“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.” —Philippians 2:14–15 NLT
okay we are going to be talking about
discipline and boundaries and this is
going to be a little bit different
perspective this would be fun this would
be high energy and again I want to say
at the outset I’ve never been a perfect
disciplinary with my kids there’s been
times I’ve done it right there’s been
times I’ve done it wrong there’s been
times I’ve done it totally calm there’s
some times I’ve done it with anger so
this is not like oh Lisa does it perfect
I have made a lot of mistakes but done
certain things right so we want to learn
from the boys advantage and different
things we’re going to talk about
discipline so one of you guys is
favorite phrases
what was that Madison what was your
favorite way all the way and then a
happy way and what was the verse I would
sing to you guys give you everything
without complaining are you kidding me
painting for me and everything might
become blameless and Cheer children of
God I get his end goals Noble I get it
with a song with terrible I have
exchanged the words for my kids because
you’re soaked because it’s horrified
what I say do everything no I don’t do
that one it’s all the way right right
away all the way away and in a joyful
what I collect thanks happy whistling
for happy enough of a change where I can
feel okay saying when I want to read
daddy when I read right away all the way
happy way I heard just yeah yeah yeah
kind of like our response to be like oh
my gosh I guess I like walking away and
then there’s another phrase discipline
is my friend is your phrase Alec will
get disciplined so much that was just
one no he
my parents apparent sighted breaking
like a wild horse okay so so I know that
discipline isn’t a one-size-fits-all
like I remember actually Addison you
were kind of the first child to teach me
that actually before I even had other
children for whatever reason you had
gotten in a habit of lying
you were like afraid of consequences
that you were like my son oh here’s
lunch about things that didn’t even
matter
like why lie about that and it was just
ridiculous like you know I had a sin did
you just walk in the room no I just like
everything was a lie and I remember we
had gone to the bank and I had given you
a lollipop and I know the SunTrust it’s
that dreaded rubber yeah and I said you
can have the lollipop when we get to the
next big so you can’t eat it in the car
because John has a no-food rule in the
car and so I went to get to know the car
seat and the lollipop was gone
I mean ease up like a stick in your hand
and lollipop all over your face and I’m
like Addison did you eat the lollipop
which I guess I should have said you ate
the lollipop probably she set me up too
fast that’s a good lesson and you just
like started I didn’t eat it I couldn’t
and I remember I took you in my lap and
sat you in the front seat of the car and
I just said hey this is working this is
not working so we’re going to have to
give some mercy here because we need to
stop a cycle right it had just become
this bad cycle and so you know I found
that you actually did not like to
displease us and so it was really hard
if I put you in a place where you
displeased whereas you were you were
geared to actually wanting to do it
right now Austin the other hand was a
very different of the sort of dialed in
no but it wasn’t a bad it just was a
very different approach you know and I
would say it this way like if I saw an
outlet if I told you know don’t that
will shock you that will hurt you you
you would just want to like you want to
just be clear that you understood what I
was saying you were two years old you
point out and I say on you’d say uh-uh
and it was everything was good that’s if
I said to Austin
he would just look it right at me and
just stick his hand on the outlook like
did you just tell me no because I’m
gonna have to now touch that yeah got to
get Austin to not touch the outlet uh
well I can’t exactly remember the outlet
issues I’m regaining shock yeah I do
remember thinking my head finger and
just like wow that’s okay to this day
there’s actually a so salad today that
it’s all it’s like you can say like and
jump even for little things like I
remember for you if I laid your clothes
out in the morning
you were happy you put your clothes on
you’re like I don’t have to think about
that you on the other hand if you wait I
fell laid your clothes that you bet no I
don’t want to wear this I had to like
just like him pick it so we had to just
involve him in the decisions to set him
up for a win you were fine with
something wasn’t a battle worth fighting
– it wasn’t that’s a thing as parents we
have to choose our battles yes and and
you were I mean I was like the end of
the day he’s habits clothes on otherwise
you’re disciplining kids all day all day
long all day crazy every day yes and
I’ve learned that as a parent like this
is this really mattered I really need to
put boundaries here and set my kid ups
where he’s going to fail or she’s going
to fail or should I choose like hey this
is an area where I’m going to really
enforce discipline because it’s an
important area
you