Do you want to know God better? Learn to walk in the center of the Father’s will as you come to understand His heart revealed in His Word. Embrace these biblical principles today and begin your journey to life at its best. It is God’s desire for each one of His children to have an intimate relationship with Him. For more messages from Charles Stanley, including this week’s broadcast, go to

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do you realize that God is purposed to

reproduce his life in your life and

through your life

and in order for that to happen

he must reveal himself to you and he

must bring us into an intimate

relationship with him

an intimate relationship with him is of

the highest priority


it demands something of us


it impacts our entire life

for example when you have the right

relationship with him or if you have a

poor relationship with him out of that

flows everything else in your life

so that your relationship to him

determines how you live your life

whether it’s the right kind of life or

the wrong kind of life it all relates to

that so if I should ask you today do you

have an intimate relationship with God

through his son Jesus Christ well some

of you probably say well I’m not sure I

don’t even know what intimacy is usually

when we think of intimacy today we think

of sexual intimacy that’s where most

people leave it the what you see what

you touch what you feel but you see all

that surface intimacy goes much deeper

than what you see what you touch what

you feel and what I want us to look at

in this message today is what does it

mean to have an intimate relationship

with God through his son Jesus Christ

now some people have a difficult time

with that and this is the reason they

would say well if God is who he says he

is and that he’s holy and he’s righteous

and Transcendent above us and and he’s

Sovereign and all these other things and

how can I a sinner have a personal

intimate relationship with a holy God

how’s that possible that’s what I want

to explain because it is possible it is

the will of God for every single one of

his children to have an intimate

relationship with him which means

just being saved is not enough

just going to church it’s not enough and

reading the Bible and all the rest it’s

relationship and we live in a day when

it seems that most people are having

difficulty having a relationship

there’s all kind of things that go on in

people’s lives but intimacy is not one

of them I want you to turn if you will

to the 63rd psalm because if there’s

anyone in the Old Testament who

certainly had an intimate relationship

with God it was David was he perfect no

he was not

he was a sinner just like all of us have

sinned against him and so what I want

you to see is here is the expression of

a man’s heart here is evidence of a

man’s intimate relationship with the

father and so beginning in this 63rd

chapter of the Psalms I want to begin in

verse 1 where it says o God you are my

God I shall seek you earnestly my soul

thirsts for you my flesh yearns for you

in a dry and weary land where there is

no water

thus I’ve seen you in the sanctuary to

see your power and your glory because

your loving kindness is better than life

my lips will praise you so I will bless

you as long as I live and I will lift up

my hands in your name my soul is


listen my soul is satisfied with Mara

and fatness in my mouth offers Praises

with joyful lips

when I remember you on my bed I meditate

on you in the night watches

for you have been my help and in the

shadow of your wings I sing for Joy my

soul clings to you your right hand

upholds me here is the expression of a

man’s heart

that’s not satisfied with things

with places

with prominence and Prestige and all the

rest here is a man whose Soul hungers

after God could you say that you hunger

after him

could you say that the most important

thing in your life is your relationship

to him

could you say that you want him more

than you want any other thing a person

or any opportunity what what’s first and

foremost is it an intimate relationship

with him intimacy talks about closeness

Oneness unity and so as we look at this

what I want us to see is I want us to

take a look at what real genuine

intimacy looks like what is it about

because God desires that for us now when

you read what’s what David said in the

Psalms he’s hungry and thirsting and

yearning after almighty God somebody

says well now what’s this all is

hungering about listen carefully because


this could be one of the most important

messages you’ve ever heard in your life

because if you do not develop what I’m

going to talk about you’re going to go

through life

and you’re going to miss

the ultimate purpose for which God

created you

remember what he said

in the beginning he said let us create

man in our own image what did he mean by

that not so much physical but the image

of who he is


there’s something so awesome about God

and he said let’s create man in our own

image so we can relate to him and he can

understand who we are and I can love him

and love her and and and shower upon

them the goodness and the kindness and

all that I am that’s God’s purpose so

what does this look like well are we

going to put these on the mag screen so

you can jot them down the first one is

it’s a relationship of spiritual


that is it reaches Deeper Than Physical

intimacy and because you and I have the

Holy Spirit living within us

we have the privilege and the power

to relate to the spirit of God when you

became a Believer the spirit of God came

into your life to do what to enable you

to equip you to empower you to give you

Direction and guidance for your life and

all the things that we need and so we

have the Holy Spirit and when you and I

submit to the spirit of the Living God

within us we can begin to develop a

relationship with him because it’s our

spirit and his Spirit nothing to do with

things it isn’t asking God for things

it’s developing that relationship so it

all begins with a personal relationship

then when we we talk about that we talk

about this idea of a personal


what’s it about it’s about being open

and honest and free so we’re not hiding

anything we’re just being who we are and

think about the times that you’ve prayed

oftentimes and you told God what you

wanted him to know and you only

confessed up to a point and you’re

willing to repent up to a point intimacy

says here’s my heart intimacy says I’m

willing to unwrap myself God before you

my heart my soul my spirit and

everything that I am I want you I want

you to see all of me I want you to know

that there’s nothing there’s nothing I’m

holding back

this personal relationship


then of course

when I think about that naturally I’m

going to think about the whole idea of

trusting because if I should ask you

if you have a relationship to somebody

for your husband or your wife if you

don’t trust them you cannot have an

intimate relationship you have a

physical relationship and a surface

relationship but no intimacy if you

don’t trust someone you cannot have an

intimate relationship and so as a

Believer for example you don’t trust God

he said I have these needs and well I’m

not going to tell because I don’t

believe God can take my nine tents and

do more than I can with tent and and I’m

not going to do this this may be the

will of God in other words as long as

you refuse to trust them you cannot have

an intimate relationship with him

because intimacy is total openness and

total surrendering total willingness

and trust is an issue in fact how many

times did Jesus talk to us and the

gospel is about trusting intimacy says

I’m willing to trust you

and you see a person will not surrender

their life to God because they don’t

trust him he may ask him to do something

they don’t want to do or something they

think they can’t do or something in life

that that just no no no no I can’t do

that if I trust him I will obey him and

if I obey him it’s because I love him

you ask yourself the question do I

really and truly have an intimate

relationship with him

do you really and truly trust him

is this is this relationship listen not

a church relationship this is a

relationship between you and almighty


not only must there be a trust in that

relationship but there must be loving in

that relationship go back to Psalm 42

for a moment and uh listen to uh what

the psalmist says here because all of

this is an indication of his personal

intimate loving relationship to the

father he says in Psalm 42 verse 1 As

the deer pants for the water Brooks that

is he’s been running and running and

running and running maybe chased by some

other wolf or something and he says as

he pants thirsty so thirsty pants for

the water brick so my soul pants for you

o God my soul thirsts for God for the

Living God

could you say that you thirst for him

could you say that you have a hunger for

him could you say that you really and

truly love him now I’ll be honest with

you about something I can I can remember

I don’t know exactly the day but I

remember it’s a number of years ago I

remember praying and telling God that I

loved him and all of a sudden it dawned

on me I felt like I had marbles in my


and I finally had to say God

I don’t know whether I do or not

somehow it’s not it’s not ringing in my

spirit it sounds good I’ve been saying

it a long time I love you God

but on that day it’s like the spirit of

God just jumbled my words

and made me realize I didn’t know what I

was talking about

and I began to realize

I didn’t really love him the way he

wanted me to love him

I had an affection for him

and then as the Lord opened my eyes and

helped me to see

I somehow had a very difficult time

accepting his unconditional love

because I grew up believing that somehow

I had to deserve it

somehow I had to Merit his love

and on that day I realized no I did not

really love him I had an affection for

him but it was the beginning of bringing

me to realization of what true genuine

love for God is all about

I think about also another issue and

that is this issue of openness and

transparency because you see you can’t

have an intimate relationship with

somebody you’re holding secrets from


and when you think about how people live

oftentimes and live a lifestyle that is

not a lifestyle of openness and honesty

and transparency how can you have

relationship with somebody who’s keeping

secrets and keeping things from you well

you can’t because we go back to the

whole issue of trust what’s going on so

think about this when you pray and you

talk to the Lord do you open your heart

totally do you say to him Lord I know

I’ve sinned against you please forgive

me in Jesus name you said first John 1 9

that’s what I’m claiming amen that won’t


transparency says God today I was very

very lustful today I was very prejudiced

today I should not have opened my mouth

and said that today I was very critical

today whatever it might be openness

honesty and transparency the God is with


and you see to have to have intimacy

it’s got to be both ways listen God

wants you to know him he desires that

you know him fully he created you to

reveal himself through you because he

wants to express his love he’s an

awesome god of love he wants to express

it he desires to express it and he wants

us to do the same and without that

openness and transparency you’re not

going to have you’re not going to have

intimacy so

that leads me to the next issue and that

is it’s got to be a two-way relationship

now I want you to listen this carefully

probably if I said to you well do you

pray yes

well let me ask you this uh when you

pray uh what do you pray for primarily

more than likely you’re going to say for

my needs naturally

oh I pray for my friends or people who

are sick or whatever


um when you pray

how long do you pray

what do you pray about

and then

how long after you’ve finished talking

do you listen

you see you cannot have an intimate

relationship if you do all the talking

so let me ask you this

The Last Time You Prayed that you stop

and say Lord now that’s my feeling now I

want to hear what you’ve got to say

oh you say well you know God doesn’t

speak to me oh yes he does

his Spirit speaks to your spirit but

you’ve got to be willing to listen

to give him time to speak if you say

your prayer I pray to him and get up off

your knees more than likely if this is

the kind of praying you’re doing you’re

not on your knees anyway but if you just

pray and and the last thing you know you

you go to sleep

you didn’t hear from God

you just voiced your feelings

intimacy means I must be willing to

listen to him

what does he want to say

which brings me to the last one and that

is time

listen a relationship where time and

effort are given to know God

now when people say for example you know

I I would read the Bible but I’m just so

busy I don’t have time or I know I

should spend more time in prayer but I

just don’t have time

I don’t have time I don’t have time I

don’t have time think about what you’re


you’re saying

to the God of this universe the Creator

you sing to The Sovereign of this

universe our sustainer

you’re saying to this God who is that

judge you don’t have time for him

who is the source of every single thing

you have

who desires an intimate relationship

with him it takes time

which means of course

it doesn’t happen overnight

I was fortunate enough growing up

to have gone to see my granddad when I

was about 17. you heard me talk about


walked away with Wealthy on the inside

not realizing how wealthy I was

of what I heard him say but I remember

one of the most

impressive things I heard was

God spoke to him

and he listened to God

and he began to tell me the things that

God had done in his life

and when I walked away my question was


if you spoke to him that way would you

speak to me if you would work in his

life that way how would you work in my

life I want to hear your God I want you

to show me the truth now did it happen

overnight no it did not but I got in the

word and I began to read and I began to

ask God lord speak to my heart

show me help help me to understand your

voice when it’s you and not me

give me understanding Lord

he makes it very clear

he will show you the truth about himself

he listen he will show you the truth

about himself through his word

but he will also show you the truth

about himself in life

develop a listening heart

a listening spirit

and the reason people make wrong

decisions is because they don’t listen

to him one thing you can bet for sure he

will never mislead you you know why I

know that because he is a god of Purity

righteousness and truthfulness he cannot

deceive he cannot mislead he cannot do


that would be a contradiction to who he

is this very God is living on the inside

of you and the person of the Holy Spirit

he’s there why because it is his spirit

that speaks to our spirit

it is his life connecting to our life

you say well but I’m not I’m not worthy

of all that the next time you feel that

away you just remember this

that the cross is God’s one and final

testimony to his awesome unconditional

love for you no matter what

He does care about you

and he wants to work in your life his

awesome Grace and love and mercy

now those are the characteristics of a

genuine intimate relationship so

somebody says well okay so once I once I

have that relationship uh what what can

I feel what can I sense you see we are

sort of like this well let me give you

some words first of all stability

when a person has an intimate

relationship with the lord it’s like

it’s like that there is an anchor

that’s there that no matter what wind

blows against you

it’s going to be okay because you know

God is there in you and with you

there is this sense of security within

you takes away the fears because he’s

not up yonder he’s inside and you have

this intimate relationship with him so

there’s security that’s the ability

there’s Serenity and that is this

quietness in your spirit

that no matter what’s going on there is

this sense of quietness and peace and

contentment because you’re talking to

him you’re listening to him you have you

have built that relationship

there is also a sensitivity now watch

this there’s not only a sensitivity to

the Lord but there is a sensitive listen

when you have an intimate relationship

with him you you have who he is on the

side of you

you’ll find yourself very sensitive to

other people I don’t mean their

criticism necessarily you might have a

little bit of that but you’ll be

sensitive to their needs their hurts

their personhood they’ll be something in

other words God God listen because God

is in you he’s relating to other people

listen through his Spirit he’s relating

to the need their emotional spiritual

need witnesses to that

and all they can do is give us credit on

what they don’t realize is that God is

working in their life

so when you think about how all this

develops and I think about that

spiritual sensitivity and spiritual

understanding in other words one of the

things that you when you start

developing this intimacy you’re going to

start understanding the word of God in

ways that you’ve never understood it

before why because God wants you to

understand the Bible is not a mystery


it’s not a book of philosophy it is a

book of truth that explains the attitude

in the heart of almighty God so that we

can listen because you say we said in

the very beginning he created us to have

relationship with him which required of

him to reveal himself to us through his

word primarily and through our spirit

and to bring us into this intimate

relationship with him


there are three barriers so you might

want to jot these down there are three


and here’s the first one it is pride

we don’t pray because I can handle it

we don’t ask him I’ll work it out

it’s Pride the reason people don’t get

on their knees except their physical

things sometimes is pride

how can you be too prideful to get on

your knees to Holy righteous Sovereign


Every Breath You have is a gift from him

somebody says I don’t need to get on my

knees no you don’t

you don’t need to honor God you don’t

need to reverence God but you get what

comes with that it is pride who that

keeps us off our knees Pride that keeps

us in sin we’d rather have a

relationship with somebody than God

the second thing is rebellion


as long as there’s sin in that light

there is no intimacy with God when

people say well I pray but but nothing

happens I pray but God isn’t answering

me I pray then you need to look at

yourself and ask yourself the question

God isn’t the problem you’re the problem

there is no intimacy whether it’s

Rebellion now think about this you have

to think about your own relationships

can you have a intimate relationship

with a husband a wife who’s just

rebellious against you no you cannot

you can’t have a intimate relationship

with your children if they’re in

rebellion in their life

and then the last one

is real simple

if it’s Pride if it’s rebellion and then

if you’re in a hurry

if you’re in a hurry you won’t develop

an intimate relationship with God it

takes time

to read his word

and meditate upon it

think about it ask questions God what

are you saying to me

Lord how does this applaud in my life

is this a warning

is this something that I I need to look

at in my life a Lord thank you for this

wonderful promise

time to read

time to talk to him time to listen to


cannot tell you how very important that


and you see here’s what will happen

the more you listen

the more you’re going to hear and the

more you hear the more excited you’re

going to be and the more excited you’re

going to be the more time you want to

give to listen to him

now if you’re in love with somebody

you like listening I do

I like listening to a friend of mine I

love listening

he’s willing to tell you far more than

you expect

because you see

knowing that God gave his son for me

I know he’ll give me all the information

and everything else I need

and that’s what Paul meant in Romans

when he said

having given us his son Jesus Christ

will he withhold from us any good thing

and the answer is no

so with that in mind would you say that

you have an intimate relationship with


or would you have to say

I missed it

you say when do I start now

think about this all of us one of these

days no matter where we are and whatever

our age our heart’s going to be for the

last time

and we’re going to meet the father

is he going to be a stranger to you

or do you want to have the kind of

intimate relationship

while you’re here in this life

whereby your life can impact the people

around you

not because of what you’re doing but

because of what he living within you

is able to do through you and that is my

prayer for you don’t be satisfied with


in your relationship to him

than intimacy

which is the will and purpose and plan

of God for you

and father how grateful we are when we

think about you perfect holy awesome God

having a personal intimate relationship

with Sinners Like Us

but because the blood of your son has

washed us clean and Sanctified us unto


you’re willing to do it and I pray for

every person who hears this message

create within them this awesome holy

dissatisfaction with where they are

and the hunger to know you in a deeper

way than ever before in Jesus name amen