7 Steps To Make Your Marriage Last | Jentezen Franklin

and I’m going to give you real quickly

seven ingredients that we must have for

our marriage to last the

distance so the first thing is Faith and

then we see something else in First

Peter chapter 3 and verse one he says

that you are to submit he talks about

accepting God’s plan for your home and

when he does that he starts off by

telling the women to submit to the

husband as the head of the homes 1

Corinthians 11 and verse3 says that God

has placed and I’m just the message boy

I’m just here to give you this and and

and this is what it says he says if you

want to know and listen listen you can

choose to ignore this you can say that’s

that’s not modern enough that’s not

Progressive enough for the way I see it

but he says I want you to know that the

head of every man is Christ and the head

of the woman is the man and the head of

Christ is God

so you must accept God’s plan for the

home the second word is acceptance what

does that mean that means you accept one

another’s role and the man is the head

that does not say the man is the boss

the head of the home is not the boss of

the home then what does it mean what

does the head of the home mean it means

you have as the man the

responsibility of the home you see

equality of worth is established in the

Bible he said we’re neither male nor

female in God’s eyes and he says there’s

no one worth more than the other but

when it comes to function we’re not the

same in the function and God said the

head of the home not the boss of the

home it and the word head means

responsibility it does not mean you have

greater privilege it does not mean that

you have greater privilege it means you

have greater responsibility it means if

the marriage is not working you have

greater responsibility sir to be the

head of the home means if the family is

in shambles you have greater

responsibility it means you take

responsibility it means you have to do

the best that you can do and understand

the failure uh if I let my family Fall

to Pieces it’s not her fault I have to

take

responsibility and I have to understand

and God says if you if you understand

understand this and each one understands

their role then you can begin to have

the ingredients faith and then

understanding the role that each one and

acceptance of that role a lot of fussing

and fighting over this very thing but

once it begins to get in place God can

bless that home thirdly there’s

contentment First Peter chapter 3 it

said that we’re hirs together

when you study the life of Abraham and

you study the life of Sarah they had a

spirit of contentment when they started

out they were not wealthy now Abraham

became extremely wealthy and Sarah

became extremely wealthy the Bible said

they had very much cattle Gold Silver

and land and possessions they were

extremely wealthy later in life but when

they started out they had nothing they

were not wealthy they learn the secret

of contentment and that’s why the Bible

said they’re HS together meaning that if

you don’t have this and you don’t have

that really if you reach that point

where I have my husband I have my wife

and I have my God and I have food and I

have clothes and I am content then you

will begin to see the blessing of God

we’re living in such a materialistic

Society we live in such under such

Financial pressure and we don’t

understand the secret of

contentment when you can get along with

God and with one another and you Jesus

said if you’ve got food and clothing be

content if you’ve got more than that I’m

happy for you if you’ve got just

everything that money can buy I’m happy

for you the Bible said God takes

pleasure in the prosperity of his

servants but to whom little is not

enough nothing is

enough and if you can’t be happy just

you and your wife or you and your

husband and God you won’t be happy when

it’s you and your wife in 10 homes and

10 cars and 10 it all goes back down to

what really matters in life if you have

your wife if you have your husband if

you have your God if you’ve got food and

clothing you have all that you need for

contentment in your life the next thing

that we see in this text the next

ingredient is forgiveness for he goes on

to say in 1 Peter 3 beginning with verse

8 through1 be of one mind having

compassion for one another love for one

another tenderhearted be courteous be

loving in other words what he’s saying

is you got to be forgiving all married

people must learn to forgive not

returning evil for evil and reviling or

or or or just attacking reviling for

reviling but on the contrary blessing

knowing that you were called to this

knowing that if you’re in marriage

you’re called to to to to to not to be

courteous to not render evil for evil to

not render uh attack for attack you’re

called to this and then he goes on to to

say if you want the next verse says

would you like to love life ain’t that

powerful he who would love life how many

of you want to love your life how many

of you are tired of getting up and being

mad how many of you’d like to get up and

love life

today he said I’m going to tell you how

to do it how many of you’d like to see

good days how many Of You’ like to see

good days in your house the Bible said

in Deuteronomy that your home could be

filled with Days of Heaven on Earth it’s

that’s a Bible verse that your days will

be he how many of you’d like to see good

days and how many of you’d like to love

your

life he said then let them refrain and

this is all in context with don’t re

don’t give them as good as they send you

don’t forget be courteous be kind be

forgiving love one another he said and

refrain your tongue from evil and your

lips from speaking Gile the King James

says all married people must learn to

forgive all married people people must

practice forgiveness and you know the

number one thing that destroys homes

literal physical homes is not tornadoes

it’s not

earthquakes it’s

termites the number one Destroyer little

bitty things that you let crawl into

your house and those little things team

up and little things that bitterness

that unwillingness to forgive that

spirit that carries a grudge that Spirit

not rendering evil for evil or railing

for railing but counterwise blessing so

there are three levels that you can live

life on the first level is the hellish

level and the hellish level is when you

give back evil for good that somebody’s

being good to you and doing good to you

and trying to do good to you and you

turn around with a bitter angry spirit

and rail at them and they they you’re

doing they are doing good and you’re

doing evil that’s the hellish level and

then there’s the human level the human

level is well if you’re good to me then

I’ll be good to you if you’re kind to me

then I’ll be kind to you if you’re

loving to me then I’ll be loving to you

that’s human level love I’ll give you

what you give me if you hurt me I’ll

hurt you that’s really how human level

functions I do to you what you do to me

hellish level say I do good to you if

you do evil to me but Heavenly level

says I will do and give you back good

for evil not railing for railing not

attack for attack but good for evil

listen to me and sometimes the wife has

to practice it and sometimes the husband

has to be the one who this time I’m

going to give good from

Evil and we cannot allow ourselves to

not function in forgiveness forgiveness

is so important and the longer we allow

those termites to come up through the

floor and eat away at our homes and

Destroy because of bitterness and

unforgiveness the fifth thing I’m almost

done the fifth thing we see in this text

is

communication he says he that loves life

as I said will refrain his tongue from

evil and his lips from speaking G

Abraham and Sarah were so different the

Lord spoke to me and said Jensen and

Sharice are so

different so different but Proverbs 18

and 21 says you got to learn to

communicate death and life are in the

power of your

tongue and then

romance likewise you husbands dwell

together with them with knowledge dwell

means to live with sharing dwell means

not just to be in the house but to dwell

to live with in sharing the physical

part of marriage giving honor listen to

those words everybody say those words

giving honor to the wife giving honor to

the wife there’s nothing worse than to

hear a guy put his wife down publicly

and privately giving honor giving honor

God help us to give honor give honor to

your wife give honor value show her that

she is the number one human relationship

in your

life sincere

compliments sincere

compliments no cheap

jokes everybody needs

compliments everybody when Sharice tells

me I look good I feel so good I feel

whether I look good or not I believe it

if she tells me

we need to give more compliments to one

another we need to speak

more things if you think it speak it if

you think it if you think they’re

amazing if you notice something and you

see them doing something and you think

that’s incredible it’s so easy to keep

that to yourself but say it give

compliments to one another speak it use

your communication skills keep joy and

excitement and romance in your marriage

call your spouse and check in with them

all day communicate tell them you’re on

your ride home the Love mobile is coming

in sensitize your lips I’ll be

there do something that speaks and

verbalizes your love one for another do

it

spontaneously do it

as often as you can say I love you out

loud let your children hear it let

people see it but most of all let her

know it let him know

it men don’t always want to be the

aggressor men also want to know that

their wife wants them and desires

them how do you fight fair I’m almost

done here’s the last point the last

thing we see in this text is he says

make sure that you do all of these

things that I’ve

said that your prayers be not hindered

the last thing the last ingredient is

prayer prayer in the marriage prayer in

the family prayer in the home praying

for one another agreeing

speaking the name of Jesus over your

family the name of Jesus over your

marriage and I I I know this isn’t some

super duper sermon this morning but if

we could just practice half of what

we’re preaching up here today our homes

we would see good days we would see we

would have a good life we would live a

good life we would see more contentment

and peace and joy and moments that

really is all we have when it’s all said

and done with one another

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