listening to the lies of the
media that’s making it sound like men
are going to crash down your door and
begin to rape you or sexually grope you
that is not what is going to happen
actually fear is a horrible counselor
and so I want to speak to my sisters out
there that maybe maybe you have gone
through something that has left you
feeling so jaded and so wounded that
you’re like uhuh I’m breaking up with my
boyfriend I’m divorcing my husband I’m
not going to be a mother anymore I’m
going to seek my own power I want to
speak to you and first of all I want to
acknowledge if you have been sexually
abused if you have been divorced and
abandoned if you have suffered abuse
from systemic patriarchy that is
unhealthy I want to apologize to you if
you have suffered abuse if you have been
marginalized by the church I am so sorry
and I even want to say on some levels I
actually
understand but acting like a 2-year-old
throwing a tantrum is not going to move
this forward acting in a way that says
we’re cutting everything off until we
get our way is not going to move this
forward if anything it’s going to
continue to build division I’m just
going to take my own marriage I have a
very very strong husband and if we are
in a disagreement and he brings it to
here and I bring it to here he brings it
to here and we cannot come to a place of
settling and having this constructive
conversation we just end up having a
destructive conversation fear is a
horrible counselor it gets you to
sabotage what you really want and what I
hear women really want even though it to
be honest with you it sounds like what
they’re saying they really want is
rooted in what God actually wants for
you you want to be valued you want to be
respected as a woman you want to feel
safe in a marriage where you are
protected and provided for it sounds
like you want your sexuality wrapped in
a place of commonality and intimacy and
I’m just going to tell you you’re not
going to get that on a dating app you’re
not going to get that on Tinder and even
in all of this angst and anger I believe
that God has a moment for you to pause
to pause and say was I wrapped up in a
culture that was actually disempowering
me as a woman is promiscuity empowering
for a woman is abortion empowering for a
woman I would say no I would say
promiscuity has never been empowering
for women or for men I believe that
promiscuity is one of those things that
fragments your soul that breaks your
heart that you don’t even know how to be
intimate with anyone that you live in a
realm of lust rather than a real realm
of love that you don’t know how to make
meaningful connections and you push and
you find that you’re always looking for
the next the next the next I’ve also
read in some of this that they’re
encouraging women to get more involved
in pornography I will say as women pull
away from men men push into the virtual
and they’re actually saying to the women
go ahead you know what start some
lesbian relationships go ahead go into
pornography it is not healthy for women
or men to have virtual sex hey I am so
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a young girl I watched this sci-fi movie
I love sci-fi it was called Logan’s Run
and it was all about that there was this
civilization living underground after
some kind of atomic bomb had gone off
and they pretty much killed everybody at
30 at 30 they’re like hey you know what
you’re not attractive anymore we’re just
going to we’re just going to kill you
and they’re growing babies in labs and
they would put people into like exchange
systems for
sex and it was so like
empty so empty and I feel like we are
there right now I feel like your deepest
longing is to know somebody and be known
by somebody but when you come to
somebody and you want them to know you
that doesn’t happen when you’re setting
all the terms so I’m going to challenge
you if you’re like uhuh Lisa I’m sorry
I’ve had it with patriarchy I’ve had it
I’m I am cutting off the men I am not
dating I am if I’m not value aligned I’m
not having sex with people I say Well
done I say Well done do all of that and
then go for the anger you know I I
remember there were years where my life
was ENT trapped with anger and when I
sat with that when I brought it to God I
found out that the anger had fear behind
it but even deeper than the fear was the
unbelief I believe the 4B movement is
kind of saying to all of the men out
there we don’t trust you to take care of
us so we’re going to take care of oursel
by punishing you
I believe that God wants to do a new
thing with male and female I believe
that God is saying do not settle do not
settle for the cheap when you long for
the deep do not settle for the temporary
when you long for something lasting
something meaningful you know I I have a
history of promiscuity and I’m just
going to tell you I look back at any of
my Pro promiscuity with regret and it
caused me to have to wrestle to actually
create intimacy because I had fragmented
what it meant to be
intimate now as far as shutting down
your ability to be a mother saying oh
that’s it we’re not going to give you
any children do you know that being a
mother is one of the most powerful
things when I hear my body my choice and
I’m just going to say this and people
don’t like it when I hear my body my
choice you made a choice when you had
sex it’s no longer your body that is a
child that has a completely separate
DNA and when you kill that baby when you
say uhuh I’m not carrying that child
fullterm I’m not giving birth you have
actually made a choice for somebody else
it’s not your body it’s their body and I
believe it’s more power ful to give life
than to take it men are really good at
killing but women were really good in
our deepest core for saving and
protecting life I don’t want to see you
harden yourself because of something
that happened to you in the past I don’t
want to see you harden yourself because
of something that happened to somebody
else the majority of the men I know are
good
men who want to do good the majority of
the women I know are good women who want
to do good yes there are bad but the bad
are the few not the many and you don’t
punish all for the choices of the few at
the end of the day in our nation you
have every right to make your choices
every single day you have every right to
make make your choices I’m going to tell
you the choice to hate the choice to
divide will always be easier than the
choice to love and the choice to work
towards a solution forb may work in
South Korea in a situation I I actually
don’t know that it’s actually caused the
men to actually change their attitude
towards the women I just do know it’s
caused Legacy to be shut down at the end
of the day the thing I’m the most proud
of it’s not the books I’ve written it’s
not the places I’ve spoken at it is
actually my children do not allow an
offense and divisive and fearful
atmosphere to rob you of what you
actually really long to have and that is
let Legacy you you you have no idea
nobody on their deathbed says I wish I
would have been angry longer nobody on
their deathbed says I wish I would have
killed more babies that I carried I wish
I they they actually regret their
choices when they missed an opportunity
to forgive they missed an opportunity to
love they missed an opportunity to
reconcile they look at their life from a
very different Vantage when they’re
looking back and I just don’t want to
see the offense and bitterness poison an
entire generation another thing I want
to say is God said it’s not good for the
man to be alone God created male and
female In His Image the man is not the
problem nor is he our answer and the
woman is not the problem nor is she the
man’s answer God is the answer for both
male and female I and again when I say
that I do believe that God created woman
to be the multiplier for the man but as
women and men have beg to separate more
and more I am seeing men become less men
when I say less men more toxic
more uh despondent nor goals no
provision they can have sex without
consequence they can they can date and
make the girl pay I mean all this kind
of stuff do we really
believe that we are where we want it to
be or could it be that we have trained
the men to treat us wrong because we
were too busy actually acting like men
ourselves and so I want women to
understand that if you’re going to be
part of the 4B movement pause and use
that moment to ask yourself what is
going on with my life and then if you
are a Christian and you think well
they’re all crazy I think we do need to
look a little bit deeper and say why
would this have any kind of movement in
our nation yes there are some that are
just spinning out of control but I have
been in the church long enough to see
that there is misogyny if I say
something if I do something if I wear
something I live under a constant stream
of criticism that my husband never
suffers from so we need to step back and
say are we treating one another well and
what’s the funny thing is the lot of the
criticism I get isn’t from men it’s from
women and so are we really being good to
one another are we really being good as
women are we really building one another
up the Bible talks about a virtuous
woman and I want to close with this idea
of what is a virtuous woman it’s says
that a virtuous woman who is he who can
find her it means you’re a hidden
treasure and someone is looking for you
but a virtuous woman and I love this
word virtuous it isn’t somebody who’s
just locked away hidden because being in
prison does not require
virtue virtuous means that she makes
consistent good choices on a daily basis
ver virtuous actually means to be a
force for good it says a virtuous and
capable woman who is he can find her so
there’s virtuous and there’s capable I
believe that God wants women to be both
capable and virtuous and so I don’t see
this Dynamic played out right now in all
the anger and all the divisiveness and I
just want to speak to you as a mother
I believe that the best days for women
are yet before us I believe as a
grandmother that we have more voice more
value more influence in Government and
every single area than we’ve ever had
let’s not act like bitter wenches
because of something that’s happened in
the past let’s believe for something
better in the future let’s open our
mouths with wisdom and kindness let’s be
the kind of women who build rather than
the women who tear down I believe that
4B is a tear down and I believe virtuous
and capable is a build so these are just
some thoughts I want you to ponder as we
go forward with fighting for female
fighting for female never ever included
fighting men so I want to address kind
of a a practical application you’re
maybe you’re Thanksgiving maybe you’re
Christmas you know maybe maybe this
conversation came up and you did not
know what to say well if somebody’s like
I I support the 4B all men are pigs
listen I’m going to not date I’m not
going to reproduce I’m not having sex
with guys and I’m not marrying guys I’ll
marry a woman but I’m not going to marry
a guy I think we need to rather be
rather than be combative or even mocking
we need to ask okay tell me what your
end goal is on that like what is your
hope for all of those things well I want
to I want to get the men to respect me
what are they going to
respect because at the end of the day we
want to invite people to live higher and
act higher and I have never found by
demeaning I raise people and so I think
that we need to say what what’s really
going on what why are you feeling that’s
an important movement to partner with
and then I would challenge you to
actually speak to that they might say
well I I heard women are being abused I
hear this is happening so into okay is
that always the case or is that an
isolated case are men always pigs or is
that one of those things where that man
behaved like a pig and I would actually
help them logically
deconstruct some of the thought process
I feel like in the whole
craziness that started in 2020 people
lost the art of conversation so you do
not have to have an argument but I am
going to challenge you to have a
conversation and then if you’re a mom
and you’ve got some teenage girls and
you’ve got some college age girls I
would challenge you to bring it up at
the table and say you guys tell me tell
me your thoughts on the 4B movement and
maybe watch a couple videos watch some
of the videos where these girls are like
spinning out of control weeping crying
telling the guys I’m not having sex with
you anymore it’s going to be a desert
you don’t let me have an abortion I’m
not letting you touch me and and just
say what like what are your thoughts on
that don’t tell them what to think ask
them what they think begin to actually
push aside your opinions on it because
you know I know as a mom I feel super
protective about it push aside your
opinions and just say let’s let’s
interact with the rage let’s interact
with the anger and say is this
constructive and then ask them is there
a better way to build and get them to be
part of a solution you know I think
there’s a lot of confusion about what is
true biblical masculinity is that the
man leads on the woman follows and he
she has no opinion and he just like
smashes her down and and she just has to
obey I even remember during the election
hearing don’t agree with this hearing
that husband should tell wives how to
vote guys guys this is that’s not that
is not true biblical masculinity true
biblical masculinity is any Authority
that God gives you as the husband you
use to serve it’s crazy to me that in
the book of Ephesians there is so much
about husband
loving their wives as Christ loves the
church I have never in a time of prayer
felt that Jesus was like this is the
deal Lisa you either submit or I just
leave you behind I have always felt led
but I always have a choice submission
means there is a choice domination does
not give a choice I believe that the
husband’s Authority is for provision
Direction and protection and my husband
wants to hear what is in my heart and at
the end of the day he’s going to listen
to my heart my concerns my fears my
hopes and he factors that in to his
leadership I love how the message says
that the husband is to wash his wife
with the water of the world word and
evoke her beauty listen you can always
tell when a woman is loved well when a
woman is loved well she blossoms when a
woman is oppressed she shrinks but can I
say the same thing happens when a man is
loved well it brings out the best in him
but when he is living into a constant
fault finding nagging
wife his life shuts down we need to love
one another Well biblical femininity is
not a position of Oppression or weakness
if you wonder about that just look at
proverbs 31 it says she considers a
field and buys it it doesn’t say she
considers a field goes to her husband
ask permission to buy it and he gives
her money no it says she considers a
field and she buys it mean she had
stewardship over her choices and over
finances and it says and with the
proceed she plants a Vineyard so she
makes another decision right there just
like any man would make a decision John
and I believe that marriage is two
people committed to bringing the best
out in one another not one person
oppressing and besting the other and I’m
sorry I’m sorry if you’ve gone to a
church that has said that biblical
masculinity is the man is the boss of
the world and the woman is a doormat I’m
sorry if I was at a church like that I’d
be out unless the Holy Spirit was like
no stay and intercede I would be gone
because I would not want my family to
hear those kind of things husbands are
to love their wives the way Christ loves
the church and how he loved the church
was he laid down his life for the church
Christ lays down his life for the church
the husband is to lay down his life for
his wife just as the wife lays down her
physical safety in child birth and so
that is supposed to be a reflective
relationship and again I’m sorry if it’s
gotten skewed wrong that was never God’s
intention and so don’t assume that this
is a normal thing in the church I have
seen more women empowered in healthy
ways in the church Church than I have
seen women empowered outside of the
church because in the outside it’s like
one wins and the other loses I’ve also
heard the argument like oh if if we you
know we’re going to end up being in the
handmaid’s tail we’re going to be living
Margaret Atwood’s World well I’m going
to tell you right now we are not in a
dystopian environment we are not living
like that on any level that is the worst
of the worst and I’m watching as more
more and more women are being appointed
to positions of influence and power and
God is anointing these women to watch
over what women are involved in and the
value added to them I don’t want you to
read things that paint the worst I want
you to read things that prophesy and
predict the best I believe that God is
looking to restore everything that has
been lost and one of the things that was
lost was the harmony between male and
female I’m always going to say male and
female are a power Union they were never
meant to be a power struggle the man is
not the enemy the enemy is a serpent who
actually pits us against one another and
the answer is our heavenly father and
again handmaid’s tail my goodness yeah
that’s a night
but that is not what we are living and
that is not what we are positioned for
I’ve had the incredible privilege of
traveling to so many countries in all of
the world and there is no country that
has it better than the American women
and many of the other women in the
western world and yet we are the biggest
complainers and I think that we need to
use our freedom to lift and set up set
an example for women who are virtuous
and capable for women all over the world
World okay so after the recent election
I’m I’m going to tell you I guess for
had a little bit of movement in the
United States but it did not come on my
radar until this trend spiked out of
control after the recent election so
many women are like I’m going to jump on
this bandwagon but here’s the thing we
are not supposed to be following the
world’s Trends we are created to set
Trends I believe that we are created for
solution not for constant copying of the
world and their Trends I believe that we
are the ones that are supposed to move
some things forward rather than get
entrapped and entangled in offense and
bitterness you know it’s crazy the Bible
says because lawlessness would abound
lawlessness abound the love of many
would grow cold and deception would take
over we need to make sure that we guard
our hearts
guarding your heart is not putting your
heart in lock down with a fence it is
not locking other people out guarding
your heart is making sure it stays
tender and soft let’s set the trends
rather than bow down to our cultural
trends