We had a Q+A Bonus session with Joyce, Beth & Chris and we received a lot of great questions.
I made a decision yesterday so hello on
my sister a decision for Christ for
Christ yesterday so my question is I
left a very friendship and she was a
very open not follower of Christ didn’t
like discuss anything about Christ and I
was born a Catholic and we had a very
bad breakup and I prayed that for
release I prayed do we get back together
do we become friends again do we so my
question is for healing when do you let
go when do you continue to pray when
when do you know when it’s right to
release get on the bus and go I think
that’s what we’re talking about
yesterday or do you continue to pray
because it was such a huge part of your
life or is she a season and that season
has gone away that one’s yours Chris you
haven’t said anything
a good question that is a very powerful
question and make sure to get some
people that are more seasoned than me to
do that in my when I first surrendered
my life to Christ there were a couple of
friendships that had to dramatically be
cut off because they would have dragged
me back into just some patterns of
destructive behavior that weren’t great
and as painful as it was it would have
been more painful because eventually it
would have ended up probably there
meaning we had to go to separate paths
anyway you can make that really painful
and go kicking and screaming or not now
when you’ve got a tender heart and you
want to also obey the Lord so you don’t
just want to be rude to people and
sometimes you think there was say a
relationship with my family that I
didn’t get on great with but God had me
I want you to stick around in this and I
want you to go the extra mile so in one
case I actually had to take a deep
breath and do what was really hard which
was to stay and work through it when it
came to some relationships for my own
sake and I’m sure for theirs to the Lord
would have had I had to cut them off
there were places I couldn’t no longer
visit I had to be dramatic hugely
because you’re very very vulnerable in
that moment so that’s why I’m saying
that to you okay I don’t where you all
are yeah I have a I have a little saying
that I got hold up a long time ago you
can hang with somebody as long as
there’s a chance for you to affect them
but if they start to infect you
that’s good choice then you got to move
on it’s
because we don’t we don’t want to run
from everybody that’s not a believer
they need people to be an example to
them and so I’m all for continuing to
try to work in somebody’s life as long
as I’m having some kind of an effect
even if it’s a long time in between
times when I see progress if I’m having
an effect but if it starts to infect me
and I start to feel compromise or I
start to feel tempted you know in some
way then that’s it I you know I know
that we can’t take it we’re all three of
us answer everyone but I guess you can
see any woman of any amount of decades
has had this happen so let me throw this
in real quickly – and Carly
you said nothing that’s making me think
this so just let me go a different
direction with this answer this you did
not reflect this in any way but I have
learned ladies that very often one way
you know a codependent relationship is
if it will not tolerate change if you
decide that you really want to make a
change but that friendship won’t change
with you very often they would rather
quit than change and that’s not a
healthy friendship that’s good so keep
that in mind Sperry painful there’s
nothing easy about even saying it let
alone living it but I do want to tell
you that that is the nature of
codependency is it wants that it feeds
off of that off of that inner woven as’
and once you try to clean up those lines
that thing’s going arrived