Priscilla is our special guest for the next two weeks to talk about the “Resolution for Women”series and package following up on the movie Courageous.
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are you happy with you you’ve heard true
confessions on this program from people
who spent years sometimes wishing or
pretending they were someone else if
that’s you perhaps today you will
resolve to be authentically me and say I
will accept and celebrate my uniqueness
and will esteem and encourage the
distinctions I admire in others well you
may not be ready to embrace that
wholeheartedly
but help is on the way Priscilla Shire
is leading this affirmation crusade I
love that that’s just part of the
resolution revolution Priscilla yes very
excited about this one too you are in a
firmer well I like to affirm people and
prayerfully we can all a sisters in
Christ begin to affirm others you know
some of the greatest blessing that we
can give to another sister in Christ is
to wholeheartedly compliment her or
affirm her when there’s something we see
in her that we admire instead of being
jealous about it and wanting it and
talking about her behind her back
because we wish we had what she had we
can be so settled and confident in who
we are in the Lord not conceited not
arrogant just settled and who God made
us to be strengths and accepting the
weaknesses and go ahead and complement
somebody else for who it is God made
them to be you make the point that it
diffuses competition it does he’s
compassion with women absolutely it
happens all the time doesn’t it and if
we just go ahead and release that woman
to be who she is and celebrate who she
is it releases all of us to go ahead and
have friendships that we can really
truly enjoy now can we do that
meaningfully if we’re not comfortable in
our own skin it’s hard and exhibit
ourselves yes it’s harder it’s a lot
harder to do that and let me tell you I
have gone through many years where I
have thought I would be so much better
off if I could just do this like that
person does this or look that like this
person looks or act like this person
acts and you know on the stage of life
if we’re all so busy trying to play
somebody else then who in the world is
going to play you there is a role for
you to play and if you never leave ITA
you are the only person that can play it
that’s why God gave you and me the
skills the talents the deficiencies the
weaknesses the strengths that he’s given
us he’s done that on purpose because
there’s a role that can only be filled
by what we have to offer so
we’re so busy trying to do somebody
else’s job that we miss out on our own
then we have left a great gap on the
stage of our lives so much is lost and
so much misery stirred up when you live
according to the expectations of others
yeah when you’re striving to please or
fit in or be like mm-hmm that’s uh
that’s more than a full-time job it’s
exhausting it is completely exhausting
because you’ll never leave live up to
even your own standard you will never
live up and have you noticed our society
is constantly changing what the standard
of success or beauty is it’s constantly
changing so we have to really go back to
the Word of God and say Lord what is it
that you’ve created me to be as a female
and then Lord would you give me guidance
and wisdom as to the uniqueness you’ve
planted in me the giftings that you have
given me and then helping to zero in on
those to hone those to dedicate them to
you and then to get busy using them
instead of spending all my time and
energy trying to gain what somebody else
has Priscilla this is the closest I
could come to a great illustration your
story not the tassel I wonder if it was
a bigger tassel or it was colorful
bigger sille a little bit bigger and
colorful but this is a great this is a
great example of one it’s one of those
little tassels that hangs you know maybe
on a doorknob or somewhere just for
decoration and I had gotten one of them
we were renovating some office space and
the lady that was over the huge
renovation she also loves decor just
like I do and she’d run into this little
bargain store she ran across a big
tassel it kind of hung down a couple
more inches in this one really full it
was blue and white and just it had
sparkles on I mean anything with some
bullying honey I love
so it was sparkles everywhere and it was
gorgeous and she bought it for this one
little space and she said this would be
gorgeous in here and she was right it
would be gorgeous in there but I felt so
uncomfortable about buying this five
dollar and 99 cent tassel as the first
piece of decor in the room because I
felt like now everything else I buy the
rug the sofa the wall art the major
stuff is all going to be have to be
based on this teeny-tiny tassel that’s
hanging on a doorknob somewhere and I
thought how unbalanced is that for me to
start with something so insignificant
before I plant down the things that are
seminal and foundational and that’s
exactly what we do with our self-image
we
let our entire self-image revolve around
something that is not nearly as
important as something else should be so
a comment than somebody else made about
us or decision we made in the past maybe
some guilt we’re carrying around from
from decisions we made of relationships
that we’re in we let that determine the
kind of woman we are and will become and
this is not seminal this is not
important what the Word of God says
about you who he created you to be
that’s the important stuff that we
should hang our hat on when it comes to
our identity in Christ gonna think about
that in your next decorating mission at
home aren’t you don’t major on the
minors that’s right
okay and they certainly can feel major I
love this now Jerry is here in the
studio are you wonderful six foot three
six foot three little man yes yeah
husband he’s apparently fascinated with
what we’re doing right now how much
women just love talking he yes he
doesn’t get while we talk so much and he
certainly didn’t get why we how we can
get away with some of the compliments we
get away with he would never walk up to
a man and say you know what your
shoulders look great in that in that
shirt that’s just something he wouldn’t
ever say that in fact he said to me if
you ever catch a man complimenting me
like that you need to make sure that
that man stays very far away from me
because it’s not the kind of friend I
might like to have and so he’s just said
man y’all have a freedom to compliment
each other in the way in a way that men
never never do and I thought about that
as he said it it was in the middle of me
writing this project that he actually
said that and I thought what a great
gift that is that women have the
opportunity to do something men can
never get away with we can encourage
another woman not only about something
superficial is nothing wrong with that
but not only about something superficial
about what she has on but about who she
is if I can create building one another
yes if I can really build her up there
is a purity attached to my compliment as
another woman that it there might not be
that same simplicity in a compliment
that comes from a guy to a woman you
don’t know if there are strings attached
if there’s possibly some underlying
mission that he’s got behind that
compliment but generally speaking from
one woman to another if I genuinely
compliment you about something it could
just carry the simplicity of a pure
compliment that will encourage you and
build you up in who you are as a female
you know I was in a tea room in Williams
Lake British Columbia
and I asked could I take a photo of the
plaque above your door this is what it
said give me the ability to see good
things in unexpected places and talents
in unexpected people and give me the
grace to tell them so yeah isn’t that
beautiful I think men could do that too
yes I think they could I think they
could and I think they should
I think they should but I wanted to
encourage in this book women to do it
because often times for one reason or
another instead of telling another
sister what we think about her we’re
telling somebody else in a way that
sometimes either can be complimentary
but sometimes it’s not sometimes it
holds a little bit of a negative tinge
because really we wish we had what that
woman had whether it’s a personality
trait or the jacket that she just bought
at the department store that we wish we
had found so sometimes instead of just
complimenting her and encouraging her we
do not give her we don’t have the grace
as you put it I love that from that
quote god give me the grace cuz it
really is God empowering you to look
beyond what you wish you had and go
ahead and celebrate what somebody else
has and you know what diffuses all of
the the potential trouble in that I mean
maybe there’s some false flattery and
dishonesty but when we genuinely share
our lives our needs with one another and
pray for one another women are really
great at that absolutely and the only
way that we’ll be able to be genuine in
this is if we really are celebrating our
authentic selves and you know what
sometimes it’s gonna take you a while to
get back to who you really are what
you’ve spent so much time avoiding your
real self that who really you wouldn’t
know your real self if you bumped into
her walking down the street because
you’ve spent so much time trying to do
and be somebody else and so really
taking some time to prayerfully ask God
to reveal to you who he created you to
be in what he created you for really
pinpointing what are my gifts and
talents and abilities and what are my
weaknesses and being okay with that once
you settle in to who God has made you to
be
strengths and weaknesses at all and all
it frees you up to go ahead and
compliment somebody else and I look at a
woman like you Priscilla and I say this
is a woman who’s living loved living
loved if you know you’re loved by the
King of glory and you can read Psalm 139
and just have a little refresher about
how special you are to him
then you can resolve let’s look at the
words again I will accept and celebrate
my uniqueness and will esteem and
encourage the distinctions I admire in
others oh that’s that’s a godly woman
living full and free I would like to be
that woman that is my aspiration to be a
woman who can live that way and she is
she’s just being humble here but uh you
know what you need to take the journey
with Priscilla and there are questions
at the end of each chapter that will
challenge you help you take a look at
your heart and life and and move on
what’s your ministry call it’s going
beyond ministry I love that going to yon
I had the feel of it I just didn’t have
words yeah going beyond yeah com
going beyond common we have lots of
women actually right now who are in
dialogue with each other we’ve got pen
pals literally all over the planet
Australia and London in Canada and in
states and we’re talking about these
resolutions it’s been so fun that to
hear what God is doing work it out
together we have to one another to make
it strong yeah but you want to have the
book here’s the information you need I
want to know what God expects with me
the resolution for men by Stephen and
Alex Kendrick strategically inspires men
to reconcile with their past re-engage
in their present and move forward with a
bold resolution for the future the
resolution for women by priscilla shirer
challenges all women to be intentional
about thriving in god’s calling on their
lives to bless and change things in
their world for the better the
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