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because I believe that the only thing
you are ever always in control of is
your focus so many factors in your life
are beyond your control but one thing
you can always control if you learn how
to do it and if you’re committed to it
is your focus I think that many
relationships fail not because of a loss
of love but because of a loss of focus
that would be one of the reasons that a
church fails as well while we’re at it
is that you lose your focus when you
stop caring about what God cares about
God will no longer back you in your
endeavor and so sometimes what we call
failure is really just broken focus it’s
the reason why the passion that exists
in some parts of relationships when it’s
getting started
tends to leak and you wonder where it
went it wasn’t necessarily that you lost
the love you lost the focus it’s very
difficult to keep that first loved focus
in any relationship I think Jesus is
calling us back to focus if you’ll
notice the bread on the sandwich from
the little passage that we just read
both of them start with seeking seek
first his kingdom ask and it will be
given to you seek and you will find on
both ends of this passage where Jesus is
speaking on several different subjects
is this idea of focus so is your focus
number one on finding or becoming
finding or becoming jesus said seek
first the kingdom and the other stuff
will move into position but if you seek
first the other stuff then you will have
no center of gravity for the stuff to
revolve around so it’s important that
your focus is not I’ve been teaching
this for years man I just go around the
youth camps
would teach dating seminar and I would
say you know it’s not original quote
from me but I’ll say it all the time
because I think it’s true happiness
isn’t finding the right person happiness
is being the right person I’ll take it
further since your applause is so tepid
if you find the right person and you are
not the right person what do you think
you’re gonna do to that poor right
person now I’m not suggesting please I’m
not suggesting that if you’re not
married or something like that discuss
you’re not ready yet because now all we
have to do to disprove that stupid
theory is to look at some of the people
who are married so marry doesn’t equal
ready okay I can offer you many examples
of that starting with myself but what I
am saying is that it is important to God
it’s just important to God that you have
the right people in your life but the
only way you’re gonna have the right
people in your life is if you will be
the right person in your heart that’s
the only way your best that’s the only
way you’re even gonna attract them to
begin with and that’s the only thing you
can control
I can always can control whether this
person comes into my life but I can
control the kind of person that I am you
know how you have little memories from
your childhood that are so random that
you wonder how they’re still up there
from all these years and you kind of
wish you could delete them because
honestly you need that space for more
important things like your children’s
names and stuff that you forget
sometimes but I have memory I don’t know
why I remember in sixth grade they gave
us the Berkeley County writing test
I remember the prompt of the Berkeley
County writing test when I was in the
sixth grade almost word-for-word pretend
that you are on an adventure or they
called it a journey with your friends
and on this adventure or journey you
fight you come across a valuable unusual
object just describe the object a couple
weeks later the teacher walked in with
all of our writing tests and made an
announcement she said I’ve never had
this happen before in however many years
of teaching but every single one of you
failed the Berkeley County writing test
we laughed she said it’s not a joke
she said you wrote beautiful essays you
went into great detail elaborating on
the journey with your friends but that
was not the writing prompt the writing
prompt was not to describe the journey
the writing prompt was to describe the
object all of you wrote essays about
walking through the woods with your
friends some of you traveled across the
seas with your friends some of you flew
through space with your friends it was
highly entertaining but none of you
described the object the object of
relationship the object of love is not
that somebody else would complete you
I’m sorry
Renee Zellweger but you got it wrong
your line was touching it just wasn’t
true Jerry didn’t complete you touch
your neighbours say you can’t complete
me say we take this stuff no other
single people right there have their
fists up ready to fight me when I want
to preach about marriage just the way we
preach and teach it we teach it like
until you get married you’re like this
and started I only got one question to
ask you if that’s true how can you worse
obsessive
we worship a guy who stayed single till
they killed him
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I’ll be like Jesus I’m happy to say that
but I’m saying I’m saying if Paul would
have waited to fulfill his purpose until
he had somebody to complete him we
wouldn’t have 23 percent of the New
Testament and we teach along with tapes
of all I’ve taught it wrong we teach it
wrong in in the book of Genesis God’s
describing marriage he thought might
Adam and even he says that you know the
man shall leave his father and mother
and go beat his wife and it says that
the two will become one let me tell you
what it doesn’t say it doesn’t say the
haves will become whole but yet we teach
it and we treat it and we extract it
like the haves are gonna become whole
but I found out if you go into a
marriage half the two halves are gonna
make hell not all straight reaching
pastor semen
that’s very true pastor
is it what you can control which is what
God is doing in your life or is it
finding you know if I gotta find a woman
then you got to find a ring and you
gotta find some money you got to find a
date to get married and a place to get
married that everybody can come to that
on the same date working out continents
different continents people coming
together from all these different places
in the world and got to find the dresses
for the bridesmaids something that
they’ll all wear and won’t complain
about then look good against their skin
tone you know find a house and find a
job and finding finding finding finding
finding finding finding finding do you
see the pattern here but God said while
all of that has its place if you will
focus on becoming remember he said the
two will become one that’s the focus
what are you becoming it’s a good
question to ask