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today you’re not gonna hear from just
one communicator not two not three in
the words of LeBron James not four zero
and I’m just kidding
but you’re gonna actually hear from
seven different communicators today and
it’s going to be so so amazing because
it’s seven in seven so what that means
is they we have seven communicators that
have seven minutes each Oh actually come
on you gotta just smoke Semyon come on
poor guy he he actually did great we’re
just gonna roast him for the rest of his
life no boy we have seven different
communicators I have seven minutes each
to preach the paint off the walls and
I’m telling you it is going to be so so
good so there’s not gonna be they’re
gonna be doing this they’re gonna fill
in the blank my life changed when I
released blank our word for this year is
released and we know that when we
release the things that we’ve been
holding on to it allows God to release
everything that he has for us and I’m
telling you it has been so powerful all
day I’m so excited so we can we get some
intro music for can now stand up to your
feet we’re gonna do this right I need
y’all’s energy to help me welcome can I
get like an effect on my voice to make
it sound like a little more hello oh
yeah they should not have done that
coming in as the intern of the next-gen
department can you make some noise for
will hockey boy
[Music]
coming up next she leads us every
weekend in worship you know her
your lover it is destiny to aku he leads
our social media teams here a
transformation Church can you give it up
for mr. Chris Harvey she helps lead in
the creative Department and she is my
smokin hot wife can you give it up for
Abby Lee Metcalf he is our amazing kiss
pastor can you give it up to Warren
Mackey she is a part of our executive
team his transformation church can you
make some noise for Miss Ashley Osborne
and last but not least he leads all up
along groups can you give it up for Kyle
[Applause]
you can go ahead and grab a seat man
that echo thing just really makes you
feel great who’s going to keep that on
there for the rest of forever hey listen
it’s gonna be so good every single one
of these messages are powerful I believe
they’re gonna relate to you in a good
way and here’s one I challenge you I
want you to lean in like hell some
people think preaching is just on the
person on the stage it’s really not true
because the power of a seed is not a
matter of just what’s in the seed but
what ground it goes into so that means
I’m not gonna preach because they bout
to preach but I’m kind of gonna preach I
need you to lean in lean into it say
that’s good
say Amen maybe for the first one say
preach it white boy I don’t know what
you’re gonna say but leaning can you
make some noise for coyote see man oh
man I can already feel this like like
Joe said there’s some good ground this
is live at five I know I know y’all
gonna preach back to us but as he said
my name is Kyle and my life changed when
I released expectation see you’re
already better than the other three
don’t but what I love is that as we
think about releasing things as often
things in our life that are bad things
that hold us back things that that keep
us from what God wants but what I think
and what I am proposing to you today is
that when we release expectation it
actually lets God loose in our life and
that is what my wife and I we have been
living that for the last seven months
you see we’re gonna take a trip back to
November of last year and my wife and I
we’d like to get a word for the year
just kind of a direction just like we
have a word for our church when we had a
word for our family and it was an
expectation and I thought okay that’s
good like we’re really great places with
our jobs and with our careers if what
we’re doing is so man if if this is
where we’re at I mean guys about to blow
roof off of this it did what I learned
is that expectation cost us something
because as I said I was in a place that
I loved I was doing ministry in a place
that I legitimately thought I was going
to retire it loved it so much and it
cost me my security I was praying god I
want you to move I expect you to move I
believe that you’re gonna do great
things he said all right give up your
security okay Jesus then is like okay
okay that that’s okay okay so he calls
me to this great place and I’m here at
TCC now and it’s God God I know that
you’re gonna move you’re gonna be
amazing it’s gonna be great I expect you
to move will you give up your some of
your identity will you give up some of
those relationships that don’t serve you
like they used to
you say you expect me to move but do you
really want to give up the stuff
expectation cost and the other thing
that I learned is that expectation it
fuels our vision and so what as I’m
thinking about what God wants to do in
our lives and the things that what we
expect to happen it 100% will happen so
if you’re sitting here today you’re gone
well I expect to kind of be in that
dead-end job that I know God has more
for me or that dead-end guy that I know
God has more for me or that I know that
I really should are we really looking
for that thing that we expect because
we’ll absolutely 100% always find what
we expect the good news is is that in
Ephesians chapter 2 it says that we are
a masterpiece so there’s where we should
always see our expectation is in a
masterpiece but it’s not because of who
we are it says we’re created in Christ
Jesus so it’s not about who we are it’s
about who’s we are
that’s where our expectation comes we
count the cost
we haven’t fueled us because we’re
created in Christ Jesus to do good works
for which he’s prepared in advance for
us to do so if you’re sitting here today
and you’re going man I know I really
shouldn’t do that thing and but I don’t
know if like wait what God says it’s
true and maybe I’ve stepped out before
and I said you know what like I’ll step
out and I’ll do the thing and then it
fails but the thing about it is that our
expectation and God is not determined on
the outcome it’s on our faith and so
when we are setting before God and we
say do you know what I expect you to do
great things
I expect the marriage to be whole I
expect those things to happen it’s not
determined on the outcome it’s our
belief that it will actually happen and
it is just amazing when I think about
how that changes everything because in
my life I thought it was great and it
pales in comparison when I stepped out
on faith and I said you know what I’m
truly going to expect God to do that
immeasurably more thing and I think
about Peter when he and disciples are in
the boat and they’re out at night and
the storms come in if you know the story
you know Jesus just like kind of walks
on water like that’s a normal thing and
and so he comes up and they think it’s a
ghost that they’re freaking out and
they’re like and Peter you know a Peters
kind of rowdy but he still loves God I
relate to that a lot anybody else and he
says if it’s you call out to me and I’ll
come to you
and he’s like alright Peter come on and
then Peter I can only imagine Peter in
the boat he kind of looks at the
disciples like I mean he did say that
right
but then he takes the step and for a
moment he’s living in true expectation
of the only one that can hold him up on
that water and the only reason that he
fell was because he took his eyes off
Jesus so what if a entire Church in the
building an online could count the cost
of expecting God to move take out
anything that is not focused on Jesus
can’t truly believe that what God said
is going to come to pass and keep in
mind it’s in advance those good works in
advance so the thing that you only see
with your eyes closed God’s already
there and so our confidence is in that
our confidence is not in our own ability
we remember it’s who’s we are we count
the cost we know that we have everything
we need if we just keep our focus on
Christ and I believe we got a church
full of people that if we could really
embody this it’s real cliche to said it
will change the world but when we focus
on the only one to ever truly do it
[Applause]
Thank You Charles it’s like two people
in there that really are excited about
what God can do in your life if you
release an expectation if we can have a
church that does that in a people that
does that you can realize what it means
as I did when I released expectation
well my name is Ashley and my life
changed when I released rejection anyone
ever felt rejected in this room before
raise your hand if you’ve been to middle
school okay
there you go so when I was 19 I met a
wonderful boy and he loved Jesus and
grunge music in the 90s any Pearl Jam
fans any Red Hot Chili Peppers my people
alright it’s all I needed to know so we
started dating and it wasn’t very long
before we got engaged to be married and
so we planned this amazing wedding we
found a venue my dad paid the deposit we
had a bridal shower we got this cute
little apartment and he moved in about a
month before and we decorated it it was
such an exciting time in my life we were
in love I thought about two weeks before
the wedding I came out to my car after a
long day of work and he was waiting for
me in the parking lot he didn’t even get
out of his truck to tell me that he
couldn’t marry me because he didn’t love
me so even now 20 years later that
really hurts
and it’s hard to say out loud but I’m
guessing in a room this size that you
have felt some form of deep rejection
like that too maybe for you you have
this marriage that you thought was
really great and stable but your spouse
ended up cheating on you
maybe you just knew you were gonna get
the promotion at work I mean you were
the obvious choice and you work so hard
and yet someone else was chosen maybe
your mother or your father abandon you
they left we’ve all felt rejected at one
point or another and so did Jesus in
fact when he was arrested in the garden
it was his friend Judas who led the
soldiers to him it was his best friend
Peter who denied knowing him three
times and when they arrested him and
they brought him into custody
the crowds of people they brought him
before we’re just chanting violently
against him the book of John chapter 18
tells us that Passover had this
tradition where one criminal got to be
set free and it was the people’s choice
and so Pilate who was going to set this
person free on the people’s behalf is he
here with Jesus and he’s asking the
crowds what did he do I I can’t find any
fault with this man Jesus but the crowds
kept chanting loudly and violently
against him and they were asking that
Barabbas be set free Barabbas he was a
murderer Jesus an innocent man
performing miracles in people’s lives
and yet the crowd just was chanting and
rejecting him over and over again and
there is no sting like the sting of
rejection knowing that I’m not wanted
I’m not welcome I’m not chosen
that’s the sting of rejection that Jesus
felt when he went to the cross and the
thing is rejection will make you do some
crazy things in fact it’ll push us to
our deepest places of insecurity and
unless we are secure in our
relationships and in our identity we
cannot operate in confidence and somehow
Jesus on his way to the cross is acting
in calm confidence in fact the Bible
tells us in isaiah 53:7 that he’s like a
sheep being led to the slaughter that
never even opens his mouth he doesn’t
say a word I mean how does he do that I
know for me like this is so opposite of
what I would do like when I get
frustrated when I feel rejected I throw
my arms around I started to fend myself
I try to self validate I’m gonna let you
know exactly what I think that’s not
Jesus how did he do that why it’s
because he knew he didn’t have to prove
who he was to anyone
the thing is when you when God validates
you nobody here on this earth has to
validate you that means that you don’t
have to prove to anyone that you’re
innocent you don’t have to prove to your
ex-wife that you’re a great father to
your kids you don’t have to prove to
your boss that you’re a hard worker you
don’t have to prove to the kids at
school that you’re cool enough whatever
it is you don’t have to do that because
when God validates you you don’t have to
be validated by a human being yeah I
know for me when this boy broke up with
me I felt like I needed to prove myself
to him I was looking for my validation
in a relationship and my identity and
who I would be as his wife and then God
very quickly convicted me and reminded
me no no you are my child fearfully and
wonderfully made like Kyle reminded us a
masterpiece crafted and prepared for
good works far in advance of this thing
happening to me I know that when I start
to feel rejected if I don’t make sure
that I’m spending time in the one
relationship my relationship with Jesus
the one person who can validate me if
I’m not spending time with him I will
very quickly spiral at the hint of
rejection here’s my first point if you
don’t hear anything today I hear this
rejection is the path to a better life
it really is and I know this because I’m
married to an amazing man
Kenny empowers me that means he speaks
life into me he helps me believe that I
can do anything that God is calling me
to do I have two beautiful children they
keep me laughing they’re full of life
all things I wouldn’t have had otherwise
without the rejection and it’s a better
life
the second thing you need to know is
that the people who reject you are part
of that better plan
so for Jesus it was Judas Peter and the
crowds if the crowds had chosen Jesus
instead of rejecting him we would never
have the cross we’d never been living an
abundant life full of freedom today and
so listen if you are in the middle of
rejection you can release that because
it is a catalyst to a better life right
hello everybody my name is Warren and my
life changed when I released my fear
I’ve got three points I know you guys
are gonna love these points you’ll write
them down you’ll remember them for the
rest of your natural life
but I want to point to you a scripture
that I really really love and it’s in
Psalm chapter 34 verse 4 they’re gonna
throw it up on the screen I prayed to
the Lord and he answered me he freed me
from all my fears you’re looking at
somebody that is totally free from fear
I hate standing up here talking to
people but I can do it in confidence
knowing that I’m not up here alone God
is with me he’s freed me from fear and
insecurity and anxiety and things that
have bottled me up and kept me from
moving forward and all that God has for
me and I can do it in confidence looking
right at you in the face I used to
couldn’t do that has anybody ever
experienced just fear being afraid lift
your hand up real quick look around
there are a bunch of people that have
dealt with that same thing it’s almost
like in my case a screaming and a
yelling in my ear and I’m gonna tell you
kind of what I hear
when this fear tries to attack me
you’re not gonna amount to anything your
best years or they’re back there you
you’ve done whatever you’re gonna do
you’ve you’ve already done it it’s it’s
done you’re not gonna do anything else
your wife is so sweet
so kind so loving everybody loves her
why is she with you why does she even
want to be around you you’re not gonna
live very long you’re there’s something
gonna happen to you there’s some
sickness or disease that’s gonna grab
grab you you’re not gonna make it your
kids they they don’t understand you they
just want what you can give them and it
yells screams right here in my hair when
I was a kid I had a bully anybody have a
bully that’s that’s tormented their life
well mine his name was Willie and even
when I say the name Willie I just think
oh I’m ready to fight Willie and man I’m
telling you Willie
his job he had a mission in life beat me
up take my stuff
beat me up take my stuff it was his
mantra it was the thing he did he lived
for this it was something that he
enjoyed he loved beating me up and
taking anything I had and leaving me for
dead Willie and he lives right across
the street from us so I couldn’t get
away couldn’t run away if 100 degrees
outside all the kids are outside playing
water guns having fun my brother and I
were
the house mom say hey don’t you go
outside we slip in the garage wouldn’t
even raise the garage door open we’re
just being a garage it’s hot sweating
throwing a ball up against the garage
door she come down what are y’all doing
oh it’s it’s fine mom we’re having fun
we’re in the garage you know I mean we
did not want to go outside and meet up
with Willy one day I just you ever wake
up and just say I’m not I’m not doing
this anymore I can’t take it anymore I
can’t take it anymore
I am NOT going in this garage anymore
I’ve got to come outside I’ve got to
release this thing and I’ve got to face
up with this guy and I’m telling you it
was almost like he was the 1990s version
of Mike Tyson and I was everyone that
Mike Tyson beat up and on the first
round knockout I mean I was just getting
pounded every time with this dude point
number one face your fear you got to
face your fear he grabbed me at the
wrong day and I balled up my fist and I
said okay you may beat the living
daylights out of me I might die I’ll
probably cry this is gonna be over for
me but I swung around here’s a quote
that you guys are gonna really love fear
has a large shadow but he himself is
small I swung out and I missed him I
totally missed the guy I wish I could
tell you blow by blow this beatdown that
I gave him but I truly do not remember
what happened I saw him running I was
surprised he was running I started
chasing after him which also surprised
me
and I’m chasing them all around the
neighborhood and all up and down the
street cussing and screaming and
hollering and yelling I’m like I’m gonna
get you blankety blankety blank look I
don’t condone that I don’t condone
profanity
please don’t wile out on people that’s
not what I’m saying to do don’t do that
point number two starve your fear when
I’m chasing him walking here is old man
you two messed up now if he turns around
you are done if he turns around this is
it for you if he turns around and swings
out can you handle this hit should you
just stayed in bed skip this whole day
just start all over yeah it was bad it’s
bad but you got a star of that fear
you’ve got to face it you better say to
yourself I can do this I’m the
righteousness of God in Christ Jesus
I’m the head and not the tail I’m above
only and not beneath I can do this my
last point replace your fear with God’s
Word you got to replace it with God’s
Word open up the Bible find out what the
Word of God says about you and replace
those fears that you’re constantly
hearing in your mind
replace it with God’s Word I’m not
telling you and I’m not judging you
hey I’ve been afraid obviously you can
see that I’ve had a very traumatic
experience with Willie and it still
bothers me today it doesn’t really but
I’m telling you I’m not questioning that
you’ve had a fear what I want to ask you
is this one thing if God hasn’t given
you a spirit of fear who’s the one that
gave it to you who are you taking the
fear from
when you come to the realization of
who’s giving you the fear just like I
did your life and my life has changed
because we’ve released our fear my name
is Abbie Metcalf and thank you I wanted
to get up here in front of you today and
tell you that my life changed when I
released my anxiety and we can all cheer
and yeah it’s awesome but as I started
thinking about it and thinking about
what I wanted to say I realized that a
more true statement would be that my
life is changing as I’m learning to
release my anxiety if I’m honest anxiety
is sometimes a daily battle for me and
my anxiety started when I was very young
anybody growing up in Oklahoma were you
afraid of tornadoes anybody yes okay two
people all of you guys are really brave
or you’re lying so yeah I was petrified
of tornadoes growing up every time would
rain storm out freak out I was also
really afraid of this dog with the green
tongue I made it up I swear I saw it on
the news though literally my mom
reminded me after service like two
services ago she was like I had to tell
you two years ago that that wasn’t real
I like really thought this bug was real
and who’s gonna come into my window and
like eat me at night I don’t know so
even through middle school in high
school I still was fighting this anxiety
this depression sometimes as well too
and I thought that I kind of conquered
it got it all like done with and then I
had my lovely firstborn son Arlo Phoenix
Metcalf
and he is the most precious little boy
in the whole entire world and people
tell you when you are about to have a
kid they tell you like you’re going to
experience so much love more love than
you could ever imagine it’s just this
overwhelming amount of love and there
are a hundred percent true but what they
don’t often tell you is that that love
is a lot of times partnered with a lot
of anxiety and worry and for me this all
kind of came to a peak when Arlo was two
weeks old I was having a really good mom
day moms you know what I’m talking about
dishes are done house is clean baby’s
asleep like you’ve like need a trophy or
something so I was putting up some
dishes Arlo was taking a nap and I get a
phone call and I answered it they said
is this a mother of arlo phoenix Metcalf
I said yes it is very proudly I thought
they were just gonna tell me it’s cute
or something I don’t know
they say this is your doctor’s office
and we just got a call from the hospital
and Arlo is positive for cystic fibrosis
I asked okay what is cystic fibrosis the
nurse told me that she didn’t know and
somebody could call me back in 48 hours
with more information so the next 48
hours were excruciating ly awful I
couldn’t even go like more than 20
minutes without crying so much worry so
much anxiety I googled what is cystic
fibrosis and cystic fibrosis is a
disease the life expectancy is 25 to 30
years it has to do with lung buildup of
mucus in the lungs and I was just
panicking like I was watching I remember
just watching over our low as he would
sleep and I don’t think I even slept a
wink just watching him sleep making sure
that he was breathing okay and just
panicking think about all these
scenarios or what his life was going to
be like and if I was going to have to
live for the death of my son
and we get a call 48 hours later to hear
someone say the test was wrong
and your son does not have cystic
fibrosis which yes that was my first
reaction was yay my second reaction was
you should be fired like I was so pissed
if I’m honest I was so upset and I wish
that I could stand here today and tell
you that that was the end of my anxiety
with all of that but it is not literally
this morning Arlo has a runny nose and
is coughing and a voice in my head came
up to me and whispered in my ear are you
sure he doesn’t have it are you sure he
doesn’t have cystic fibrosis are you
sure he’s not gonna pass away at 25
years old and it’s really discouraging
because I thought that I was over
anxiety I thought that I conquered it
when I faced the tornado stuff and now
I’m not afraid of those anymore
but Here I am again and one thing one of
the only things that gives me hope in
this is a story of David you guys know
David he is famous for slaying Goliath
he got the stone put in a slingshot pop
glass and head kills him he later
becomes King yay we love David okay well
we often don’t hear about with David his
later on in second Samuel the Bible goes
on to say that David actually fought for
more Giants in his life they were from
the Philistine army same as Goliath and
they were believed to be the brothers of
Goliath so basically he pissed off guys
family and they all came for him I think
the most beautiful thing in this story
is that when David was going to prepare
to fight Goliath God told him to pick up
five smooth stones he used one for
Goliath but he had four more in his tool
belt
that he was able to use in those later
scenarios so for you today for me it’s
anxiety for you it might be lest it
might be addiction it might be anger
when it comes back up into your life
please don’t feel defeated because
that’s exactly what the enemy wants he
wants us to just crumble but remember
the last time you fought it and remember
that you were victorious even in this
song that we were just singing earlier
says that he’s already won all we need
to do is pick up our stuff and fight
when I think about all of this I really
think about that the freedom in all of
this is not in the finish the freedom is
in the fight and it’s when we decide to
continually fight Romans 8:37 says that
we are more than conquerors because
Christ Jesus is on our side so whatever
it is that you’re facing the next time
it comes up instead of crumbling or
feeling bad or beating yourself up about
it
please just remember that we are more
than conquerors and the same God who
helped you fight it last time we’ll help
you fight it this time
what’s going on guys my name is Chris
and today I want to share how my life
changed when I release my ambition now
how many of us in here are just
passionate about something whether he
sports your family have something you’re
passionate about
okay cool cool cool so that the nature
of who Chris Harvey is is a huge
introvert what do you believe it or not
I’m a huge introvert I love you but I’m
gonna talk to y’all time I’m saying I
love you um by the past couple years the
extrovert didn’t see it begin to grow
out I used to work for organization
called young life and through that I got
opportunities and speaking schools and
stuff like that
the one person young like love you and
through that not the extrovert
tendencies beginning to develop making
the build and God has given me different
cool opportunities especially over the
past 2018 even I got to do 77 last year
um but I just
July a lot of requests beginning to stop
and I’ll be gonna get a little irritable
and I thought I thought that God needed
my help
I thought he’s busy working on your life
so he needed my help and so I decided to
help God finding me another opportunity
speaks I thought you needed my help so I
went through the almighty source we all
know Google and I somehow found out all
the contact information for all of
Oklahoma all of Texas and all of
Arkansas school principals and I sent
the most massive email the most massive
a mess with thousands of principals say
hey my name is Chris Harvey love to come
speak call me beat me you’ve gotta reach
me and I sent the most massive email and
it’s great thousands of people now
thousands and one person responded and
she didn’t respond when she asked me how
much I would charge
I thought 20,000 was enough not this is
my first time I get paid to speak I
thought that was it no okay but the
problem wasn’t in the opportunities the
problem wasn’t in schools the province
was my heart for impact left when the
opportunities income but I love the
Bible y’all I love the Bible because
it’s full of stories or people who do
dumb stuff just like me
in fact there was two people called you
name Johnny James to Jesus boys they
thought they came up with the greatest
idea key words they thought so they’re
planning they comin seeing Jesus and I
are you gonna tell them John because
Jesus loves you a little more okay so
hey Jesus
how you doing okay we had this idea
you’re King you know saying guys are
throwing out there we noticed there was
two extra seats up there and we just
thought that uh is there empty and
there’s two of us that we just sitting
next to you you know say I’ll let you
process that but we just thought it we
want to give to you I love Jesus
response because he’s so gangster Jesus
said do you know what you’re asking do
you know because I didn’t come to be sir
I came to serve so if you’re asking me
to sit next to me you’re not you’re not
asking to be praised you’re asking sir
but what are you order is really you
asking I love it because Jesus is ask
the question of why why do you want to
sit next to me
why do you post everything on social
media it’s a really because you want to
impact the the influence I’ve given you
or you really just want to be seen
you’re perfect so I’m just talking about
myself today
well why do you why’d you buy the boat
it’s really because you want to create a
different experience for your family
that you didn’t have growing up what you
really want to impress your co-workers
what watch you buy the boat why don’t
you buy the shoes why do you go the
extra mile with people is it really
because you have a heart for people as
you want people to validate you the
question is why because there’s a fine
line between what you’re motivated by
between selfish ambition and God there’s
a line when you’re motivated by self is
their mission you always comparing
yourself but when you’re motivated by
God you celebrate what God is doing
other people when you’re when you’re
motivated by selfish ambition you’re
always striving for exposure but when
you’re motivated by God you go deep in
what he’s called you to do allow him to
give you the exposure
there’s a difference what are you
motivated by what what is on what’s this
on the heart of your thought because
what I’ve learned is your calls that can
only go as far as your character carries
it and many of us are are holding the
problem is he planned for us because
they’re all in a vision what we think
needs to happen there’s a difference but
I found something special in the Bible I
want to read to you today I think I
think it will help us is that
Philippians chapter 2 verses 3 through 4
it says do all things out of selfish
ambition no I think that’s how we read
the Bible oh oh no ok do nothing out of
selfish ambition or vain conceit rather
in humility value others above yourself
I think we struggle in that part but not
looking to your own interests but to
each of you to the interests of others
this is the this is the blueprint what
God has called it given us there’s
something on it it’s out of our heart
though each and every one of us have our
own little selfish ambition but God does
give us three different things I want to
show you today identify it I can’t hear
what you act like doesn’t exist identify
it alright god this is this is the area
of my life this is the area of my job my
family whatever is identified in second
I got I gotta give it to you in my
prayer with you and my devotion and my
when I fast I gotta identify the area of
my life and God I need you to come stand
in this situation 33
serve serve is the closest thing we can
come to humility and becoming like Jesus
but many of us avoid it but if you’re
too big to serve too small to lead
but this is my life this is what God is
doing in me and this is as I change as I
release this thing causes truly give me
freedom my questions for you is we do
the same my life is changing as I
release my ambition well my name is
destiny and my life changed as I
released unforgiveness now several
several years ago when I was about 13
years old
before I was tricked into becoming an
adult let you guys know right now that
is a trick don’t fall for it okay before
all of that happened I had the best
thing in the world that was no bills
it was the magical fairy Lance can
anyone relate no bills can we go back to
no bill man fantastic a disposable
income it was great I had that when I
was a teenager because my very first job
was babysitting and I had this family
that I used to babysit for every single
weekend they had three kids and the dad
was actually me and my sister and my
mom’s hairstylist so every weekend I
would babysit their three kids on
Saturday for like 10 to 12 hours and
they would pay me the whopping sum of
$20 $20 every week it was amazing I mean
I feel like much to you but for me that
was like some lip gloss that was really
popping that was some food my mom
wouldn’t let us keep in the house that
was some really ugly clothes from
forever21 like it was some things I
would just never see again it was really
great I thought I was like living the
good life okay but one day when he came
to pick up his kids he said hey I want
to make you a deal I want to offer you a
trade instead of giving you this little
$20 every week I want to offer to do
your hair for free every weekend oh
that’s amazing that’s like an 80 $100
value trade-off here so you guys know
obviously which one I chose the $20 I
chose the $20 let me tell you why I
chose the $20 I chose the 20 because I
had never paid to get my hair done
before I’ve never had to shell out that
$80 my parents paid for that every week
I had no
idea what value what is in making that
trade I think that a lot of us treat
forgiveness that way we have no idea
what it really costs so we treat it like
it’s not worth it it’s not me it’s not
worth me letting go of this thing for me
and it was trading about $20 for $80 in
services for you maybe it’s choosing to
play the victim instead of getting your
piece back for you maybe it’s maybe it’s
holding on to what your dad did 20 years
ago when God is trying to break
generational curses in your family I
don’t know what that thing is for you I
don’t know what that thing is for you
but today I want to examine what it says
in the word about forgiveness there’s a
story that is so powerful that tells us
how invaluable our forgiveness is it’s
in Genesis 32 and it’s the story of
Jacob and Esau they were brothers and
Esau was the older brother and there was
a special thing back then that the
oldest child the oldest brother the
oldest man would actually get a
birthright blessing from the father
before he passed it would be a special
inheritance and um Esau he actually
ended up losing that inheritance to his
brother his brother tricked his dad into
giving it to him instead
Jacob runs away to a faraway land he
gets married he tricked somebody else
and he has to come back home and face
Esau so he tries to gather all these
things it’s gold in this cattle and
money and all these things trying to
make up for what he did to his brother
so we’re gonna pick up in Genesis 33 and
verse 1 so says so Jacob looked up and
saw Esau coming with his four hundred
men he divided the children between Leah
and Rachel and two maid servants he put
the maid servants out in front Lee and
her children next Rachel and Joseph last
he led the way and as he approached his
brother he bowed seven times honoring
his brother but Esau ran up and embraced
him he held him tight and kissed him and
they both went that is such an amazing
example of forgiveness how invaluable
our forgiveness is I mean if you look at
it it really doesn’t make sense to us
and our human minds like how can you do
that literally Jacobs stole from his
brother he stole his inheritance he
stole his blessing from his brother and
he did it at the absolute worst time
possible as his father was dying when
his father died he didn’t come back and
check on things he didn’t make sure
everything was good back at home he left
but he saw freely gave him forgiveness I
think the reason Esau did that is
because he knew that that was something
that neither one of them could really
afford neither one of them can really
afford to have unforgiveness in their
lives and on their hearts I know for me
maybe I think that Esau really did that
because Esau had to spend some time
learning to forgive himself because if
you don’t know earlier on in that story
away a few chapters back Esau actually
traded his birthright to Jacob he acted
all surprised in shock when Jacob stole
it from him but he traded it a long time
ago for a bowl of stew and I think some
time went by and Esau had to face that
in his life and forgive himself first
for what he allowed to happen to him and
I can really really relate to that
because I know for me I have a lot of
trouble forgiving myself sometimes and
for me that came to a head just a few
years ago I was rushing to church one
day and I lost control of my car and I
had a car accident and then literally
every single time I got in the car after
that if anything happened whether it was
my fault or not I would just literally
go into shock and panic I have anxiety
attacks I couldn’t breathe and I just
felt oh my gosh I messed up again this
is gonna happen to me again but I
realized the cycle went even before that
so when I was a year out of high school
and I said I’m finally gonna go to
college and I applied for this school I
wanted and I didn’t get in I thought man
you’re you’re not good enough again I
had to forgive myself for that for
speaking that over my life or even
before that when I first graduated high
school and I wasted an entire year and
didn’t go to school and just kind of sat
around and did nothing and messed up the
plan God had for my life I had to
forgive myself for that I had to learn
to forgive myself when my sister passed
away from cancer and I wish I could say
I had to learn to forgive myself because
I really just thought I could have done
more if only I had been there only but
it was really because I hated her until
the very day she died I had so much
unforgiveness and hate in my heart they
had to learn to bring to God to ask for
forgiveness what I learned through all
of that is that my ability to forgive
myself
my ability to forgive others was
directly tied to my ability to forgive
myself I wasn’t able to give forgiveness
to anybody else until I first brought to
God please God show me how you forgiving
me and how I can turn that back around
and forgive myself and maybe for you
your thinking but I have the right to
hold on to whatever I’m holding on to I
have the right to hold on to the person
that hurt me I have the right because
they should have been there for me they
should have done these things for me we
can think that were justified in that
but if there was anyone else anyone else
that had the right to say I don’t want
to give forgiveness it was Jesus it was
Jesus but instead of choosing to hold
offenses against us instead of choosing
to condemn us he stood on the cross in
his very final breath as he held his
arms outstretched and said Father
forgive them for they know not what they
do and I don’t think he said that
because he thought it was a nice phrase
I think he said that because he knew
2,000 years later people sitting here so
I’ll get forgiveness freely I’d
encourage you today sitcom about who it
is you may need to forgive it may be a
person it may be yourself whoever it is
seek Him and asked him to show you again
the value in his forgiveness and I
promise you it’ll change your life
because my life is changing as I release
unforgiveness
whoo wow it’s good guys my name is will
and I’m honored to be up here in preach
alongside these guys they are amazing I
get to talk to you today though about
how my life changed when I released my
will and there’s many definitions of
will but one of them is a determination
despite any difficulties or opposition
so essentially you have this this plan
something you want to achieve and you’re
gonna go out and get it at all costs
we’ve all had something like that right
I mean if we’re thinking I don’t know
what it is for you maybe it was a job
you eyeballed this job that’s promotion
and that’s some some good benefits and
you’re like I’m gonna do everything I
can to get that job maybe it’s you want
to buy a house you’re done renting you
want more square footage and you’re like
I’m gonna this is the year we’re gonna
buy the house and you’re gonna go out
and get get it no matter what
maybe for some it might be a
relationship 2020 is the year that we
are gonna get engaged and married in the
name of Jesus you know I don’t know what
it is and there’s nothing wrong with
those things there’s nothing wrong with
that but what if it doesn’t line up with
God’s will for your life what if that
house that you want to buy so badly is
actually going to set you back
financially and God’s trying to protect
you from what if that that promotion it
looks good and you want it but what if
God is like if you just wait I actually
have something that’s gonna pay you even
more and give you better benefits more
vacation time and maybe that
relationship it’s not bad to want that
but what if God is like you know what
I’m actually doing something in your
spouse’s heart right now they need to
release something to me and they have it
yet but sometimes we can force it
because we want it our way or we’ll be
done we can miss out on God’s will for
us and can I just tell you that his his
will his plan over our lives is perfect
Jeremiah 29:11 it says it the best for
these are the plans I have for you
declare
the Lord plans to prosper you not to
harm you plans to bring you hope in a
future and this is guys this is not the
Lord being like I got something good for
you in the pipeline like just wait and
see the Lord is declaring this over you
and I need you to believe it I don’t
care if you’ve heard the scripture 100
times or the first time today the Lord
is declaring this I have plans for you
but we can miss it when we want to make
it our way our will be done what happens
we win that drive that determination
that I’m gonna go get it no matter the
difficulty no matter the opposition
lines up with God’s will Luke 22:42
paints a beautiful picture of what that
looks like Jesus is about to be
crucified and he is on his knees crying
out to the father father please if
there’s any other way if you’re willing
take this cup from me but then he says
words that will change the course of
history he says yet not my will but your
will be done that statement Jesus
releasing his will and submitting to
God’s changed my life I’ve changed many
lives in here and I believe that it’s
going to change even more lives tonight
here online I believe it’s going to
change your life but it started with
that decision of Jesus releasing his
will and submitting to God’s and some of
you I just I can see it you’re not go
pump the brakes white boy with the
tattoos like I’m not Jesus you know and
I’m not planning on being crucified
tomorrow okay I get that Oh so I want to
tell you maybe it’s just another story
to make it a little bit more real a
little bit more tangible for you okay
it’s about a guy I know and I did ask
his permission to share his story but he
started out doing drugs back when he was
like 13 and it started out normal party
scene but then it turned into something
more and before he knew it he was
drinking and using drugs every single
of his life trying to numb something I
think he forgot what he was trying to
numb he struggled with pornography
he lied to people he cared about he
stole from people he cared about he was
anxious all the time Scott’s his anxiety
crippled him and he couldn’t even tell
you what he was anxious about his
depression was so bad that he attempted
to take his life on multiple occasions
when he was 18 he made a stupid decision
and he got a girl pregnant and if you
sat down with him he knew that he was
young and dumb but there was this part
of him that was excited to be a dad
as the months went on he started you
know hey what’s the the sex gonna be is
it a boy is it a girl what’s the name
gonna be what are they gonna sound like
what are they gonna laugh like he
started getting that excitement
unfortunately that girl she didn’t share
the same excitement and without talking
to him she decided not to keep the baby
in church can I just tell you that this
broke the already broken man his drug
and alcohol you spiraled out of control
he was using so much with just the hopes
that he would not wake up he finally was
arrested he was convicted of two
felonies for selling drugs and he wound
up in the Shu
and if you don’t know what that is it’s
the special hold unit it’s basically the
basement of the jail where they put
people that they don’t want to deal with
because this guy’s coming off of ten
years of drugs and alcohol abuse but
when he was in there about a couple
weeks in their sentence he felt
something he felt the presence of God in
there with him
and he started crying he didn’t know I
was crying but he just knew that God was
in there and he felt God speak to him
and say hey are you done yet are you
done living your way because I have
something better for you and this young
man he just dropped to his knees and he
put up his hands sobbing and he said
words that would change his life forever
he said yeah I am done I’m tired of
feeling this way God your will be done
not mine anymore
Church I will never forget this moment
because this is my life this is my story
I was the one that was anxious I was the
one that was depressed I was the one
that had no hope and felt empty I was
the one that tried to take my life I was
the one that lost that baby but I got
down on my knees and I surrender to God
and everything changed I was the
happiest I’ve ever been and I was in a
jail cell that is the power of God and
now I get to tell you from a stage a
transformation Church in Tulsa Oklahoma
how good god is and that if you’re
thinking he doesn’t do miracles still he
does because it does not make sense I’m
standing up here but I am and I stand
free I stand redeemed I am a child of
God and He has a plan for me he has a
plan for you
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but Church it starts here though it
starts here there’s somebody holding on
they’re resisting stop there’s no
progress and resistance the solution is
surrender Church what if we woke up
every morning every single one of us
every single person watching and the
first thing we did was like okay God
your will be done not mine imagine what
you could do my life changed
transformation Church can you give it
for us seven of our communicators today
oh come on you can do better than that
hey guys thanks for watching today’s
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