If you’re feeling drained, it may be time to check where you’re putting your energy.
when you don’t have a sense of priority
in your life and everything feels urgent
it’s a sign that you haven’t figured out
what’s really important now you are open
to everybody’s demand and they all take
up equal space and so by saying yes the
people who don’t really matter you say
an automatic no to those who do by
saying yes the people who essentially
are using you in order to achieve their
own goals now you find yourself unable
to give because you are a limited
resource to the people that God has
entrusted to your care the most so I
have to have watch this a sense of
balance
i-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-i I could preach
about balance you know you got to work
out and pray and eat and all of that but
this is not that kind of seminar what I
mean is you’ve got to be balanced in
what you give weight to that’s what I
mean is that sometimes we are stressed
out because we are giving too much
weight to the wrong words and not enough
weight to the right words and so we’re
out of balance because we have this feed
and everything on our feet is the same
size and because it’s all the same size
we think it carries the same weight so
we live in a state of stress because we
haven’t learned how to weigh it out
you’ve got to weigh it out with when
when someone doesn’t like you sometimes
it doesn’t matter depends on who they
are
[Applause]
they were pulling on me i’ma start
telling you things I shouldn’t the other
week someone was telling me that there
was somebody who hated our church and
came and said it wasn’t that bad I sound
care I know wasn’t that bad in fact not
only was it not that bad
it’s freaking awesome tell him I said
God is in this he is glorious in this
place I’m glad you think it’s not that
bad but I wasn’t really waiting for you
to hand me the award for not that bad it
was not that bad before you decided it
was not that bad
so I was talking to a guy one time about
something here’s the church that was
complicated and I gave him a 30 minute
speech
asking for his advice I got my notebook
ready to hear what he would tell me
after I listed everything that was
happening and he goes he goes Stephen it
doesn’t matter
so I wrote that down you know point one
because I need you to tell me what to do
and do you know he didn’t say another
word it just turned to the person next
to you and look at them and say their
name if you know their name say Stephen
tell them it doesn’t matter no you got
to tell them with that little bit of
gonna do from your diaphragm already
tell them it doesn’t matter
now what you just said is true about
ninety nine point nine nine nine nine
nine nine nine nine nine nine nine seven
three percent scientific number of what
they’re staying up worried about and one
time I was laying in my bed at night and
worrying about something and God spoke
to me through his spirit
you’re staying awake worrying about
something that I’ve already worked out
now when you give weight to that promise
from God when you give weight to the
right things when when I give weight
when I have a clear sense of priority in
my life I’m okay if people are angry if
I say no because my no is a yes to
something that I already decided was
more important than what any given
demand might require of me at any given
moment and this is the thing that that
I’m coming to realize is that Christ is
the solid rock but if you don’t know how
to stand on that rock with the right
balance the devil will push you around
and you will always feel unsettled and
you will always feel tossed and turn but
when you make up your mind what does
matter and what doesn’t matter let me
help you out a little bit what doesn’t
matter what they think what does matter
what God knows search me God know my
mind test me you see you speak to me
it doesn’t matter he was so right
what he was talking about didn’t matter
in fact I thought about writing a book
and calling the book
it doesn’t matter and I’ve already got
my subtitle figured out really and my
first chapter will be called at all I
feel somebody getting their balance back
getting your equilibrium that you give
you’re seeing it right now for what it
is this doesn’t matter this matters that
I keep my faith then I keep a grateful
attitude that I don’t let my situation
contaminate my spirit this matters not
that this matters not that because if
you don’t sort this out you will live in
constant imprisonment to your own
indecision but that went down as number
three we’re making terrible time
indecision is a prison so I want you to
make three decisions before Wednesday if
you’re watching this at a midweek
worship experience you’re running short
on time
the clock is counting I want you to set
a d-day all you procrastinators and
you’re claiming to be thorough I want
you to make I want you to make three
decisions this week I want you to do it
I want you to set aside a day this week
sit down have four cups of coffee so you
numb your rational rational thinking
processes and go in and just make them
just make the decisions and if you make
dumb ones apologize but make the
decision my god 15 minutes to the side
chicken or shrimp in a restaurant
I’m serious you’ve been dating her seven
and a half years and you can’t decide is
she the one well if she’s not get out of
the way Oh Bridget out not just got
somebody in diamond you are the name
do it or go do it or don’t buy the house
or don’t sell the house or don’t stay in
Raleigh or don’t do it at home you can
always move back and now we’re making up
more stuff to give us opportunities for
anxiety and we call it options I don’t
know if it was just growing up in Moncks
Corner you did have to decide where to
send your kids to school there were two
I moved to Charlotte I never saw
anything like it
it’s crazy yes killing us so many
options
I just want gas massage
I did it this week I went in I was nicer
than that anxiety and I told Jess to
send over my notes for my why am i
anxious teaching cuz I felt like I
needed my own notes and I’m gonna keep
him after I write I might give them away
I write a scratching down and then give
them away but somebody else keeps them
and so I said give me the notes and send
them over
I need them she said are you gonna teach
it I said no I need to live it I was
feeling online Sal and I went through my
list and I found this one and the Holy
Spirit hit me and said you’re very
indecisive right now everything
everybody asks you you go yeah when we
get back to that I’m gonna go to go
through the roof you think you’re not
going through a few things you’re not
talking you’re not praying anything like
that just wait until it comes around
again and and it was becoming the way
that I was handling things and so I just
came in that day I made three decisions
I felt I felt like I felt like I had
spent a day at a spa just by making
three decisions and they all started
with me and ended with oh and it felt so
good it’s also good enough try it try it
one two three
[Laughter]
now this only works this only works if
you are living with integrity this only
works if you are living with integrity
and sometimes my anxiety as a result of
a compromise in my integrity it’s kind
of hard to have a peaceful heart when
you’re hiding secrets and feel like a
hypocrite it’s kind of hard to have a
peaceful heart when you’re having to
hope that your wife doesn’t check your
phone to see certain text messages it’s
kind of hard to have a peaceful heart
when you have three snapchats and the
one that your parents think is your
snapchat is just a decoy and now you’re
asking God to give you peace but your
life is so many different pieces the
word integrity means whole whole like in
math class they taught us about integers
whole numbers whole integrity into
everything all one person all the time
and when there are three different needs
that I have to manage for every
different situation it’s kind of hard to
pray the panic away when my own
lifestyle is creating it when I’m trying
to figure out which masks to wear at
church so that no one will see into my
situation at home when there’s work me
and after work me and Friday night me
and 9:30 Sunday morning me it’s kind of
hard for me to have peace when my
foundation is cracked it’s kind of hard
for me to manage all those different
knees because I might send out the wrong
one at the wrong time have you ever done
that
oh I meant the sin preacher me out there
right now it’s kind of hard for for me
to ask God to bless a life that is
divided in so many different directions
now I don’t mean by this that you have
to interact with everybody on the same
level for instance if we were to meet at
Pizza Hut I wouldn’t talk at this volume
do you know how it modulae people say
well you should be the same on stage
that you are out in public well that
would be obnoxious
can you imagine touch three people at
the baseball field scandalous what what
I am saying is that although you might
bring a different approach to different
situations that the essential nature of
who you are remains unchanged in every
encounter so it shouldn’t be like that
for my family to watch me preach and go
like what is that it shouldn’t be like
that it should feel like a continuation
somebody shouldn’t see you on the
television program and go you go to
church
I heard you say hallelujah on the church
service but I hear you say some others
and it’s it’s costing you your peace I’m
not condemning you I’m telling you you
might be anxious sometimes because you
are trying to manage so many different
versions of you and if you would bring
it all together and just be honest
before God and just ask God what David
search me know my heart and if the way
I’m doing it is wrong I want to be
changed
I’m already accepted because of what
Jesus Christ has done for me now God
helped me to align my life with what you
made me to be so that I can be the real
me I want to be the real me the highest
version of me that called me that chosen
me that secured me that stable me that
God loves me and I don’t have to prove
anything to anyone this is my child with
him with her I am well pleased I don’t
have to be anybody else
[Music]
and my cortisol levels just dropped just
by being the real me because all that
other layers of stuff and all that anger
that’s not the real you not in Christ
that’s what David is getting to the
bottom of did you notice that all of my
points are starting with the same letter
the letter I I figure that’s a common
denominator in a lot of our anxiety
search me
God your eyes can see God’s eyes God see
beneath the surface of what the
situation is um anxious because of my
money and I’m anxious because of my help
and I’m anxious because my mom no no no
that might trigger it but the truth of
God’s Word can enable your heart to
transcend this is what the New Testament
preaches is that the peace of God
will actually pass all understand it and
guard your heart and mine in Christ
Jesus so no matter what triggers the
anxiety in any situation
they’ve been said search me and know me
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