and he has already been in eternity
future it’s hard to imagine that you
have had self-love challenges look who’s
talking
but sovereignty does not just mean that
he has seen it all even now i i struggle
with having to remind myself okay even
with the weaknesses that i know that i
have and the tendencies that i wish
would be a little bit different in my
life
god made me this way as a career i know
that you’re going to equip me for that i
always thought of self-love as oh that
sounds selfish
yeah so
how do how is self-love compatible or
actually an enhancement of being a
person of a woman of faith
well we are all made in god’s image
we are image-bearers of a holy god a
creative god and
a powerful god and so when we love the
package he made us in
we recognize that we’re a reflection of
his creative genius so my skin color and
my hair texture and the uniquenesses
that you have in personality and in
physicality when we embrace that we’re
saying to god
lord thank you for the way you made me
deficiencies weaknesses and all
and i want to surrender all of this to
you to be used by your glory and for
your purpose when we don’t love
ourselves a lot of times we look to
other things for validation success
relationships whatever and those kind of
become our gods our idols absolutely and
we will find always that those things
are lacking you were talking about your
own challenges with self-love can you
just give me an example absolutely
i remember when i was in college oh i
just thought i met the love of my life
and my life would be over without him
and um i went through a season that a
lot of young ladies have gone through
where you just sort of invest everything
into that relationship and this guy
decided he didn’t want to be in a
relationship with me after two or three
years
it was devastating and i immediately
took that as a rejection of who i am as
opposed to just saying in the moment i
see it clearly now but in the moment
instead of just saying we are not right
for each other i took it on as a
personal um reflection of my inability
to
be loved of something that is wrong with
me so my my ability to love myself took
a huge hit
by this one individual rejecting me in
that relationship
i would have never
thought that of you oh yes ma’am
yes it was one of those markers because
i think that’s something a lot of women
resonate with i think that
the
approval of a man sometimes
is something that oh i’m not good enough
that’s the reason that he didn’t choose
me or he didn’t want to continue the
relationship with me so what did what
did you do at that time
to work on yourself
which is the answer well i would say
that it’s less about working on myself
and more about
me um be coming to a better more clear
understanding
of who i am in god that’s what that’s
what the fix was for me that he
loves me
that he approves of me
that i don’t have to do anything to earn
the affection and the approval of god i
think i’ve got a pretty good idea of how
you were probably raised okay
i think i you know i’ve heard your dad
preach i i i think i got a pretty good
idea of how you were raised
what would you say what advice would you
give
in raising healthy
girls
with self-worth
in today’s
culture
i would think that the main thing when i
look back that my parents gave to myself
and my sister speaking specifically
about girls but also to my brothers
was the investment of their time
presence
so less about what tangible things they
were giving us and when i look back
really they placed value on us
by being there but as a father with a
daughter that man male figure giving
that to a daughter um is something that
will shape the way they look at
relationships moving forward what is
your indulgence what do you really just
like to do that people might not suspect
yeah i’m gonna tell you that mexican
food is my love language so if i can get
some good salty chips and some queso and
guacamole my whole my whole day has been
brightened