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how do you balance between being a
strong independent woman while still
honoring your husband as the head of the
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household welcome back to loving
fearlessly and I am so looking forward
to diving into some more of the
questions listen to this question how
can I be certain to stay on course as a
wife and a mother well I only wish I
could say here is the recipe but the
only thing certain in life is that
there’s going to be things that are
going to knock you off course and I
again I’m not saying you’re going to
fall I’m not saying you’re going to fail
I’m not saying that you’re going to lose
your salvation but
uncertainty is a constant in life and so
many times people want to say what can I
do well again the word of God the word
of God it’s a lamp to our feet it’s a
light to our path and so the word of God
lights the course it lights the course
but this sense of certainty is always
going to be evasive what you can be
certain about is there’s going to be
change but worrying about it is just
going to stress you out I used to lay in
bed when jna were first married he was
working part-time I was working
full-time and I would lay there in bed
thinking about we have one out and I
thought now if John goes on this mission
trip and dies will I have enough money
to support our child and I would begin
to troubleshoot and I think I don’t know
that I’ve got enough money to pay for
both daycare and our living expenses I
need John to get more life insurance and
I would roll over wake him up in the
middle of the night and say do you
understand that if you die I will not
have enough life insurance to raise me
and Addison and John would look look at
me and be you’re laying in the bed next
to me thinking about me dying I don’t
feel comfortable about that why because
I had to be certain that I knew the
outcome of every single thing if we do
this I got to make sure I’ve troubles
shot okay I know where I know where the
solution is and whenever I would hit a
wall of
uncertainty I would panic but here’s the
certainty that you and I have that God
knows the plans he has for us and their
plans to do good and not to harm us
plans to give us a hope and a future and
I don’t believe that’s just an
individual plan I believe it’s a plan
for your marriage I believe that’s a
plan for your children that God says I
got a hope I’ve got a future I’ve got it
figured out you don’t have to think
about this you just need to move forward
with what I have told you you need to
let my word be that lamp let it be that
light and girl don’t you stress about
this because I’ve got it and when
something shocks you or when an
uncertainty occurs I was not surprised
or knocked off course with this get back
up and just keep moving forward so you
don’t have to worry about it it doesn’t
do us any good to worry about tomorrow
this is one I was super excited that I
got asked this is a question I get
everywhere so I was excited that you
guys did not disappoint me how do you
balance between being a strong
independent woman while still honoring
your husband as the head of the
household okay let’s actually talk about
this how would me being a strong woman
dishonor my husband would being a weak
woman be more honoring to my
husband how would me being independent
dishonor my husband it should never
dishonor my husband me being independent
my husband would say I can totally trust
Lisa and that she knows what to do do in
that situation now I think maybe what
we’re looking for is we’ve Associated
strong with rebellious or independent
with willful so let’s talk about these
terms because see strong is not wrong
God wants you strong he celebrates
strength we always he be strong in the
Lord so we get our strength from him I
am not strong on my own now I could be
willful on my own own but I’m not strong
on my own and I think as women we do
associate strong with harsh strong with
aggression strong with undermining men
but let’s look at the Proverbs 31 Woman
the woman we don’t always like to look
at everything she does adds strength to
her family it says her arms are strong
she reaches them out to the poor it says
that she considers the field and she’s
like I think I’m going to buy it doesn’t
say she goes back back to her husband
who is the strong independent leader she
just buys it whoa that’s independence if
you ask me see she had this ability to
recognize what was good what was
profitable what would help her family so
and it said from the proceeds what does
she do she buys a Vineyard and she
plants it she isn’t like I think I need
to ask my husband if it’s okay if I
weave cloths together and sell them I
also love that it says that her
household is clothed in Scarlet didn’t
say she asked her husband are you okay
if I put everybody in Scarlet clothed in
scarlet and it says she laughs at the
future she laughs at the future it said
because she’s a virtuous woman and a v
virtuous woman is a woman who is a Force
for good that’s what virtuous means a
Force for good if you’re going to be a
force for good you need to be
independent if you’re always dependent
on everybody else’s opinion you can’t be
a force for good what if you’re in
Target and you see somebody in need but
you can’t call your husband and ask his
opinion if it’s okay for you to be a
force for good see you need to have the
freedom to be independent and to be
strong now we’re dependent on God and
we’re interdependent on one another but
we’re not controlling one another just
because I’m independent doesn’t mean I’m
controlling of John my husband and I
have sat down and he has this amazing
areas of strength he’s like Lisa these
are my strengths I’m like they are your
strengths and he said Lisa I see these
as your strengths I’m like these are my
strengths and he’s like how about I do
this and you do that I’m like awesome
we’re not like oh constantly getting
into each other’s business on this stuff
we have a United goal and we both need
to be strong for that if I was like John
I don’t know you know I don’t know if I
should travel and speak at all of these
can you decide for me he’d be like no
just don’t go I don’t have time to think
for you he’s like Lisa if you’re going
to go and do these things you better
have it in your heart because when you
get there you need to have the strength
and the independence to carry the
atmosphere for the spirit of God so
being a strong being an independent
woman these are not wrong things these
are good things and that strong and
independent woman is not strong
independent to pull things away from her
husband she is strong and independent on
behalf of her husband on behalf of her
household so there is something inside
of you that is strong and that’s not
wrong there’s something inside of you
that gains expression in Independence in
Freedom let’s say it that way in Freedom
and I want you to find out what that is
and celebrate it and do it and bring
that good to your household the next
thing said how do you keep your marriage
strong when you’re apart well I think
one of the keys to keeping our marriage
strong when we’re apart is we have a
good time when we’re together when we’re
apart we just do the things that we
would need to do it’s actually sometimes
easier for me when my kids were little
for John to be gone it was easier we had
a different Rhythm we knew when we were
doing the homework we knew we’re eating
dinner I could be much more sloppy with
the kind of quality of food I gave my
kids whereas my husband had stronger
independent ideas about what I was
supposed to cook so for us it was a
rhythm when John was away I didn’t
complain that he was away I didn’t feel
sad that he was away and when he was
home I didn’t complain that he’d been
away I enjoyed him when he was home so I
think everybody has the grace of God on
their life to do what they’re called to
do and whenever you complain I’m just
going to tell you it cuts off the grace
so John and and I we made sure that we
got little opportunities to talk to each
other but if he called right when I was
making dinner I’d be like honey it’s not
a good time if I called right when he
was going to service he’d be like honey
it’s not a good time but that didn’t
mean that we didn’t love each other it
didn’t mean that we didn’t care and it
didn’t mean we didn’t have a good
marriage so you can’t assign huge things
to small things and especially when your
husband travels you got to celebrate the
times you have together so create
opportunities for when you’re together
and don’t fret about when you’re not
together when John is not with me I get
to write books when John is not with me
I get to go to bed when I want to go to
bed when John is not with me I can drink
as much espressos as I want without
anybody saying how many of you had and I
always answer back why would I count why
would I count so we need to be those
people who celebrate our times together
celebrate our strength celebrate our
independence and this is part of loving
fearlessly being yourself and not being
afraid of
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that