Men are just misunderstood. Or is it that women are just not clear on what men wished they knew about them? In this episode, Priscilla Shirer will discuss just what it is that men wished women knew about them and how this plays into the interactions with each other.
hey there my name is Priscilla I’m so
glad that you were here and that you
were joining me for the chat this is a
great opportunity for you and I as
always to talk about things that matter
to you or that should matter to you and
listen you have tuned in at the right
time the right show because we are
talking to a panel of articulate
handsome well-spoken men who are going
to be telling us the things we want to
know about them the things they think we
need to know about them and so we’ve
solicited these guys to answer your
question
stay tuned you are not going to want to
miss this
hey there my name is Priscilla and you
are joining me for the chat this is our
virtual living room we have an
opportunity to sit down and talk about
some stuff that hopefully will impact
your life in some way so I hope you’ve
got a warm drink and your shoes are
kicked off and you’re either tucked in
your bed or on your own sofa so that you
can relax and enjoy a conversation
that’s already been going on so listen
this is part two of our conversation you
need to make sure you go back and see
part one because this has been so good I
have a panel full of incredible guys
right here who are helping to answer
important questions that women are
trying to figure out will you please
help me welcome Gerry Shire and Carlos
Whitaker and Michael jr. and Anthony
Evans jr. and Michael Boggs just because
I have to ask how was your experience on
LA Ink we all remember you from LA angle
was that like you know it was it was a
reality show which means it’s an
unreality show yeah so you know people
think they just walk in off the street
and get a tattoo but no there’s a
casting call the whole thing it took it
took 13 hours to do but what I loved
about about the show was that my tattoo
would she gets the whole thing but it
solves conversion on the road to
Damascus and so they let me tell the
story of Saul being converted into Paul
and how he used to kill Christians and
they let me share the gospel on The
Learning Channel which was really
amazing and so that episode it keeps
rearing for the last couple years and I
can tell whenever a tree airs people
start firing me on Twitter or whatever
but um it was amazing it was great and I
became really good friends with Hannah
Aitchison the lady that did my tattoo
well that’s cool okay I’m going to ask
all of you a question but based on this
tattoo that’s on your arm
because there are a whole lot of women
that kind of like this whole bad-boy
image thing I mean they want a guy who
you know has solid morals and all that
stuff but they like this little edge on
a guy this kind of this bad-boy thing
and it gets a lot of women in trouble
because they they like the bad boy to
the extent that they’re actually making
bad choices in rating he’s really bad
it’s not of me
eggless okay so what do women need to
look for if they want a good guy who
maybe has a little bit of a bad boy edge
on him but he’s not across the line I
think they’re looking for I think they
need to create like a Yelp for men they
should probably talk to the ex and be
like how’d that work out
like for real why not ladies you guys I
mean if you’re gonna buy a car you want
to know how many miles on talk to the I
would at least go to Facebook is wide
open
yeah what is she saying and you know you
got to be some of the stuff gonna be way
just bitter but you can feel through
that if there’s some pictures up there
she got this little line under eye right
there maybe you could get just this
that’s just that’s too bad that’s just
too bad okay I want to ask you about ego
this is an important issue for men and
we cannot quite oh no no ego I’m just
saying I don’t got no I don’t believe I
don’t know what any of them say that you
don’t have a fairly strong you know that
needs to be coddled and protected and
cared for and when it maybe you say you
don’t help like oh I got one you got one
okay we can’t figure this ego thing out
could y’all please help us to understand
how critical the care of your ego is how
we step around it what we can do to
encourage it
we just are confused which its objective
its objective and yeah I think it’s
objective it’s been who you’re dealing
with but for me I don’t have to be
coddled I just can never be purposefully
emasculated if you do that we were gonna
have a problem a problem like I don’t
mean like that sounds threatening I just
mean our relationship is gonna have
major issues if you emasculate and I
have to work on the whole dynamic of
being told the truth you know what I
mean and that’s that’s the truth but it
can be done in a way sometimes in
relationships I was in a relationship
for a while and actually engaged in that
that got got got fishy because the
delivery was very like I’m gonna little
man talks away a woman talks to you can
damage your ego your that accurate okay
absolutely is base to me I think and the
bottom line is this that the Bible is
very clear
women honor your husband’s husband’s
love your wives the reason he says honor
because of our ego yeah I mean he
created it he you know so it is there
so respect respect is what helps to keep
your loo yep
yeah I think my my ego it all goes back
to the question we talked about in part
one we’re talking about being known I
really want to be known and I think my
ego is more about Carlos wanting to be
known as who I think I am who’s Christ
has created me to be or what I’m great
at when my wife I walk in the door and
I’m like very first thing I do Sunday I
get done leaving worse if I walk
offstage I go straight to her and I’m
like you know so how was that I don’t
say it but I’m waiting right I’m waiting
for her to tell me that was the night
you led me to Jesus and back right and
like it’s my ego which is just wanting
really just my wife that’s who I’m
wanting to hear from and so I’m so I
believe something is in that I think
that’s okay I think as a human being
that’s okay we just want to be known and
you want to be do you want to be our
hero can I say that does it do something
for you when you know you are her hero
yeah who else is the hero okay well ooh
I’m line between um letting your man
know you need him and not being needy
what’s the fine line between making that
man no man I need you you’re my hero
rescue me kind of that feeling but also
being assertive and independent and
being able to be what Anthony described
earlier what attracts and he says as a
woman who’s just doing her thing and
she’s got it together it’s how we do
momen though in my mind in the
relationship it’s the need not not
necessarily being need it’s a once it’s
the needy thing comes from I need you I
need you I need you as opposed to I’ve
got my stuff together but I want you
that creates like that what Carlos was
talking about earlier of seeing you do
you and it but but you want me and
that’s a that’s a ego that that’s an ego
thing of I want you you know joining me
that to me as opposed to need a need
even if she can get it done I think that
the key is even if she can get the thing
done but she still comes to you and says
how do you think I should do this that
is phenomenal so yeah you can get it
done and if you just go get it done on
your own
then good you got it
but if you come to me first and we agree
on it
and you and you check off we would
including having something in me killed
and if I say yo we’re not gonna do that
just we’re not gonna do it and they’re
just kind of respect that because I’m
leading the house in my case yeah not
he’s King so much mores not not so much
my king but I can speak I can tell some
of y’all’s business is that okay that’s
it okay yeah that’s a little family show
go ahead yeah to the way that these two
operate I’m trying to I didn’t explain
this to y’all Priscilla is just raising
this family my family the girls are very
assertive and just that they’re they
watched my dad they watched my mom is
that way they’ve watched that when she
got married to Jerry
he is this I mean like he’s running
stuff so that so at first
I can say that I was around for them
figuring out that dynamic yeah Priscilla
turned out she I watched her turn that
part of her down to honor him and his
ego whatever you want to call it but it
works there are moments where she’s like
I’ll let Jerry decide and I know my
sister I know that it would be her
natural inclination to spit out the
answer and she’ll just stop and be like
and that is that’s the dynamic I’ve
watched I understand why you are but
that’s I mean that’s that’s the way
y’all operate so I mean y’all should
talk about me on reason yeah I’m like I
say that tell tell the people that’s
interesting how do you feel about they
um you know it is funny yes
yes but you know my wife does honor me
in right yes you do what you do and but
she’s very she’s very smart too
I was very smart because um she knows
she knows I thought not let me just back
up I think it’s my this is what I saw
with my grandparents it’s like everybody
knew my grandfather thought he ran the
house
but everybody knew my grandmother ran it
you know but she made him feel like he
went he ran it and then and that’s the
that’s not me so you ain’t running
nothing
but she’s making money right there I
look but but but really she sh-she I
have seen her you know and I know this
is a taboo word for women whatever bath
I’ve seen her submit but in her
submitting makes me want to give her
more Wow and we have to talk about that
submission to the whole idea of
submission the whole idea of leadership
in the home women are asking that
question about leadership because there
are a whole lot of women that are having
to take the reins in their own home to
to do devotions as the fan with the
family or to take care of the finances
because their husband is just not not
even living recklessly he’s just not
managing it or leading the home in terms
of direction and vision for the family
what does a woman need to know about
what she could be doing to contribute to
her husband not taking the reins in the
family what makes it difficult for a guy
to lead its home let me tell you this it
is it is it if you look at the story of
Genesis okay and if you look at where it
talks about how you know after the fall
and you see you know the curse that
falls upon the man and the woman and of
course the man is going to be labor in
all those days but one of the things
that says for the woman is that she’s
going to she’s going to want to control
him basically yes she well the thing is
she that what just happened just not
what I said I was initiated you know she
could have been like I got it she helped
lay off my family all right you
no she said sorry sir desire she said
she’s going to desire her husband okay
but desire you know it’s meant we think
yes she’s gonna want to desire me she’s
going to want me but that word desire
isn’t that it is I want to control you I
want to I want to be able to control you
the same thing that it said that same
word desire is used what can enable and
it is that control thing and so what I
think the thing that we have to were I
know for a woman what she has to do is
is submit to that and I think that’s
what’s so hard a lot of times but what
did you submit to if her husband if
there’s one watching her husband is not
leading like he’s not doing it how she
met well I was I think one of the things
is is in that thing which is heart but
allowing his allowing him to fail there
are some times you have to allow him to
let him take the rail right answer
available yeah you have to love it if
the failure is gonna affect her what if
there’s going to be a financial failure
in effect I guess the thing is this is
it is it is it a see once a day if it’s
a failure out of if he’s trying to to to
lead and live and he makes the bad
decision that’s one thing rather than
ahem-hem reckless living a certainly sin
and all that that that’s totally totally
different think or what I think the men
are all Cuyo submit to me like that’s a
great thing but when you submit to me
that means I need to be right yeah and
that’s a lot of pressure so ideally I’d
like you not to submit all the time
let’s talk about this and we’re getting
out and then when you do submit and I
just I got to be right so it’s more
pressure for a woman to submit because
now I got to be on point with this if it
does not work out it was still my choice
you need to still have my back okay can
you do mine no let me just say okay
he says also starts making it also
starts it also starts at this stage
right here if the single stage but when
I’m saying because when you choose a man
that you want to marry it is what you’re
saying is I trust him to lead my life so
you need to already be thinking about
that when you’re dating absolutely see
they’re leaving now
submission is not
automatically click on what you say I do
yeah and leading doesn’t mean I don’t
think leading means the man is in charge
of the finances okay you know I don’t
think that’s what it means because I
know in my home I can’t add my wife is
really good at it right she remembers to
pay bills yeah I don’t and there’s a
gift set that she’s got that I don’t
have and so like I could be all strong
and manly trying to be like oh my other
man friends that are paying the bills
but she’s better at it than me
I think the mainly thing for me to do is
say you’re better at this than me I’m
gonna allow you to do this and I’m gonna
do what I’m good at
you know and so submission doesn’t mean
control no right that is a wonderful
submission what does that mean to you
describe it what submission looks like
to you to me submission looks like you
evaluate your relationship you know and
it’s almost like like for you know I
tell people you can’t have two heads of
anything two heads as a monster so what
you have to do is when you guys sit down
you look at the gifts that you have in
your relationship in your marriage you
know as a leader and and as that later I
have to say okay yeah you’re great at
this you know I’m gonna I’m going to
give you this control over this area
right here you know I’m going to take
this in you work together but even
though you’re you know there are times
where I think the submission role
changes because if you’re good at
something if the finances well then I’m
submitting to you as you leave this
aspect of our family you know even
though I am still you know ahead but
that’s it I’m willing to submit for that
you know in this particular area okay
well that’s a woman’s her language when
thinking about doing something instead
of being I’m going to do this you should
probably be I want to do this until she
brings it to him and then he said and
then he can submit to her and say that’s
a great I love that and then she says
I’m going to do this now okay because
she has his now let me ask you this
because it would seem like in the midst
of all this as you mentioned there’s a
lot of pressure that is on a male when
she he knows that he’s leading a family
he’s got to do this right he’s going to
want to do it well if you all don’t have
accountability personally for yourself I
can see how it would be very easy for a
lot of men who to just kind of run take
this leadership thing out of control and
not to leave their families in a way
that’s wise so it
if a woman is married to a man that does
not have any accountability he just is
not open enough with any other guy that
can speak wisdom into his life
how does she gently encourage him in the
direction of having some relationship in
his life to which he can be remain
accountable she wants that for him
telling him he needs to be accountable
ain’t gonna do it so how does she
encourage would you tell a woman who’s
watching they were try to figure out how
do I encourage my hand my man to get
some accountability hmm I think this
sounds like the sunday-school answer but
I don’t think you could ever
underestimate the power of prayer and
the reason I say that is because I had a
friend one of my best friends actually
his family growing up the dad was would
be considered completely unaccountable I
had no one in his life to tell him this
is the wrong road you shouldn’t go this
way and she told me that every morning
she placed her hand on his back before
he woke up and prayed for him every
morning and things didn’t change for a
couple of years in fact I think most of
my childhood nothing changed until one
day he heard a message at church and He
gave His life to Jesus and I’m to the
guy he is a changed man and I can’t I
can’t attribute I think a lot of that
change to those quiet morning’s where
she placed her hand on his back and
prayed for him yeah and so I don’t think
we could ever underestimate the power of
God changing us yeah son I suppose yeah
not going to cost me trying to change
somebody okay yeah go ahead okay yeah I
think I’ll just talk about me myself I
went through a long season in my life
where I was not leading my family and my
wife was leading my family we had a lot
of gentle conversations a lot of gentle
conversations those gentle conversations
didn’t do a thing and so what ended up
she could have blown up and gotten mad
but you know what worked for us is you
know our therapist told us this you know
there is this Garden Inn in your life
that the man is supposed to 10:00 to and
what my wife was doing was tending to
the garden because I wasn’t tending so
submission for her look like taking that
rake taking that shovel and stepping
back out of the garden and just leaning
those tools up against me just leaning
them up against me I know this is super
metaphorically speaking
but for me without what I realize is all
of a sudden when my wife stopped tending
to that I kind of looked her I was like
man things are getting real messy around
here
what’s because she stopped and when she
stopped I realized well maybe I got to
roll my sleeves up maybe I’ve got to
grab the shovel maybe I got to go start
clean do you think that the reason why a
lot of men aren’t leading is because
women aren’t making room for them to
leave absolutely they’re doing it all
they’re doing it all and so you know the
man is playing xbox till 2 o’clock in
the morning you know we’re talking to
little third graders on there on the low
you know but this is gonna be hard for
us women in it to just step back and
lean the tools up against the hope that
they go get the tools I know that it’s
not hoping it’s conversations it took a
lot of work you know yeah um but but
once yeah I think for me once I started
working in the garden I was like I’m
actually pretty good at this yeah you
know and then and then that submission
started to happen for us and it’s it’s
taken years but you know a lot of people
don’t want to hear that it takes years
but it’s it’s amazing what I’ve seen
happen just in my own life yeah of
slowly watching my wife give me some of
those tools and allow me to certainly in
the family okay so that was good thank
you very much what will happen when we
have churches that really let the word
of Christ dwell in them richly what will
happen when we have teenagers and
children who really let the word of
Christ dwell in them richly we think
marriages are going to be healthy we
think churches are going to be
transformed that communities are going
to be impacted as Christians start to
obey the text in their context and their
setting you think about the Bible the
Bible is the revelation of God in fact
John says that it is the revelation of
Jesus Christ if we are to know God then
we must know him through the button
explore the Bible will help us to do
that so the heart behind explore the
Bible really is Colossians 3:15 and 16
let the Peace of Christ control your
hearts verse 16 is let the word of
Christ dwell among you richly so we want
to say hey churches church leaders
pastors do you want a congregation you
want a small group do you want a
sunday-school class filled with people
that speak to one another and wisdom
that encourage each other that admonish
one another that are filled with
gratitude in their hearts together that
they sing and they celebrate the
salvation that God’s given them do you
want a group of people like that then
you have to let the word of Christ dwell
among them richly the exploration of the
Bible book by book for groups of all
ages from senior adults to adults to
young adults to students to kids of all
ages
if everyone is studying the same book
imagine the possibility of revival based
upon the study together in community as
a group studying the text in its context
imagine the possibility of letting the
word of Christ dwell in you richly
whenever we’re squeezed whenever people
in our groups or in our churches are
squeezed whatever is in them is going to
come out if the word of Christ is deeply
in them then that’s what’s going to come
they’re going to speak to one another
with wisdom they’re going to sing songs
to God they’re going to be filled with
gratitude what’s in you is going to come
out of you and so we want to do
everything we can to help churches and
help small groups and sizable classes
get the word of Christ deeply richly in
the people
when you are so outnumbered it’s so
unable to complete that impossible task
so in over your head that you couldn’t
see the light of day even if you try you
are exactly where God wants you this is
a God who loves weakness he loves
weakness because his strength is
perfected in weakness
are you choosing to stand firmly on the
promises of God’s words or on the faulty
shaky philosophies of our culture
because the way we stand now has every
bearing on the way this thing is going
to end up
I want to spend a little time talking
about the S word sex okay so that word
came up in the first part of the very
first part of our conversation I mean I
even have to ask a question about that
one of y’all just mentioned I talked
about it already
we were talking about already talking
about it we were totally could you
please tell women women remember this
this whole show is about what women need
to know about you okay so I’m going to
ask a huge general statement and you
just take it wherever you’d like to take
it all right what do women need to need
need to know about the importance of sex
in your life because we don’t get it
so we need to know why it’s so important
to you and what we need to do about it
go ahead go ahead
well ready race is fun feels great you
know what yeah um and that’s fun come on
there has to be more of that though
there are a lot of wives I don’t think
who really get what it does for the man
it’s more than just fun I know but there
is a boost to your ego there is
emotional emotional satisfaction there
are other things that it does for your
life and I don’t think women are aware
of we just regular all about the
physical here’s wondering I think it’s
more than that one of the things is
women are pretty complex they could be
pretty calm you got to navigate what
wait at the wrong tone what happened I
don’t know like it’s all of these things
we got a network so at the end of the
day if we actually had sex we did
something right throughout that day
that’s what it means to you like
something happened like it’s it’s a
small little victories I go look what
happened I did it I did it so it’s like
the chase was on all day and now you the
victory deep do y’all really feel like
that do you feel that is kind of on
earth day as you want that’s one of them
there’s probably 75 answers but that’s
one of them so you’ve got that much
closer but do you feel that way do you
really feel like kind of are you
thinking about that kind of all day like
the chase is on all day and the goal is
to get to this encounter
today we do it in the morning so like
it’s okay I’m saying I’m saying it
whatever point it’s going to happen is
it a goal for you yeah yo cuz if you’re
do it in the morning why don’t you all
about you just set the tools back up of
it come on I’m going we’re going to sit
here until y’all give us a good answer
for that because because women are
wondering why there is such a disconnect
between their our our innate initial
interest and desire or for structure
sexuality by and large is not the same
as yours because it’s because it means
something more to you it does something
more for you that it does for females in
general we’re trying to figure out this
is one of the main questions I got
trying to figure out what is the deal
with why sex is so critical like it’s at
the top of your list I’m gonna make a
compress I bet some of it and that’s a
grill fellas some of it remember in the
locker room as boy you’d be in a locker
with your fellas you just play a
football whatever sport and you would
talk about or brag about like it was a
conquering thing kind of like that I
haven’t had a lot of women but all the
dudes would always talk about yo she was
fine you know she although me she loved
me and it was and we built up a mindset
of it’s a like it’s a little victory
yeah it’s a victory and now you have
your your wife you know unless you don’t
um and now you get to get little bitty
you get to get victories once so it’s
like I feel like it’s like a little so
is it a bit of a challenge thing and you
you feel the sense of accomplish these a
big challenge that’s not me okay i think
i think there’s accomplishment but I
also think we live in a such a
sexualized society right that it’s
become uh it’s so touchy I mean it is it
is so touchy you can’t drive down
highway 65 without seeing billboards you
know up looking this way in that way you
can’t get on facebook without saying
things and so you know I know that that
women feel like wow like I can’t live up
to that and so what I am feeling the
pressure to do is to make my wife feel
more beautiful
then the images she’s seen me see and so
suddenly it starts getting real
complicated really fast you know and so
you know for me and my wife tells me
this all the time you know sex for us
starts way before sex you know and so
when we can start enter for women it’s I
think for me too
you know I think for me too I text my
wife this morning I love you exclamation
point exclamation point exclamation
point now sorry honey but that the
purpose oh I’m kind of a little bit
horny today okay listen listen
so I’m gonna say this right so I’m
thinking I want I want to get to Heather
today hold on oh I know I want to get
together I’m gonna tell her it was I
just got done working out with 6:00 a.m.
I just got to lift weights I’m feeling
you know
manzo right I text her I love you
exclamation I said it’s going to be a
wonderful day and she she texted me 30
minutes later I love you too period
without an exclamation point oh no you
wouldn’t think that made a big deal but
I remember feeling completely devastated
like well I’m not having sex today she I
did something wrong she didn’t give me
three exclamation points
now does this not sound like a female
thing he’s in the way
but I want to let you guys know that
that a lot of women put men in this
generalized category did you just have
sex that morning not this morning sir a
lot of women putting in I see and here’s
a date and a degree they just happy you
say I’m hearing you saying it are you
asking this question about men you want
to have sex you want to conquer that’s
not the case for all men okay no III and
I think there’s going to be a lot of
women that are married to men like me
that are emotional that need three
exclamation points after a text and not
a period in order for me to feel like
I’m on my way yeah yeah yeah you know
Wow there we go
you don’t know this guy he’s good no
exclamation points needed no
I think there is an excellent I think
there’s an obvious explanation point
that happens I mean we’re all when it’s
all said and done there’s actually a
point there I think what I think what’s
really important is that for me and I’ll
say this and me life talk about this is
it’s not so much it’s not always the act
of sex it’s really the availability as
well you know I mean so and if you
didn’t you would have been cool had you
not had sex but if you would have got
the explanation point absolutely that’s
what I’m saying I think women are sooner
sounds crazy that intimacy that
connection is not critical to you that
you are able to in fact when we did the
women’s panel where we kind of did this
vice versa
one of the women said you know it’s
possible for us to have an argument and
an hour later he’s okay having sex and
I’m 20 minutes sure we don’t we don’t
get that we feel like there has to be an
emotional connection in order for you or
we feel like you you guys don’t need
that emotional connection is that not a
canker is an emotion – subjective it
just depends on the Entertainer we’ll
Timmy I don’t I mean Michael Boggs you
are so quiet back there I’m dying to
know
hey what is what I told him hi no I I
think it’s you know for me I’m probably
similar to Carlos in the sense of leader
that is running a song about it you know
right now I think I think for me it’s
it’s there’s a little bit of that chase
you know throughout the day and intimacy
is expressed different ways and and sex
is one of those but it’s not necessarily
always for me that it takes that
expression to to communicate intimacy
you know yeah sex does that and it’s
enjoyable and it’s great she’s not the
only way single dudes thing yes I would
also ready to go which you do that first
and then I’ll ask a question go ahead
that’s what I think this is this is the
importance of sex to a single Christian
male okay that kind of sounds fishy
really right back
I know this is that as a Christian male
that she wants out know that but you
have is that I consider with the way we
were way we were raised I consider it to
be something sacred and something that I
want to experience with my way and if I
am with a girl who does not consider it
to be that that it’s a it’s a it’s a
deal-breaker to me if she pushes that
envelope if she knows how sacred it is
to me knows how guys are wired and tries
the trick the thought tries to like
spark the wire mm-hmm thinking that I
mean and that’s just how it goes
sometimes with Christian girls they’re
like I can get him if I can get that I
can get him and that’s that’s where it
gets messed up so if I I’m a Christian
male trying to keep that part of my life
sacred and set apart and that’s the that
is very important to me and if I’m with
a girl who doesn’t consider to be that
important then okay yeah yeah what does
it do thank you for that answer what
does it do to a man’s psyche is it kind
of ability to be faithful in his
marriage what does it do to him when the
sexual relationship between he and his
wife is you know is just waning it’s
just non-existent or there’s no passion
there it doesn’t happen regularly what
kind of position does that put you in
I’m asking this question because my
husband has said to me before that’s a
dangerous spot for him to be absolutely
it caused him to be extremely creative
so now his mind is like yo what to do
when I get home and I’m cracking I gotta
work so I just finished singing ladies
Rock Show I mean for real so then he
starts doing the math on it’s not going
down at the crib okay Lord by mistake
strong um wait what’s your name it’s a
lot it’s a struct so the creativity
starts to jump up and the devil starts
to talk and it gets easier to hear what
he’s talking about
so they got a yeah absolutely absolutely
I know I know for us you know we I
travel for a living I speak and I leave
worship and most of my trips are 2 or 3
days and we and this is where whether or
not we’re fighting or not we make sure
we have
X before I go on that trip because
honestly your eyes are just open to a
lot more things when when you have it
and so it’s just true a regular sex life
I think is important you know I can be
emotional and I can be you know I want
exclamation points computer years all
that stuff at the same time I know if I
don’t get it
before I go on a trip then then you know
there’s probably going to be a lot more
that I see that don’t need to see right
even on the way even our way back
here’s the money ladies if you if your
if your man travels and on the way back
you’re absolutely gonna take care of him
that stuff helps out so much because now
you like I about to be home and one day
I interpret or whatever the K it’s just
so much easier to you know and Cramer’s
episode you tell us the 72-hour rule
toward that I don’t you know it under
the wondering I mean totally coming into
our world
you remember a great Bible teacher Miss
Annie Wilson okay Arthur K Arthur said
this what is absolutely refresh my
memory
it wasn’t you to hear it want you to say
it okay so go ahead I’ll get so record
it was so I don’t remember all the
details but it was something like every
72 hours do like pretty much it
shouldn’t go longer than 72 hours and
there was a psychological biological
reasoning in a male’s body why it’s very
hard to go beyond 72 hours well I kind
of got it oh you got it you got it okay
is there anything else that you guys
think would be important for a woman to
know about satisfying pleasing
fulfilling a man how can a woman who’s
watching make sure her man is fulfilled
each one of you should have an answer
for that what makes you feel most
fulfilled emotionally physically
otherwise whatever what makes you feel
most fulfilled Michael we just have to
start with you you know I I think it for
Keeley and I when she believes in me
more than I believe in myself I think
for me that is fulfillment that is like
nothing else okay Anthony what can a
woman do to make you make you feel
fulfilled
thats the artists answer that that
really is the I mean it that’s a great
answer but that’s how
that’s that’s it okay Mike I think for
my wife my wife always does this thing
where I’ll take some risk I mean I’ll
just it’ll be some bigger than doesn’t
make any sense but I clearly know I
clearly feel like God is saying this and
he hasn’t necessarily spoken to her
about it but I know like I mean she says
and the math doesn’t make sense at all
there’s no way to make sense on paper
and my wife says okay if this is what
you want to do I’m completely behind you
when she does that and anything works
out oh snap or even before it works out
I’m like that’s no I mean my goodness
she is awesome yeah yeah that’s great I
think for me is knowing that that I’m
trusted and and knowing that I’m known
there there’s just that innate desire
for my ethos everything that is me to be
known and so when I know my wife knows
me and she and she’s desiring to know me
and she is asking questions about my day
and about my trip and about my you know
hey honey I just wrote this song you may
not even have to like it don’t even tell
me like I just listened to him you know
those small things for me all right are
I think what really connects me it’s
good babe what can I do to make you
happy
what you know you do make me happy I
feel glad but it is it is one of the
things one of the things is in I think
if anybody heard you speak before they
know that you know you always tell
people how your personality is you know
you see something I like Marc gené yo
hey let’s go do it
spontaneous spontaneous I’m one I think
about it I need to process it which is
not your personality so for you to wait
on me to make this decision
even those driving you crazy and I know
it’s driving you crazy but still for you
to be quiet and allowed me to process it
I mean you know require it is you know
that give you time and space yes that is
you know that is that is big for me
because I know that you are now you know
outside of you know your normal
character yeah and you’re like okay I’m
trusting him to make the right decision
this and go through even though I’m
ready to move now yeah you guys have
given us great advice great advice where
you guys please help me thank them and
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