Aging Gracefully – Joyce Helps You Take Back Your Life | Joyce Meyer’s Talk It Out Podcast

If you said yes, today is the day to take your life back! In this episode, Ginger, Jai and Erin welcome Joyce back to the set to unpack a handful of highlights from her new book that releases…. drumroll please…. TODAY! They talk through some of the *very real* changes and challenges that come with age, and Joyce shares some practical tips on how to do today what will bring you joy later on. So whether you are running a business, running after toddlers, or just plain running on fumes, it’s time to learn how to take back your life!

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hi everyone you are just in time come on

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is joyce meyer’s talk it out podcast

where joyce teaches the word of god in

her practical

no-nonsense way and my friends and i

talk about

the real stuff of living it and we don’t

hold anything back

i’m gingerstockie with jay and aaron

cluley three friends

who are all in very different places in

life but we understand

the importance of having honest loving

women around you

and when we need a little help miss

joyce is here

just like she is today to answer our

questions for you so consider yourself

one of us come on in here and let’s talk

it out

here oh you’re welcome you’re welcome i

got to come and see what you guys think

of my teaching

oh well i’ve got a list of notes for you

here

you said you listened to it they’re all

good

[Laughter]

well joyce has a new book that’s coming

out today actually as we’re doing this

and it’s called how to age without

getting old this is good stuff

and you might think by by the title

that this is for um people who are a

little bit more advanced in years

but it’s not this book is

talking about aging well yeah

and doing now what matters later and and

aaron you just said

that this is a book free for your age

group too right for everybody

it’s so good because i as i was reading

it i relate to you and your

work ethic and drive to get stuff done

and so i can see if i don’t pay

attention now

right i can very well end up in a not

not the place i want to be

so oh it’s so good that’s one of the

main things i want to get across to

people is

it’s not just it’s not just for somebody

that’s

70 or 65 or who’s retired

but if i would have had this book and

would have paid attention to it when i

was let’s say 40

i could have skipped over a lot of

physical trauma that i went through

because

i i didn’t i didn’t have anybody

teaching me

yeah or telling me i mean the whole

thing was do as much as you can you know

yeah and i would talk to other ministers

i haven’t had a day of vacation in 12

years and i think that was really

spiritual

right yeah now i realized you know that

was just

yeah well let’s talk to our 20 year old

friends i remember what i was like in

college

and you know just that pace and that

running our 30 year old friends who are

raising their kids and can’t keep

up with everything so that we’re going

to talk also about just taking your life

back

yeah giving giving god the opportunity

to do what he needs to do in our life

instead of our life taking over us

and when that happens our years will be

better throughout

i would say most people today let their

lives run them yeah

absolutely 100 a lot of you know like

demands and everybody wants something

and you think you got to keep everybody

happy and

you know there’s expectations from

everywhere and you know it’s

it it takes a lot of courage to really

follow what you believe is the

leadership of the holy spirit it does

and be able to say no when you really

feel like that you need to say no

now i know we’re all at different ages

so i hope you’re okay with this on air

but how old are you aaron

i believe i’m 34 you believe you are

yeah sometimes i get i can’t remember if

i’m 34 35 but i’m pretty sure i’m 34.

how about you i am happily 39 and i’m so

excited about turning 40 this year

and what about you ginger i’m 57 okay

and i am

77. ginger have you felt changes in your

body

say in the last decade

so no how much time do we have yes

well i think we need to talk about that

yeah absolutely

nothing’s in the same place that it used

to be in honor of this topic today i

wore

a one-piece suit just to prove

that um i could still handle it because

we’ve talked about the fact

that as you age that your

your body’s just different and it takes

a while to get a jumpsuit off and so

when you think

that there’s a possibility that you’re

gonna have to take a potty break

i have to plan a good half hour out when

i’m wearing a get up like this

yeah so it’s just one of those commands

so many things that that change

physically in your life

yeah the way we look changes yeah but

also what about

like energy levels and i know you shared

with me

that like when you go on foreign mission

trips now that’s

different for you that would you say the

heat bothers you more

tell us about that yeah yeah well when

when we’re on these trips in other

countries

we have a short amount of time and a lot

of things to do you know a lot of people

that we want to get to

and help so we’re just running and

we try to get as much done as we can so

quite often we’re just eating

jerky beef jerky out of our bags things

like that and i would thrive on that i

love that be long days be

it’s usually very hot where we go not

always and i’ve never done well with the

heat

so now as i’ve been getting older i can

tell a big difference and i hate to even

say this

because i don’t like to admit it you

know we all want to say no

i’m good i didn’t i wanted to be i think

from being abused as a child

and my mother not being strong enough to

do anything about it yeah i grew up

really just

i didn’t hate her but i hated weakness

and i really disrespected weak people

it was like oh come on you know don’t

yeah yeah don’t

give me the eye candy then that’s too

hard

i’ve i’ve learned different now that we

all have different abilities and you

need to respect

you know where people are at but i was

like that it was like you weren’t going

to hear me say i couldn’t do something

right yeah and so i would push myself

and the thing that i’m wanting people to

really understand

is that okay

only a fool thinks they can always do

what they’ve always done yeah

and so what you could do when you were

and maybe even 40 now you’re starting to

feel it

so that is your body it’s really wisdom

telling you you have to make a change

now

yeah and and i don’t like it no well you

don’t like it but

but the thing is too is when we need to

change other people don’t like it

well that’s true that’s a really good

point when i got to the point where i

felt like i was needing to make some

changes here and i mean i think you can

verify this

everybody thought well you know no you

have to do that

you know it’s it’s not going to be as

good if you don’t do it you know that’s

not going to be as good this isn’t going

to be as good

and so i really felt like i was in a

trap

yeah you know like am i ever going to

get to rest or am i always going to have

to do

everything and we found out that it’s

not about us it’s about

where god puts his grace and where god

puts his anointing yeah

and so it god doesn’t want you to kill

yourself

and so like these trips

you’ll either stay gone more days so you

can have rest

or you’ll take somebody with you that

can do part of it or

eventually we may have to send somebody

else you know you can’t

you just cannot and i think the the

younger the people are when they get

that through their head yeah

the easier it’s going to be

to make those changes i feel as

as a youngish person that that the

weight is on me that if i don’t do it

this won’t happen at all

and i am not the end of the world here

i’m not the end-all be-all of whatever

this thing is i bet god could probably

fill in that gap but in my mind

if i don’t do it then nobody else is

gonna do it yeah and i

yeah i also i feel the same way and i

remember when i first got married

um at 20 and i had my daughter uh-huh i

remember my

body changing right like and i i was

proudly five foot one and a cheerleader

i was just that was who i was all

through college even and then after i

had my daughter

in the c-section in my whole body just

and that’s what triggered honestly my my

first bout of depression

you know and then i remember just going

through that not being happy that my

body wasn’t the same and really didn’t

do anything about it because i was just

grieving who i was

and then i remember in my earlier 30s um

i ended up having a hysterectomy

and that hysterectomy triggered me into

like pre-menopausal

that’s fun yeah like symptoms and so

then all of a sudden my hormones

are out of whack my my body

like you know sweating and cold and

not hungry tell me about it girl

it was just a lot of things and so like

when i was reading the book and i was

just super grateful for

you know for you sharing all of your

wins and things that you’ve learned you

know because you you say all this this

statement of

if i could tell my younger self you know

what i know now and

that’s honestly what i believe this book

is it’s you telling

our younger selves what to to do and not

to do and how to

process i feel like i wasted a lot of

time grieving who i was versus saying

what can i who can i be right now and

not having to

to do it all right now when you when you

have to make a change

that’s not a bad thing it’s wise

to make that change yeah you know first

of all our bodies

are the home of god they’re the temple

of the holy spirit

and it’s really disrespectful to god

if you want to look at it just from a

spiritual standpoint

it’s really disrespectful to god to just

run yourself into the ground to where

you know you just are pushing yourself

all the time because i made a statement

because we think we’re doing it for

god yeah but you got to remember

aphrodite’s in the bible i mean he got

sick from working too hard in the

ministry

so even though and that was me well i’m

doing it

for god but you’re not really not if

you’re disobeying him

in the process and people always want to

know how can i hear from god how can i

hear from god

well listening to your own body is one

of the ways that you can hear

from god because we always think you

know well

i’ll be the one that’ll get by with it i

know i probably shouldn’t

but i’ll be the one yeah

that will get by with it i i used to be

the type that was like oh man i just got

to keep going got to keep moving got to

keep

it’s for jesus the people need jesus and

as if i was the only one that could give

him jesus

i’m the only one that could bring the

president no that’s not true so

um dispelling that and giving myself

this the time to say i need to rest

i need to heal i need to like get poured

into for a while versus just continuing

because i’ve always done that so

and to be honest when i’ll put it on

myself a lot of it’s our own pride

yeah oh amen that’s right it’s like

nobody can do it as good as i can

if i don’t do this it’s not going to get

done i don’t want to say i can’t because

then i’m going

yeah to look weak because i can do

whatever i need to do yeah i can do what

and

you know we can that scripture

philippians 4 13

i can do all things through christ you

can’t

we can’t take that out of balance we can

only do through christ what he gives us

to do

right not just anything we want to do

yeah but what he wants us to do

yeah i love in your book when you talked

about what some of how you’ve learned

this recently when

the doctor told you to rest and you said

what do i do while i’m resting that was

the first thing i said i had that

thought too

yeah you mean he told me he wanted me to

rest 18 months and i thought the man had

lost his mind i’m like 18 months ago

what do what does one do for 18

months yeah it was like it was almost

like frightening to me to think

let’s talk about that for a minute

because there

there were things that you began to deal

with physically

that that were um significant and you

had to make some big changes

yeah so it really came as a surprise

and yet it also came from a long

time of pushing very hard i mean

you’ve accomplished amazing things and

you you’ve been running and serving the

lord for a long long time and

how do you explain it finally your your

body was just kind of at a point where

it was going to make you rest

well yeah i mean if you if you think

about my life

okay the first 15 years of my life

or the from age three to about 18 i was

abused sexually physically mentally

emotionally

and yes god heals us from that but it

still does take a toll on you sure

and so already by the time i was 18 i

was having

colitis and colon problems and

you know issues like that and then

i remember even in my 20s going to the

doctor

trying to tell them how i felt and

they’d always tell me it was stress and

that would just make me so mad

because i my mother had had a nervous

breakdown so i thought that stress meant

you couldn’t handle your life

and nobody’s going to tell me that i

couldn’t handle life and i thought you

are giving me stress i don’t have stress

you are giving me stress telling me that

i have stress

and i didn’t want to hear any other

diagnosis and then i had

hysterectomy when i was in my

real early 40s because

i was bleeding all the time and that was

fine i was taking hormones all was well

controlled the hot flashes the you know

feeling like going crazy thing

then i had breast cancer and it was a

estrogen-dependent tumor and so then i

couldn’t take any hormones

and i thought that was going to kill me

because

i was working so hard i mean i didn’t go

on tv till i was 50.

i didn’t start the ministry until i was

42. so

i mean i didn’t go on tv until i was 50.

yeah

and you know it’s hard work

to travel and i would do all these

conferences and i would do

everything in the conference i mean

there was a time when i was doing 36

conferences a year

and i mean there were like five sessions

some of them and i would take

every speaking engagement i could take i

mean when i look back i just think

you know that was just really stupid but

i was strong

god did make me strong and he did want

me doing most of what i did

the the thing is it doesn’t take

a lot of tweaking your life

it’s not like you gotta stop everything

you’re doing

right it’s it it doesn’t take a lot of

tweaking

to get to where god wants you to be he’s

not asking you not to be fruitful and

not to do anything

he’s just asking you to take those times

to recover

what would you say now looking back what

would you tell yourself

then now that you know what you know now

what would you do differently because i

what’s interesting to me is you were

building something and so there is so

much hard work that goes into it and you

you have you started from nothing to

what god has done

so there’s a lot of work but how do you

balance that like what would you do

differently

i think the things that i would do

differently is

i would really look at what was what i

was doing that was bearing fruit

yeah that’s good and what i was doing

that i was just doing

yeah that really wasn’t bearing

any fruit and that’s really what i tried

and then then

eventually i even had to get to the

point where i had to look at what was

bearing fruit for our ministry

yep not i’m sure

you know everybody wants a favor and i

don’t ever want to be the kind of person

that won’t do a favor for somebody

i everything that i do doesn’t have to

have a monetary value for me

i mean there’s many times when i go and

speak tell people i don’t even

want an offering that’s that’s a way

that i can give but

i finally learned that if if i’m

constantly

doing favors for other people then

that’s bearing fruit for them

but then i still have everything that i

have to do

to make this work and so i really would

have said no

to more things a lot sooner than what i

did

but i really just didn’t want to say no

to anything i think there’s such a

mentality in our culture to push until

you can push no more

and you you just fight and you you grind

and you do everything you can because

especially as women we’re strong and

capable and independent and we can do

anything we need to

yes but also there’s a price to pay if

you do all of that right and when i

started the ministry i had a baby and

three teenagers

okay i just don’t even know how you got

a baby in three temperatures

wow

a baby and so you didn’t sleep either

well you know actually i did sleep

decently but i probably slept only six

hours a night but i mean i just never

i never quit i mean i worked from the

time i opened my eyes in the morning

until

10 11 o’clock at night and it was

non-stop all the time and then i would

do dumb stuff like come back from a

conference and go to the shopping mall

and

shop the rest of the day and then go out

the next day and shop you know i just i

i didn’t know how to be still i wanted

to be

doing something all the time and

you know when i got real sick

december of 2017

i can say it was a surprise but really

if i look back

and if i’m honest i had been having

different things

that i was ignoring yeah so i just

wonder you know like talking to our

audience

what kind of things are you ignoring

that your body is trying to tell you

yeah that’s a great question yeah

because we do ignore things like i i

don’t want to go to the doctor you know

some people like i don’t like doctors

i’m not going to the doctor yeah

well you know good for you but your body

is trying to tell you something yeah

absolutely

yeah and your body told you under no

uncertain terms

right i mean you just had to make

major changes so for that

young mom who’s watching right now right

she’s building a family maybe she’s

working maybe she’s trying to serve

others along the way

how does she balance that aspect

of i want to do what god wants me to do

and not just everything that that comes

down the pike how does she kind of take

her life back

well different people have different

means of being able to do things but

let’s just say that that you’re a mom

and

you can afford it how about getting a

babysitter once a week for you

even if it’s for you to go have four

hours

that’s good by yourself to just relax to

do something you like

to get a pedicure

get a massage take a walk sit in the

park just be quiet

and to also realize that i can just hear

everyone at home

over and over

i’m out of here you know there may be

people that can’t afford that but maybe

you know another mom that you could

trade with

oh yeah that’s great you know maybe you

know

i’ll do this for you this week if you do

this for me there’s

one of the things i found out is if you

want to do something

bad enough you will find a way

to do it yeah and a lot of times we use

that as an excuse and i know that from

working out i mean for years i just said

there’s no way i can

work out i mean dave kept trying to get

me to work out regularly

you know with weights and i was just

like i can’t i don’t have any time for

that

and so then i would decide to try and

me i’m going to get in shape in two days

i’m doing way too much and i hurt myself

and i say see i can’t do this every time

i try hurt myself

and then finally

i look to myself like you said one day

and everything that used to be up here

was down here somewhere

and i just god just had to speak to me

he said you’re not going to be around

for the last 30 year journey if you

don’t do this

and so people have to get some kind of

exercise they have to rest they have to

sleep they need to drink water not

some sugary drink all the time you can

i’m not saying you can’t

eat sugar but you can’t live on candy

bars and potato chips and

you know there are there are changes

that people need

to make right but i thought there was no

way that i could work out

and now for 16 years i’ve been working

out three days a week

so let me just say again if you really

want to do something bad enough you

can find a way yeah to do it so that

means you started working out when you

were in your 60s

62. so that’s so encouraging

exactly we can start it at any time

and it will make a difference yeah can

we talk about stress a little bit

sure yeah because there’s just so much

that people are dealing with and jay i

think about all that

that you’ve shared that you’ve been

through and so many of our friends who

have connected with what what you’re

saying who are going through really

stressful times in their families

and who who hasn’t been through exactly

exactly yeah

so what are some of the things that

you’ve learned through

through different stressful times that

you’ve been through that help you handle

stress better

well getting angry about things that you

can’t do anything about

is really a huge waste of time

and what is they said like

one hour of anger is equivalent to eight

hours

of work like it may be easy to get upset

but once you get upset it’s much harder

to calm down

and so i have discovered for me that

if i can do something about it when i

first start

feeling that i’m getting angry or upset

yeah if i can put a stop to it early

it’s much easier for me to do it before

i let it take roots

and get real deep so not trying to

change people

who don’t want to change and aren’t

going to change that’s really true

that puts a lot of stress on us and

accepting people the way they are and i

know some people are thinking oh

you know my husband is my husband that

there’s nobody i can accept him the way

that he is and i’m not talking about

accepting sinful behavior

i’m not talking that’s not what i’m

talking about but like

dave has certain things that you know

he’s just not like

i told him one time i said we never talk

about anything deep it’s always the

weather and this and that and something

else he said look this is as deep as i

get take it

this is what you got you know like i’m

the type i i’d like to just sit here all

day and just discuss all my

feelings and my employees you know and

he’s not you know his answer to

everything is cast your care well

i didn’t want to cast myself i wanted

him to

feel sorry for me and he didn’t even

tell me you just want me to feel sorry

for you and i’m not going to and then i

would just go

[Applause]

and so we’re so peaceful now dave and i

we’ve been married 54 years but i had to

learn

that this

this is it yeah i mean you know he i

can’t and he accepts me the way i am

which is not always great and so we we

really

we really should accept people the way

they are there’s nothing worse than

feeling like that somebody

never approves of you yeah and you

constantly have to be trying to change

yourself

to make them happy and it god can do

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