Would you like less conflict in your life? Today, Joyce Meyer discusses how to disagree agreeably and exchange conflict for God’s perfect peace on Enjoying Everyday Life.

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I can’t help it it’s just too hard but

but but

excuse me but you need to get rid of

your butt


hello and welcome to today’s program I’m

so glad you’re here today I’m teaching

about how you can keep peace in your


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in I don’t want to miss it and I don’t

want you to miss it now here’s today’s


if there’s anything that the devil works

at really hard

is trying to keep us upset

make you mad

get you mad at somebody get you


get you to worry Jesus said in John 14


my peace

I leave with you

I give it to you I bequeathe it to you

one translation says

not as the world gives do I give to you

but my own special piece

see the world can be at peace when all

of its circumstances suited but we can

be at peace

when nothing is going right in our life

because we have a helper

we have somebody that we can ask to take

those problems and work them out for us

and I’m going to tell you a secret you

may not know this but you have

permission to enjoy your life while you

have a problem


and a lot of people don’t know that they

think they’re obligated to worry about

their problems

but what you’re supposed to do is cast

your care on God

and trust that he’s taking care of your


and go ahead and live the life that

Jesus Paid such a terrible price

for us to have

my peace I leave with you not as the

world gives do I give unto you but my

own special peace I now give unto you

but then in the Amplified Bible the

classic version it says this so stop

allowing yourselves

to be upset and Disturbed

stop allowing yourselves to be fearful

and intimidated

so Jesus has done his part

now we need to do our part

you say I can’t help it well that’s one

excuse you need to throw away tonight

I can’t help it it’s just too hard but

but but

excuse me but you need to get rid of

your butt


all the time we’re like well I know I

should do this but I know I shouldn’t do

this but

I know I shouldn’t say this but

and we need to just stop all that

because nothing that God tells us to do

is too hard for us to do we just have to

really really want to how many of you


are serious about your relationship with



I mean I hope so because if you’re not

you might as well go ahead and leave now


I don’t go out and do this


because I’m looking for something to do

I really want to see people

have what Jesus died for us to have

I want you to know who you are in Christ

have confidence be bold be strong

enjoy your life

and have the things that Jesus died for

you to have one of the things that Paul


that I really like is he said I am going

to take hold of those things for which

Christ Jesus died to take hold of me and

I love that statement

I am going to press on to take hold of

those things for which Christ Jesus died

to take hold of me are you enjoying the

things that Jesus died for you to have

he didn’t just die for us so we could

have a miserable life and then someday

go to heaven

there’s so much more to being born again

than just someday getting to go to

heaven that’s wonderful and I guess it

would be worth it if there was nothing

other than that but John 10 10 is very

clear the thief comes only to kill to

steal and destroy but Jesus said I came

that you might have and enjoy your life

and have it in abundance to the full

until it overflows

and Romans 14 17 says the kingdom of God

is not made in drank but it is


peace and joy in the Holy Ghost

righteousness means that you know by the

blood of Christ you have been made right

with God

that your sins have been forgiven

you don’t have to live guilty and


when you know that you can have peace

and when you have peace you can have joy

so we’re going to work on these things

tonight together

and help everybody make a whole lot of


when Dave and I began

our ministry five years I taught home

Bible studies that was


beginning years I didn’t know hardly

anything and

I would just learn things and teach them

to the people that were coming to the

Bible so there’s about 25 people every

Tuesday night

in my home and I was faithful of that

and I probably studied even harder for


than I need to now because I know more

now than I did then but then

I felt like I was supposed to stop those

Bible studies and I

went to work at a church a new church in

my city


they asked me to start a women’s Bible

study which I did and it grew very

rapidly and got very large it got to be

between four and five hundred ladies a

week coming to this meeting

and so then God really began to deal

with me that he was finished with me


thank you Lord

and that I was to take the ministry and

go north south east

and West and I had many confirmations

because I was petrified

to step out I had no money

I had no real qualifications I had

nobody to help me I had God

and nobody knew me north south east or

west so I kind of felt like Abraham when

God said

pack up your tent and go

but it didn’t tell him where to go

well that’s the way I felt the day I

walked out of my job

they didn’t take a big offering for me

and give me a bunch of money to start my

Ministry I left with a calculator and a

dented desk

to go north south east and west


I just did the only thing that I knew to


we lived in St Louis which we still live

there and so we started a meeting once a

month in North St Louis East St Louis

West St Louis and South St Louis

we went north south east and west

and I did thousands of meetings of 50

people and 70 people and 60 people and

boy if I ever got 100 people I thought I

had died and gone to heaven

and uh

don’t despise the day of Small


if you’re faithful if you want to be

used by God and you’re faithful in those

early little beginning years


things will grow

it always takes longer than we’d like it


but to be very honest with you that is


shooting stars usually fall down about

as fast as they went up

you got to have time to learn to grow

and to go through some things

come on I said to go through some things

because that’s how we gain experience

Hebrews 5 says that Jesus

gained experience through the things

that he suffered

and they equipped him to become the

author and the source of our salvation

I love that

I’m going to quote that again because it

says a mouthful



through the things that he suffered

and he gained experience

how many of you have some experiences

well if you cannot be bitter about them

then maybe God could just use them

to help somebody else

you might not have a Ministry like this

but we’ve all got a Pulpit it may be

your backyard defense it may be your

desk at work but we all have a Pulpit


and if everybody who calls themselves a

Christian would just get out in the

world and act like one

not just in church but out in the world

where people are looking for Jesus you

may be the only Jesus they’ll ever see

and you can preach without ever opening

your mouth


and so the experience that Jesus had

equipped him

and some of you don’t realize it right

now because you’re going through some

tough times but you’re getting equipment

you’re getting what you need

come on how many of you have ever asked

God to use you


honey it’s on


see we say all these oh God

I surrender all


okay we’ll give that a try and see

how serious you are well give an extra

ten dollars in the offering well

I don’t know about that you know

we want to surrender the things we want

to surrender but

God wants to do such a deep work in

people and it is so needful at this hour

in history

the World by and large does not respect


and the reason why they don’t is because

so many people just put on a little

Christian jewelry and go to church and

carry their Bible around but they don’t

really live the life out in the world

where people need to see them


and so when we started our ministry

north south east and west God spoke

something to my heart

and we’ve been very diligent to try to

obey that now

here’s some 40 years later or 37 years I

think so I’ve actually been in Minnesota

about 47 years

and um

he said I’m going to give you three

things to do and if you do them I’ll

bless your ministry

whatever you do do it with excellence

we serve an excellent God

and we should not be sloppy in any way

shape or form

if you’re going to do a job do it the

best that you can do it


always be a person of integrity

that means tell do what you say you’re

going to do and then do it


so many people they don’t keep their


I’ll call you next week and we’ll go to

lunch and you no more intend to call

them than

fly you’re just trying to get rid of


you know the story I mean the workmen

that don’t show up when they’re supposed

to and all that and

I mean the world has just gotten sold


and he said Keep The Strife out of your


out of your marriage out of your home

and out of your ministry

he said well why would that be important

well because

God works where there’s peace

and you’ll you’ll see as we go through

tonight that

where the unity

there’s anointing

and if you don’t know what the anointing


my son is in his early 40s and he said a

lot of people my age don’t even know

what the anointing is

well it’s the presence and the power of

God on your life it’s what makes things


I can stand here and say all the right

things but if I had no anointing on my


you would all be so bored it would be


why would people come as far as some of

you did and pay 15 to get into the

parking lot

just to hear some

ladies stand and talk

because it’s God’s anointing

that breaks the bondages off of Our


but if I if I want to have that

anointing on my life if you want to have

that anointing on your life and you want

what you do to be blessed


you have to learn how to live in peace

and in agreement

and let me say quickly you don’t have to

agree with everybody to live in


you can learn how to disagree agreeably

you you have a right to your opinion but

you don’t always have to give it



I want to say that again you have a

right to your opinion and I should

respect your right to have your own


we’re not all alike we have different

personalities we come from different


we think differently sometimes even

about the same thing

but God expects us to get along

we’ve got to find a way to get along and

that’s only going to happen

through get ready for the word



one person is a tiny bit happy


of all the Christian virtues I think is

the hardest to come by and the hardest

to maintain

because there is nothing in our flesh

that wants to Humble itself we want to

be first we want to be in charge we want

to be right we want to have the last

word we don’t want anybody telling us

what to do

and that’s especially a problem today

I mean people don’t want don’t tell me

what to do

I mean we’ve even had people come to a

Christian Gathering like this and we’ll

have a section blocked off where we

don’t want people to sit and they’re

like I said where I want to

well just get out of here you ain’t

gonna learn nothing


because you don’t even have a heart open

to learning anything if that’s your


Proverbs 14 30.

a calm and an undisturbed mind and heart

now just just get this

a calm and an undisturbed mind and heart

are the life and health of the body

you know how many people are sick just

because they’re mad

or how many people are sick just because

they worry all the time

85 percent of all illnesses the illness

is real but the root cause of it is


and you can take all the pills you want

to take

but it’ll be just like playing that game

whack-a-mole if you ever saw that

you can knock it down one place and

it’ll pop up somewhere else

so I mean it is important to me that you

understand tonight that this is not just

a nice little message that I threw

together to come to Austin

and preach

but I want by the grace of God and the

help of the Holy Spirit to somehow get

you convinced that you

you gotta

have enough humility

to wait on God for things and not try to

make everything happen yourself did

did we ever see Jesus lose his peace


I mean he got accused of stuff all the

time he didn’t even answer people

whatever you think

why do we think that we have to try to

prove that we’re right all the time

you know being right is highly overrated

let’s trust God enough

to stay under his mighty hand

and let him exalt Us in due time and all

it takes sometimes is just to shut your


oh but that is so hard

when somebody accuses you of something

or they say something to you you don’t

like we have to defend ourselves

we have to convince you that we’re not

like that

you’ve got it wrong

we argue about so many things that just

don’t make any sense when I think now

about the things that Dave and I used to

argue about

you talk about stupid

I mean it was stupid on steroids

I mean I can I can remember us arguing

about who an actor was on TV

I always say Dave thought everybody was

Henry Fonda I don’t know if you know who

he is he’s long gone now so some of you

may have never heard of him but it would

make me so mad that is not Henry Fonda

yes it is no it’s not yes it is no he’s


you always think everybody’s Henry fund

and then he’d say you are you could

don’t say that word always you always

say I always and I don’t always foreign

how many of you agree that we argue over

stupid stuff don’t

doesn’t even make any sense


we’re going somewhere

and I think he should go a different way

to get there

and so that becomes a big thing

well why are you going that way

well why couldn’t I just be quiet and

let him go the way he wants to


you know we just need to let the man


just let him drive


a man does not want to be told anything

when he’s behind the wheel of the car

he does not want to be told anything

aren’t you guys you like me now don’t

you guys see I’m helping you


well we’ll get around to some things for

you later

but I just want to lay this groundwork

so you see how silly it is

how useless it is when there’s such

serious things going on in the world

and when God so desperately needs us

to represent him

in a way that people are going to

respect and cannot deny

people can argue with you about

thousands of things but if you can get

out in the world and just walk in love


didn’t Jesus say one new commandment I

give unto you that you love one another

just as I have loved you



humility is required in order for us to

live in peace

Jesus loves a gentle quiet spirit

first Peter 3 3 and 4.

let not yours be merely external


with elaborate interweaving and nodding

of the hair of the wearing of jewelry or

the changes of clothes and that doesn’t

mean you shouldn’t wear jewelry or wear

clothes or fix your hair


what he’s saying is you spend so much

time on the outside

trying to impress each other

Now ladies just

I say this in a spirit of love so just

take it that way

if we spent as much time

getting ready spiritually

as we spend trying to look cute when we

go out

need I finish

I mean I don’t look like this when I get


I had to work on this a long time

now you got to wash the hair you gotta

you put on the makeup you gotta curl the

hair you got to comb the hair

you got to try on your clothes if you

don’t like them you got to put on

another set of clothes and you put on

another set of clothes and we look at it

every which way that we can look at it

and then there’s the other side of it

there’s the people that you look at them

and say did you not look in the mirror

this morning

but it’s all part of

how we’re going to represent God

and how we’re going to live before him


let yours not just be getting the

outside already

but verse 4 let it be the Inward

adorning and beauty of the Hidden person

of the heart

with The Incorruptible and unfading

charm of a gentle and a peaceful Spirit

which is not anxious or brought up


but is very precious

in the sight of God

I’m going to tell you a secret you may

not know this but you have permission to

enjoy your life while you have a problem

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