Tune in as Lisa + the girls talk through some of the deepest longings in our hearts—from marriage to careers to momming—and how to hold on to hope when those desires don’t fit others’ expectations or our timetable.
LISA: GOD IS SO TENDER
WITH INFERTILITY.
AND SO, WHETHER YOU DON’T
FEEL CALLED, OR YOU HAVEN’T
BEEN BIOLOGICALLY ABLE,
OR LIKE, ME, YOU MISSED
THE WINDOW BECAUSE THERE
ARE JUST THINGS IN YOUR LIFE
THAT TOOK A LONG TIME TO HEAL;
I THINK THAT TENDS TO BE ALMOST
LIKE THE SCARLET LETTER A.
[MUSIC]
GINGER: HEY, EVERYONE.
GET IN HERE.
THIS IS THE PERFECT TIME FOR YOU
TO BE HERE BECAUSE THIS
IS JOYCE MEYER’S TALK IT OUT
PODCAST, WHERE JOYCE SHARES
THE WORD OF GOD, IN HER
PRACTICAL, NO-NONSENSE WAY
THAT WE ALL LOVE.
AND MY FRIENDS, AND I,
TALK ABOUT THE REAL STUFF
OF LIVING IT EVERY DAY,
AND WE DON’T HOLD ANYTHING BACK.
I’M GINGER STACHE, WITH JAI,
AND ERIN CLULEY, THREE FRIENDS
WHO ARE ALL IN VERY
DIFFERENT STAGES OF LIFE,
AND WE’RE GOING TO TALK
ABOUT THAT A LOT TODAY,
WHO UNDERSTAND
THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING HONEST,
LOVING WOMEN AROUND YOU.
WHEN WE NEED A LITTLE EXTRA
HELP, WE CALL UP OUR FRIEND,
MS. JOYCE, BECAUSE SOMETIMES,
YOU JUST NEED TO TALK ABOUT
LIFE WITH YOUR GIRLFRIENDS.
SO, CONSIDER YOURSELF ONE OF US,
GET ON IN HERE, BECAUSE TODAY,
WE ALSO HAVE OUR BEAUTIFUL
FRIEND LISA HARPER WITH US.
LADIES: YAY!
LISA: I’M SO HAPPY
TO BE WITH YA’LL, SO HAPPY.
I WAS JUST FEELING SO SORRY
FOR THE PERSON WHO SAW ME
OUT OF THE CORNER OF THEIR
EYE AND THOUGHT, “OH, YAY.
MS. JOYCE IS THERE.”
I’M SO SORRY.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: I’M SO SORRY,
BUT I’M SO HAPPY
TO BE WITH YOU ALL.
GINGER: THAT’S KIND
OF MY LIFE.
IS THAT, “OH, YOU’RE NOT JOYCE.”
LISA: JUST THAT DEEP
DISAPPOINTMENT, WHEN THEY
REALIZE YOU’RE NOT JOYCE.
“NO, I’M NOT JOYCE.”
GINGER: SORRY, YEAH.
WELL, WHAT WE’RE DOING
TODAY IS GOING TO BE, I THINK,
REALLY DEEP AND IMPORTANT,
BUT ALSO A LOT OF FUN BECAUSE
YOU CAN’T HELP BUT HAVE
FUN WITH THIS GROUP.
AND IT IS FOR EVERYBODY,
WE’RE TALKING ABOUT
THE HEART OF A WOMAN, TODAY.
SO, WE’RE GONNA TALK ABOUT
THE DESIRES THAT GOD PUTS
IN OUR HEARTS, AND HOW THOSE
ARE MET, AND HOW, SOMETIMES,
IT FEELS LIKE MAYBE,
THEY’RE NOT BEING MET.
SO, WE’RE GONNA TALK ABOUT
MOMS AND REAL-LIFE SITUATIONS,
AND DISAPPOINTMENTS,
AND A LOT OF THINGS THAT MANY
OF YOU MAY BE GOING THROUGH.
SO, LET’S JUST START.
LISA, IF YOU DON’T MIND,
FILL EVERYBODY IN ON YOUR PATH
TO MOTHERHOOD, WILL YOU DO THAT?
LISA: PATH TO MOTHERHOOD,
YEAH, IT WAS A BUMPY ONE.
I AM 58.
I JUST TURNED 58 YESTERDAY.
SO, I AM 58 NOW.
GINGER: HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
LISA: THANK YOU,
IT WAS A GOOD ONE.
GINGER: YOU KNOW, ME TOO,
HIGH-FIVE.
ME TOO.
LISA: YOU’RE NOT 58.
GINGER: I AM FIFTY–WE ARE
THE SAME AGE.
LISA: WHAT ARE YOU TAKING?
I NEED WHATEVER YOU ARE TAKING.
YOU LOOK GREAT.
GINGER: THANKS, YOU TOO.
LISA: YOUR SKIN HAS MORE
ELASTICITY THAN MINE.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: THE REASON I SAY MY
AGE IS, MY DAUGHTER IS JUST 12.
AND SO, I BECAME A MOM,
AT THE AGE OF 50, THROUGH
THE MIRACLE OF ADOPTION.
I WAS TELLING A FRIEND,
RECENTLY, ‘CUZ SHE JUST SEES
MY LIFE NOW, AND SHE’S LIKE,
“YOUR LIFE IS SO FULFILLED,
AND YOU SEEM SO HAPPY.”
I WAS LIKE, “YOU KNOW,
GOD HAS BEEN SO GOOD.”
MY WHOLE LIFE HE’S BEEN GOOD.
BUT I WAS JUST THICK AS A BRICK
IN MY TWENTIES AND THIRTIES,
AND I DON’T MEAN
IN THE COMMODORES, KINDA WAY.
I JUST, WAS REALLY,
REALLY BROKEN.
THERE’S SOME MOLESTATION
IN MY BACKGROUND, AND SO, I WAS
REALLY DRAWN TO ABUSIVE MEN.
AND GOD PROTECTED ME FROM
THE GUYS, I WAS MOST ATTRACTED
TO, AND THE FEW, GOOD,
GODLY GUYS, I DATED,
GOD PROTECTED THEM FROM ME,
‘CUZ I WAS HOT MESS EXPRESS.
AND SO, BY THE TIME,
I GOT TO MY FORTIES, AND GOD
HEALED KIND OF THE DEEPEST
ROOTS OF TOXICITY–
YOU KNOW, HOW YOU CAN
KNOW JESUS AS YOUR SAVIOR,
BUT YOU DON’T YET KNOW HIM,
AS LIBERATOR?
I JUST LIVED THERE
FOR A LONG TIME.
SO, I KNEW–I KNEW, I NEEDED HIM
TO DELIVER ME FROM MY SINS.
YOU KNOW, I’D WALKED THE AISLE
AND GAVE MY HEART TO JESUS,
WHEN I WAS A LITTLE KID.
I JUST DIDN’T THINK HE LIKED
ME VERY MUCH.
I CARRIED SHAME FOR A REALLY,
REALLY LONG TIME.
AND SO, BY THE TIME,
I GOT TO MY FORTIES, I’M NOT
SAYING I WAS PERFECTLY FIXED,
BUT I THINK THE DEEPEST
ROOTS OF THAT BROKENNESS,
HE HAD SO GRACIOUSLY
AND REDEMPTIVELY PULLED OUT.
BUT I REALIZED, “I’M NOT GONNA
BE A MOM,” BECAUSE AT THAT
POINT–I DON’T KNOW IF YOU
CAN SAY THIS ON TALK IT OUT,
BUT MY OVARIES WERE RAISINS.
GINGER: YOU’RE VERY
WELCOME TO SAY THAT.
JAI: WE TALK ABOUT OVARIES
AND UTERUS.
LISA: SCORE, SCORE!
GINGER: WE TALK ABOUT
RAISINS, TOO.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: I’M SO GLAD,
‘CUZ IT’S IN LEVITICUS
AND SONG OF SOLOMON.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: BUT I THOUGHT,
YOU KNOW, I KNOW GOD ISN’T
CAPRICIOUS, BUT I’M JUST NOT
GONNA GET TO BE A MOM,
BECAUSE I SABOTAGED SO MANY
DECADES, WHEN I SHOULDA,
WOULDA, COULDA, EITHER BEEN
ADOPTING, OR HAD A CHILD
OF MY OWN, OR MARRIED, AND–
GINGER: SO, TALK ABOUT
THAT SHAME.
IT SEEMS LIKE THERE WAS
EVEN FALSE SHAME WITH
THAT ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE.
LISA: HUGE SHAME.
THERE’S EVEN SHAME–
AND I DON’T–I REALLY DON’T
WANT TO SAY ANYTHING THAT’S
UNKIND OR SOUNDS BITTER,
BUT I DO THINK, UNWITTINGLY,
THE CHURCH MAKES AN IDOL
OUT OF MOTHERHOOD
AND OUT OF MARRIAGE.
AND I CAN’T TELL YOU HOW MANY
TIMES THAT I WOULD WALK INTO
A CHURCH AND JUST GO, “OH, CRUD.
YOU KNOW, I DON’T FIT
IN THIS PLACE.”
AND I LOVED THE CHURCH,
I LOVED THE BRIDE OF CHRIST.
I JUST DIDN’T ALWAYS FEEL
LIKE I WAS WELCOME THERE.
NO ONE WAS UNKIND.
IT WAS, AGAIN, I THINK,
MOST OF THE TIME, IT WAS JUST
A SUBCONSCIOUS THING.
I REMEMBER, ONE MOTHER’S DAY–
I LIVE IN NASHVILLE TENNESSEE.
ONE MOTHER’S DAY, I WALKED INTO
CHURCH AND THERE WERE
LITTLE KIDS, BEAUTIFUL, LITTLE
PUMPKINS CARRYING THOSE FLAT,
KINDA MARTHA STEWART BASKETS,
YOU KNOW, THAT YOU COLLECT
ROSES IN, OR DAISIES.
THEY WERE AT EACH
OF THE ENTRANCES,
AS YOU WALKED IN THE SANCTUARY.
AND THEY WERE HOLDING THESE
DAISIES, AND AS YOU WALKED PAST,
THESE PUMPKINS WOULD GO,
“ARE YOU A MOTHER?”
AND THEN, YOU KNOW, IF YOU SAID,
“YES,” THEY’D HAND YOU A DAISY.
AND ALL THE WOMEN, I WAS AROUND,
WERE LIKE, “YES, OH,
THANK YOU, HONEY.
THAT’S SO SWEET,”
AND THEY’D WALK IN.
AND I THOUGHT,
“DO I LIE, IN CHURCH?”
OR DO I SAY, “NO, I’M NOT
A MOTHER!”
YOU KNOW?
JAI: “I DON’T GET A DAISY.”
GINGER: “DO I TURN AROUND
AND RUN THE OTHER WAY?”
LISA: YEAH, AND I JUST
THOUGHT, “THIS IS JUST WEIRD.”
AND OF COURSE, NOBODY WAS
PLANNING THAT EVENT THINKING,
“LET’S MAKE THE OLD,
40-YEAR-OLD WOMEN,
WITH, YOU KNOW, WHO ARE
IN ELASTIC PANTS AND HAVE
NO CHILDREN, FEEL WEIRD TODAY.”
IT JUST WAS KIND OF THIS MISS.
AND SO, I GOT TO WHERE I JUST
WOULDN’T GO TO CHURCH
ON MOTHER’S DAY.
I’D GO TO STARBUCKS,
GET THE BIGGEST FRAPPUCCINO
THEY HAD ‘CUZ I THOUGHT IF JESUS
WANTED US TO DO PALEO,
HE WOULDN’T HAVE SAID
HE WAS THE BREAD OF LIFE.
SO, I WOULD GET AS MANY CARBS
AS I COULD, AND REALLY GRIEVE
THOSE DAYS, BECAUSE I THOUGHT,
“I HAVE MISSED IT.
I BELIEVE HE’S A GOOD GOD,
BUT BECAUSE, I WAS A TRAIN
WRECK, I’VE MISSED THAT.”
GINGER: I LOVE THAT
YOU’RE SHARING THIS BECAUSE,
I’M SURE THAT, THERE ARE
A LOT OF OUR FRIENDS,
WHO ARE LISTENING RIGHT THERE–
RIGHT NOW, WHO EITHER HAVE BEEN
OR A CURRENTLY ARE–OR LET
ME BRING IN ANOTHER GROUP
OF PEOPLE, THOSE WOMEN
WHO HAVE NOT FELT CALLED
TO BE A MOTHER, AND IT FELT
LIKE THERE’S SOMETHING
WRONG WITH THEM.
LISA: ABSOLUTELY.
AND YOU KNOW, INFERTILITY,
IN SCRIPTURE IS–
GOD IS SO TENDER
WITH INFERTILITY.
AND SO, WHETHER YOU DON’T
FEEL CALLED, OR YOU HAVEN’T
BEEN BIOLOGICALLY ABLE,
OR LIKE, ME, YOU MISSED
THE WINDOW BECAUSE THERE
ARE JUST THINGS IN YOUR
LIFE THAT TOOK A LONG
TIME TO HEAL; I THINK THAT
TENDS TO BE ALMOST LIKE
THE SCARLET LETTER A.
IT’S JUST THE SCARLET LETTER,
YOU KNOW, NEGATIVE M.
YOU’RE NOT A MOM.
SO, YOU’RE KIND
OF A SECOND-CLASS CITIZEN WHEN
IT COMES TO SPIRITUAL COMMUNITY.
AND I’M LIKE, “GOLLY, JEEPERS.”
FIRST OF ALL, SCRIPTURE
DOESN’T DEFINE A MOTHER
AS ONE WHO HAS HAD CHILDREN,
BECAUSE THERE’S AN ELEMENT
OF MOTHERING, AND ESPECIALLY,
FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS,
IT IS TIME FOR WOMEN TO STAND
UP AND GO, “I WILL MOTHER
IN THE HOUSE OF GOD.”
TO MOTHER IS TO NURTURE,
TO MOTHER IS TO BE THE SOURCE.
DEBORAH–I WAS–WHEN WE WERE
ALL PRAYING ABOUT THIS,
IN JUDGES, THERE’S THIS VERSE–
IS IT OKAY IF I READ A VERSE?
GINGER: ABSOLUTELY.
DEBORAH’S MY FAVORITE,
SO, READ AWAY.
LISA: OH, I LOVE DEBORAH,
I’M LIKE, IT’S ALL I DO NOT
TO GET A DEBORAH TATTOO
ON MY CALF.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
ERIN: CAN WE COME,
WHEN YOU DO IT?
GINGER: YEAH,
WE’LL COME ALONG.
LISA: CAN’T YOU JUST WAIT
TO MEET HER IN GLORY.
I THINK SHE’S GONNA WEAR
LEATHER PANTS, LIKE LISA BEVERE.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: DEBORAH–IT’S IN
JUDGES, CHAPTER 5, VERSE 7.
AND IT SAYS, “THE VILLAGERS
CEASED IN ISRAEL–
THEY CEASED TO BE–”
IN OTHER WORDS,
ISRAEL IS DECLINING IN HOPE,
IN POWER, IN SIGNIFICANCE.
AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS,
‘CUZ SHE ALWAYS SEEMS
REALLY HUMBLE.
YOU KNOW, THE REST
OF HER STORY, SHE IS NOT–
YOU JUST DON’T SEE HER KINDA
WITH A WONDER WOMAN CAPE.
BUT I LOVE THIS VERSE, IT SAYS,
“ISRAEL HAS CEASED
TO BE UNTIL I AROSE.
I, DEBORAH, AROSE
AS A MOTHER IN ISRAEL.”
AND YOU GO, NOW, THAT’S WHAT
IT MEANS TO BE A SPIRITUAL MAMA.
IT IS NOT NECESSARILY ABOUT
HAVING CHILDREN, BIOLOGICAL,
OR ADOPTED, OR STEP,
OR CHILDREN THAT YOU
WALK ALONGSIDE AND PARENT;
IT’S ACTUALLY, MORE ABOUT GOING,
“I AM A SOURCE OF SPIRITUAL
NURTURING, AND WHETHER
I GET TO DO IT WITH MY OWN KIDS,
SOMEBODY ELSE’S KIDS,
OR THE YOUNG WOMEN AROUND ME,
GOD HAS CALLED ME TO USE
THE HEART HE’S GIVEN ME,
AS A WOMAN, TO MOTHER
THE PEOPLE AROUND ME.”
I THINK GOD WAS WHISPERING
TO ME LONG BEFORE I BECAME
AN ADOPTIVE MOTHER,
“IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO BE A MOM.
IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO STAND UP,
IN THE HOUSE OF GOD,
AND BE A MOTHER AND NURTURE
WHERE I’VE CALLED YOU NURTURE.”
SO, I AM SENSITIVE TO WOMEN
WHO FEEL LESS THAN BECAUSE
THEY ARE NOT LITERAL,
OR BIOLOGICAL, OR ADOPTIVE
MOTHERS, OR STEPMOTHERS.
I’M REAL SENSITIVE, ‘CUZ I KNOW
WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE.
AND I KNOW THE UNINTENTIONAL
SHAME THAT SOMETIMES THEY CARRY,
ESPECIALLY, AROUND CHRISTIANS.
JAI: CAN WE TALK ABOUT
THAT REAL QUICK.
I WOULD LOVE TO PUT A PIN THERE,
JUST BECAUSE I’VE JUST BEEN
AROUND SO MANY YOUNG MOTHERS–
OR ACTUALLY, LET’S START WITH
WOMEN THAT ARE SINGLE.
YOU KNOW, LIKE, THE PRESSURE,
AND EVEN, LIKE YOU SAID,
WE LOVE THE CHURCH, LOVE
THE BRIDE, BUT SOMETIMES,
HISTORICALLY, THE CHURCH
HAS PUT SO MUCH PRESSURE
ON YOUNG WOMEN OF LIKE,
“WHY AREN’T YOU DATING YET?”
OR, “WHY AREN’T YOU
MARRIED YET?”
AND THEN, WOMEN START
TO BELIEVE–
EITHER YOU DO SOMETHING
LIKE WHAT I DID,
AND I GOT MARRIED WAY EARLY.
YOU KNOW, WHICH I FIND OUT NOW,
20 YEARS LATER, NOW THAT I’M,
YOU KNOW, DIVORCED, THAT LIKE,
THAT WAS TOO SOON.
BUT THE CHURCH PRESSURE,
BECAUSE THEY THOUGHT THAT
IF I DATED THEN THAT MEANT,
I WASN’T A VIRGIN OR THAT
I WAS PROMISCUOUS.
SO, THAT PRESSURE.
AND THEN, “WHO ARE YOU DATING?”
“WHAT ARE YOU DOING?”
AHH…
“I KNOW HE’S SINGLE…
I KNOW…”
THEN, YOU GO TO THE WHOLE,
ONCE PEOPLE DO GET MARRIED,
IT’S LIKE THE WEEKEND,
THEY COME BACK FROM
A HONEYMOON, “WHEN ARE YOU
GUYS HAVING KIDS?”
‘WHERE’S THE BABY?”
IT’S JUST THE PRESSURE–
AND IT’S NOT JUST THE CHURCH,
BUT I DO–I WOULD LOVE LIKE–
I LOVE THE FACT THAT
YOU’RE SAYING, YOU KNOW,
THAT YOU’RE SENSITIVE TO THAT.
BECAUSE THAT’S A PARADIGM SHIFT
THAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN
WITHIN THE CHURCH.
LISA: AMEN, AND I THINK
WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT.
I DON’T THINK WE TALK ABOUT
IT ENOUGH BECAUSE YOU DON’T–
YOU KNOW, I JUST THINK THERE’S
A LOT OF INHERENT SHAME THERE.
BUT ALSO, PEOPLE GO, “OKAY,
THEOLOGICALLY, GOD DOES TALK
ABOUT MARRIAGE A LOT AND THEN
HE USES MARRIAGE AS METAPHOR,
AND YOU’VE GOT HOSEA AND GOMER.
AND YOU’VE GOT–” YOU’VE GOT
ALL THESE METAPHORS OF MARRIAGE,
AND IT’S JUST LIKE,
THERE ARE METAPHORS OF MARRIAGE,
BUT HE USES THOSE METAPHORS
OF MARRIAGE, NOT TO SAY, THIS
IS THE BE-ALL, END-ALL.
TO SAY, “THIS IS WHAT YOU
UNDERSTAND OF INTIMACY.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH ME
IS EVEN BETTER THAN THAT.”
YOU KNOW, LIKE,
I LOVE SONG OF SOLOMON.
I USED TO THINK I COULDN’T
GO THERE ‘CUZ YOU KNOW,
IT’S LIKE, DANIELLE STEEL
IN THE NEW TESTAMENT.
JAI: IT’S A NAUGHTY BOOK!
LISA: IT IS.
AND IT’S CRAZY.
AND YET IT WAS A HOLY RESPONSE
TO MESOPOTAMIAN PORNOGRAPHY.
AND SO, WHEN YOU GO,
“LET’S JUST CALL IT WHAT IT IS.”
IT WAS GOD GOING,
“WE’RE GONNA REDEEM THIS.
WE’RE GONNA GET THIS
OUT OF THE GUTTER,”
BUT IT’S STILL SUPER SENSUAL.
BUT YOU LOOK AT THAT BOOK–
AND TO ME, THE COOL THING
ABOUT THAT BOOK IS NOT HOW
SPICY THEIR HONEYMOON WAS.
IN CHAPTER 4, YOU KNOW,
“BLOW ON MY GARDEN,”
AND YOU’RE LIKE, “WOWZER.”
YOU DON’T EVEN NEED TO HAVE
AN IMAGINATION TO KNOW
WHAT HE’S SAYING.
THE BIGGER ISSUE IS WHEN
YOU GO, “OKAY, JESUS
IS THE DIVINE BRIDEGROOM.”
IN SONG OF SOLOMON 4:9,
HE SAYS, “WITH ONE
GLANCE OF YOUR EYES,
YOU CAPTURED MY HEART.”
YOU GO, “OH, MY HEAVENS.”
IF, AS BELIEVERS, WE COULD EVEN
GET THE TINIEST PIECE OF THAT
AND GO, “I CAPTURE–”
I DIDN’T GET THAT.
AND I THINK THAT’S
ONE OF THE THINGS THAT
MESSED ME UP SO MUCH BEING
SINGLE, AND COMING FROM
A BACKGROUND OF ABUSE,
IS I THOUGHT–I JUST DIDN’T
THINK I WAS WORTH MUCH.
SO, I WOULD PUT MY HEAD DOWN,
AND BE REAL DUTIFUL FOR GOD.
AND THEN, THE FACT THAT
I DIDN’T MARRY, JUST KIND
OF EXACERBATED THAT.
IT WAS LIKE, “OH, WELL,
THEN DEFINITELY, I’M KIND
OF A SCRATCH AND DENT GIRL
BECAUSE NOBODY PICKED ME UP
AND MADE ME THEIR VERY OWN.”
IT TOOK ME SO LONG TO GO,
“OH, THAT’S ACTUALLY
ABOUT ME AND JESUS.”
THE GOD WHO BREATHED
OUR UNIVERSE INTO EXISTENCE,
LOOKS AT ME, AND SAYS,
“ONE GLANCE, LISA,
YOU CAPTURED MY HEART.”
I THINK IF WE GOT WOMEN
TO START THERE,
WOMEN WOULD CHOOSE BETTER.
YOU WOULDN’T HAVE MARRIED
WHEN YOU WERE LITTLE GIRL,
BECAUSE YOU WOULD HAVE
RECOGNIZED, “YOU KNOW WHAT?
LET ME SIT IN HIS AFFECTION
FOR A WHILE UNTIL I’M BAKED.
AND THEN, ONCE,
I’M THROUGH COOKING WITH HIM,
HE’S MY MAIN MAN.
THIS IS MY SECURITY.
THIS IS WHO I AM.
SO, I’M GONNA BE ABLE
TO HAVE A LIFE PARTNER.
I’M GONNA BE ABLE TO HAVE
A HUSBAND WITH SKIN ON,
BUT I’M NOT GONNA EXPECT HIM
TO MEET ALL MY EMOTIONAL NEEDS.
I’M NOT GONNA THINK I’M BETTER.”
ERIN: I WAS JUST GONNA SAY,
WHEN I WAS–I HAD JUST GRADUATED
FROM COLLEGE AND SO I WAS
SINGLE AND FEELING THAT
PRESSURE OF, “WHY ARE
YOU NOT MARRIED YET?
YOU DIDN’T LEAVE COLLEGE
WITH A SPOUSE?
YOU DID IT WRONG, ERIN.”
LISA: YOU DIDN’T
GET THE MRS DEGREE.
ERIN: EXACTLY, IT WAS
REAL EMBARRASSING.
BUT I READ THIS BOOK,
I THINK MY MOM GAVE IT TO ME,
CALLED “THE BRIDE.”
AND SO, IT WAS ALL ABOUT
SONG OF SOLOMON.
AND SO, I HAD THIS REVELATION,
WHEN I WAS LIKE 23,
OF EXACTLY WHAT YOU’RE SAYING.
I REMEMBER, WHERE I WAS.
I WAS IN MY BEDROOM
AND READING THAT, AND IT WAS
THIS AMAZING VISUAL IMAGE OF–
I’M GOING TO SHARE WITH YOU.
I WAS IN THIS HALL AND EVERYBODY
WAS DANCING, AND FROM ACROSS
THE ROOM, JESUS CAME IN,
AND HE SAW ME, HE LOCKED
EYES WITH ME.
AND SO, I REMEMBER, LIKE,
HIM JUST WALKING TO ME,
AND HE SAW NOBODY ELSE.
THERE WAS NOBODY ELSE
IN THE ROOM, BUT ME, AND HIM.
AND HE SAID, “WILL YOU
DANCE WITH ME?”
AND THAT WAS A LONG TIME AGO,
BUT I STILL REMEMBER THAT.
AND I WILL GO TO THAT PLACE WHEN
I FEEL LIKE MY HEART IS HURT,
OR I FEEL ALONE OR REJECTED.
“ERIN, I SEE NOBODY ELSE
RIGHT NOW, BUT YOU.
AND I’M GONNA WALK TOWARDS YOU.”
AND IT CHANGED IT ME.
BECAUSE I DIDN’T SEEK OUT
A MAN TO MEET THAT PLACE.
JESUS, ALREADY I DID THAT.
LISA: THAT’S RIGHT.
THIS WHOLE THING,
IT DRIVES ME NUTS.
WHEN I–AND I’VE HEARD IT
IN SO MANY–DID Y’ALL,
WHEN YOU WERE YOUNGER–
JAI, I FEEL LIKE YOU AND I,
CAN KIND OF GO HERE.
DID YOU ALL HAVE TO DO
THE DATING, WAITING,
AND MATING SEMINARS?
JAI: OF COURSE.
LISA: I’M LIKE,
“YA’LL THAT’S GROSS.
CAN YOU CALL IT SOMETHING ELSE?”
GINGER: DATING, WAITING,
AND MATING?
LISA: DATING, WAITING,
AND MATING, YEAH, ACK!
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: I GOT INTRODUCED
AT A CONFERENCE–THIS WASN’T TOO
LONG AGO, AND THE GENTLEMEN–
I MEAN, HE WAS REAL NICE.
IT WAS A SINGLES CONFERENCE.
THIS WAS THE ONE AND ONLY
SINGLES CONFERENCE
I’VE EVER SPOKEN AT.
CUZ, I’M LIKE, “NOPE, I DON’T
DO PIZZA OR PUTT PUTT.”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: BUT HE INTRODUCED ME,
AND TRYING TO BE KIND,
AND HE SAID A FEW THINGS ABOUT
MY BACKGROUND, THEN HE SAID,
“LISA IS A BEAUTIFUL,
SINGLE, CELIBATE WOMAN.”
AND I WAS LIKE, “I’M SO SURE!
YOU JUST SAID THAT IN CHURCH!”
IT’S LIKE, “YO, THIS
IS SO INAPPROPRIATE!”
AND I’M NOT SHY.
I MEAN, I’LL TELL
YOU EVERYTHING.
I WILL LAY IT OUT THERE,
EXCEPT I WILL NOT TELL
YOU MY REAL WEIGHT.”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: I’LL FUDGE
THAT A LITTLE BIT.
GINGER: YOU GOTTA DRAW
THE LINE SOMEWHERE.
LISA: YOU GOTTA HAVE
ONE BOUNDARY.
BUT I THINK WE JUST–
WE HAVE THIS–WE’VE GOT
IT OUT OF CONTEXT.
AND WHEN YOU GET IT BACK
IN CONTEXT, AND YOU GET THAT,
HE IS THE LOVE OF OUR SOUL,
THAT’S WHERE WE START.
THEN ALL THIS OTHER STUFF–
THE ROMANCE OF IT–
YOU RECOGNIZE, “OKAY,
THAT’S GONNA FADE.
GOD IS IN THIS TOGETHER.”
WE GO INTO IT WITH
THE EXPECTATIONS OF THE GUY,
ON THE, YOU KNOW,
THE KNIGHT IN SHINY ARMOR
ON THE WHITE HORSE.
AND I’M LIKE, “NO, ACTUALLY,
THAT’S JESUS.
JESUS IS THE ONE WHO
RIDES THE WHITE HORSE.”
AND WHEN YOU’RE FOUND BY HIM,
WHEN YOU’RE KEPT BY HIM,
WHEN YOU LEARN WHAT
IT IS TO LOOK INTO HIS
COUNTENANCE AND GO,
“HE THINKS I’M THE GREATEST.”
I WAS IN A SEMINARY CLASS,
JUST A FEW WEEKS AGO,
AND IT WAS SO COOL.
Y’ALL KNOW THIS.
BUT YOU KNOW THOSE THINGS,
WHEN YOU HEAR A TRUTH AGAIN,
AND YOU GO, “DANG.
I NEED TO RELEARN THAT.
THAT WAS LIKE, SO GOOD.”
WELL, OUR PROFESSOR WAS,
YOU KNOW, TALKING ABOUT
ALL THIS DEEP STUFF THAT
I CAN’T PRONOUNCE.
AND HE WAS TALKING ABOUT
THE INFINITE NATURE
OF THE CHARACTER OF GOD.
AND YOU KNOW WE’RE ALL LIKE,
“UH-HUH, UH-HUH…”
TAKING NOTES, THE THINGS
THAT’LL BE ON THE TEST.
AND HE SAID, “WHAT DO
YOU THINK–” AND THERE WERE
ONLY A FEW OF US IN HIS CLASS.
“WHAT DO YOU THINK, WHEN YOU
THINK OF THE INFINITE
NATURE OF GOD?”
AND YOU KNOW, I’M THINKING,
“HOW MUCH GREEK AND HEBREW
DO I DO REMEMBER FROM
MY MASTER’S COURSE?”
‘CUZ I WANNA SOUND SMART.
AND HE GOES,
“HERE’S WHAT I WANT YOU
TO KNOW, ABOUT THE INFINITE
NATURE OF GOD.”
HE SAID, “BECAUSE HE IS
INFINITE, HE DOESN’T MAX
OUT WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE.”
AND THEN, HE CAME TO EACH
OF US–WE’RE ALL LIKE
IN OUR FORTIES AND FIFTIES.
AND HE STOPPED RIGHT
IN FRONT OF US, AND HE SAID,
“ERIN, YOU’RE GOD’S FAVORITE.”
AND HE SAID, BECAUSE
HE’S INFINITE, “JAI, YOU’RE
GOD’S–” AND ALL US,
BY THE TIME–AND LIKE,
FIFTY-YEAR-OLD MEN WERE WEEPING.
AND THAT’S WHAT YOU JUST SAID.
GOD GAVE YOU THE VISION,
AND THE REST OF THE ROOM
DISSIPATED, AND IT WAS
JUST YOU AND HIM.
THAT’S ACTUALLY,
BIBLICALLY DEFENSIBLE.
THAT’S THEOLOGICALLY SOUND.
BECAUSE HE’S INFINITE IN NATURE,
WE ARE HIS FAVORITE.
GINGER: AND THAT’S,
THAT DESIRE OF THE WOMAN’S
HEART THAT WE’RE TALKING ABOUT.
BECAUSE ONE THING I LOVE
IS HOW VERY, VERY DIFFERENT,
WE ALL ARE AS WOMEN.
AND IT’S REALLY EASY TO THROW
EVERYBODY IN THE HALLMARK
MOVIE BUCKET, YOU KNOW,
THAT WE ALL WANT THE SAME THING.
WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE DESIRES
OF A WOMAN’S HEART,
WE DO HAVE THAT DESIRE,
LIKE YOU WERE SAYING,
TO DO SOMETHING MEANINGFUL
IN OUR LIFE, TO–
WHETHER YOU CALL THAT
NURTURING, OR LEADING,
OR MOTHERING, WHATEVER
IT MAY BE, WE DO ALL HAVE THAT
DESIRE TO LEAVE A LEGACY, TO SOW
INTO OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES.
BUT WE ALSO HAVE HOLES IN OUR
HEARTS, THAT ONLY GOD CAN FILL.
AND THERE’S SO MANY DIFFERENT
THINGS THAT WE ALL TRY
TO FILL THAT WITH.
FOR YOU, ERIN, AND I KNOW THAT
YOU WANTED TO BE A MOM,
FOR A LONG TIME, BEFORE YOU
REALLY SAW ANYTHING HAPPEN.
AND THAT WAS A HARD
THING FOR YOU TOO.
ERIN: YEAH, IT WAS
REALLY HARD.
IT WAS–
IT WAS REALLY DIFFICULT.
AND I REMEMBER THINKING–
JUST LIKE YOU, I HATED
CHURCH ON MOTHER’S DAY.
TERRIBLY PAINFUL, ESPECIALLY,
‘CUZ EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE,
THEY’D MAKE ALL OF THE MOTHERS
STAND UP.
AND SO, YOU ARE THE ONE
STILL SITTING DOWN.
LISA: RIGHT.
ERIN: SO, I’D NEVER
FELT SO ALONE.
LISA: AND DIDN’T YOU FEEL
LIKE YOU FAILED.
ERIN: YEAH.
LISA: AS IF YOU HAD
ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT.
ERIN: YES.
LISA: YEAH.
ERIN: AND I KEPT THINKING
LIKE, “IF I DO THIS, THEN GOD
WILL GIVE ME WHAT I WANT.
OR IF I HAD DONE THIS,
THEN I WOULD HAVE HAD A CHILD.”
LISA: AND THE WORST THING
IS THE PEOPLE WHO IMPLY–
I GET THIS ABOUT MARRIAGE
ALL THE TIME.
“LISA, WHEN YOU STOP
WANTING A HUSBAND,
WHEN JESUS FULFILLS YOU,
THEN HE’LL BRING SOMEONE.”
AND I’M LIKE, “HOW OLD WERE
YOU WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED?”
“I WAS TWENTY-TWO.”
“OH, I BET YOU HAD AMAZING
SPIRITUAL MATURITY
AT TWENTY-TWO.”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: I’M SO SURE, YOU ARE
GONNA TELL ANOTHER BELIEVER
“IF YOU PRAY HARD ENOUGH.”
I’M LIKE, “GOODNESS, GRACIOUS.”
THE DAMAGE WE DO, TO MAKE
EACH OTHER FEEL LESS THAN.
SOME OF IT IS JUST,
WE LIVE IN A BROKEN
WORLD THAT’S MARRED BY SIN.
THAT’S A WHOLE LOT OF IT.
ERIN: I JUST HAD SO MANY
CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD ABOUT
IT AND WE GET ANGRY AT HIM.
AND LIKE YOU WERE SAYING,
THE HOLES IN YOUR HEART, LIKE,
“WHY AM I NOT ENOUGH?
WHY CAN’T I HAVE THIS THING
THAT YOU–I FEEL LIKE YOU
PUT ON MY HEART TO HAVE?”
AND I’VE TALKED TO SO MANY
WOMEN WHO’VE EXPERIENCED
THE SAME THING.
I GOT TO HAVE TWO KIDS,
BUT I STILL HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE
WAITING FOR BABIES FOR YEARS.
I READ THIS AMAZING BOOK,
AND THIS WOMAN WAS TALKING
ABOUT HOW SHE WROTE THIS BOOK
IN THE MIDST OF HER WAITING,
BECAUSE SHE’S TIRED
OF NOT GETTING TO HEAR
THAT GOOD OUTCOME.
SOMETIMES, WE HAVE TO WAIT,
AND IT HURTS.
SO, IT’S HARD.
JAI: AND MY STORY’S REALLY
DIFFERENT, BECAUSE–
MINE WAS SO DIFFERENT
BECAUSE I WAS HYPER SPED
INTO MARRIAGE.
SO, I WAS–I’M A PASTOR’S KID.
WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT
IT SO MUCH ON THE ON THE SHOW.
BUT WHEN, ME AND MY EX,
ACTUALLY GOT ENGAGED…
LISA: HOW OLD WERE YOU JAI?
JAI: I WAS 20 WHEN
I GOT ENGAGED.
AND I WAS ONLY A JUNIOR
IN COLLEGE.
AND MY PLAN, THAT I THOUGHT ME,
AND GOD HAD ALREADY FIGURED
IT OUT, WAS THAT I WASN’T
GONNA EVEN THINK ABOUT
GETTING MARRIED UNTIL
AFTER I FINISHED GRAD SCHOOL.
‘CUZ THAT WAS–
I WAS LIKE, FOUR–
YOU’LL LIKE,
GO FOUR-YEAR COLLEGE,
TWO YEARS FOR MASTERS,
THEN, I’LL BE READY
TO THINK ABOUT IT.
ERIN: AND I’M SURE YOU
COMMUNICATED THAT TO GOD.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
JAI: I COMMUNICATED
THAT TO GOD.
AND I COMMUNICATED THAT
TO MY EX-HUSBAND.
I COMMUNICATED TO MY FATHER,
WHO–NONE OF THEM ACTUALLY CARED
ABOUT WHAT I THOUGHT ME,
AND GOD HAD DONE.
SO, WHEN I ACTUALLY GOT ENGAGED,
I TOLD MY EX AT THE TIME,
I SAID, “WE WON’T GET MARRIED
UNTIL, YOU KNOW, WE CAN HAVE
A LONG ENGAGEMENT.”
OF COURSE, THAT WAS FAUX PAS
FOR THE CHURCH WORLD.
THEY WERE LIKE, “YOU GUYS
ARE CLEARLY HAVING SEX.
YOU GUYS ARE DOING
THINGS UNBIBLICAL.”
IT’S LIKE, “NO, WE’RE NOT.
I’M ACTUALLY IN SCHOOL,
AND I NEED HIM TO SHOW ME THAT
HE CAN ACTUALLY BE SOMETHING.”
YOU KNOW?
“AND I NEED TO SHOW MYSELF
THAT I CAN BE COMMITTED
TO THIS RELATIONSHIP.”
AND SO–BUT MY DAD ACTUALLY
PUSHED OUR MARRIAGE UP,
AND WE GOT MARRIED THAT SUMMER.
HE ANNOUNCED IT AT CHURCH–
YEAH, IT WAS SPED AHEAD.
AND SO, I FELT LIKE
I WAS KINDA LIKE STUCK.
LISA: AND A LITTLE
BIT OF A MASCOT.
JAI: OH, MY GOSH, YES!
AND THEN, I–HONESTLY,
LIKE THE NIGHT OF THE HONEYMOON
IT WAS LIKE, “WHAT THE HECK
AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?
LIKE, I’M NOT EVEN
READY FOR THIS.
LIKE, I WASN’T EVEN
THINKING ABOUT THIS.
THIS WASN’T EVEN ON MY RADAR,
FOR, AT LEAST ANOTHER
THREE OR FOUR YEARS.”
LISA: YOU SHOULD
TALK ABOUT THAT MORE,
‘CUZ I’VE HAD SO MANY WOMEN,
IN PRIVATE GO–IT’S,
“DO I HAVE SEX?
DO I HAVE SEX?”
AND THEY WANNA HONOR GOD,
THEN ALL THE SUDDEN,
IT’S THE HONEYMOON NIGHT
AND THEY’RE LIKE, “UH!”
GINGER: HOW DO YOU
FLIP THE SWITCH?
JAI: FROM A SAINT
TO A STRIPPER, IT’S LIKE,
“I DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO THIS.”
I’M LIKE, “CAN WE WATCH
A MOVIE?”
GINGER: THAT’S FROWNED
ON TOO.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
JAI: AND IT’S LIKE,
“WHAT DO I DO?”
WELL, THEN LIKE, LITERALLY,
I HAD SUCH A–I’M SURE WE’LL
TALK ABOUT THIS IN SOME
OTHER EPISODES, BUT LIKE,
I HAD SUCH A HARD TIME
WITH INTIMACY, AND YOU KNOW.
WHICH, I’M OWNING–
IN DIVORCE FACE,
I’M OWNING THINGS THAT–
“WHAT WERE SOME OF THE EARLY
YEARS’ ISSUES?”
YOU KNOW, I WAS SO AFRAID OF IT,
BECAUSE I WAS TOLD NOT TO.
IT WAS LIKE, “THE FORBIDDEN!”
AND SO THEN TO SWITCH INTO THAT
ALL OF A SUDDEN, AND THEN,
END UP GETTING PREGNANT,
LIKE AFTER BEING MARRIED,
MAYBE ABOUT THREE MONTHS,
WE FOUND OUT.
I WAS PREGNANT FOR THREE
MONTHS, AND I FOUND OUT LIKE,
A FEW MONTHS LATER.
‘CUZ I WAS STILL IN SCHOOL,
AND I WAS STILL
A CHEERLEADER IN SCHOOL,
LIKE I WAS STILL MOVING.
SO, I WAS PREGNANT,
AND I’M LIKE, I THOUGHT,
IT WAS LIKE, “GOD,
WHAT IN THE WORLD?”
LIKE–I WOULDN’T TRADE
MY KID FOR ANYTHING.
BUT I WAS SO HYPER SPED
INTO THIS WORLD, OF NOW LIKE,
NOW I’M IN–I HAVEN’T
FINISHED COLLEGE.
AND THEN, I LIKE, MY GRADUATION,
I REMEMBER, MY GRADUATION,
I WAS ALMOST LIKE,
NINE MONTHS PREGNANT.
AND I’M LIKE, “WELL, THIS IS NOT
WHAT I ENVISIONED.”
LIKE, WADDLING ACROSS THE STAGE.
YOU KNOW, AND SO, MY SITUATION,
EVEN THOUGH I WANTED MY KID,
AND I WANTED HER,
BUT I JUST WASN’T PREPARED.
I WASN’T–IT FELT LIKE GOD WAS–
I ALMOST FELT PUNISHED
BY HIM DOING IT SO QUICKLY.
‘CUZ LIKE, “WHAT IN THE WORLD?”
LIKE–AND THAT ACTUALLY
TRAUMATIZED ME.
ENDED UP HAVING A COUPLE
OF MISCARRIAGES AFTER THAT,
BUT I’M LIKE, “I DON’T EVEN
WANT ANY MORE.”
LIKE, IT JUST REALLY
DID A NUMBER ON ME.
SO, MY STORY–LIKE, HEARING
YOURS AND LIKE, MAN, IT’S JUST–
LISA: BUT THAT’S SO REAL,
BECAUSE WE TEND TO GO,
“OH, THIS IS LEGITIMATE PAIN,”
AND NOT GO, GOSH, THE WOMAN
WHO GOES, “WE ARE REALLY
STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY,
AND I AM FERTILE MYRTLE.
AND OF COURSE, I’LL LOVE
THIS CHILD, BUT I WASN’T
EXPECTING A SIXTH.”
AND I SEE THAT TOO.
BUT THEY ARE AFRAID TO SAY
ANYTHING IN SMALL GROUP,
‘CUZ PEOPLE WILL GO, “THEY ARE
A BLESSING FROM THE LORD,
AND THESE QUIVERS IN YOUR ARROW”
AND YOU’RE LIKE, “OF COURSE,
I’M GRATEFUL, AND I KNOW
GOD IS SOVEREIGN,
BUT SOME OF THIS IS HARD.”
GINGER: THERE’S SO MUCH
IN ALL OF THIS, THAT GOD KNOWS
OUR INDIVIDUAL HEARTS,
BUT WE DON’T ALWAYS KNOW
OUR HEARTS AS WELL AS GOD DOES,
YOU KNOW.
FOR ME, I WAS–
I WAS FIERCELY AGAINST ANY
STEREOTYPICAL THING OF A WOMAN.
JAI: SHOCKER.
THAT’S A SHOCKER.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
GINGER: SO, I WAS LIKE,
I KNEW THAT I DID NOT HAVE
A MOTHER’S GENE IN MY BODY,
ANYWHERE.
I WAS NOT GONNA
DO THE MOTHERHOOD THING.
YOU KNOW, IT JUST, IT WASN’T ME.
LISA: WHY, GINGER?
DID YOU HAVE A STEREOTYPE
THAT WAS LIKE, PINK AND PASTEL,
AND LACE?
GINGER: YOU KNOW, I THINK
IT WAS MORE, I HAD GOALS,
AND I KNEW WHAT GOD WAS
CALLING ME TO, I THOUGHT.
THOSE ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.
SO, I WAS WALKING WITH THE LORD.
BUT I REALLY FELT LIKE HE WAS
ASKING ME TO DO THESE THINGS,
AND THAT MOTHERHOOD WAS
NOT SOMETHING HE PUT IN ME.
AND I THINK A LITTLE BIT OF ME,
THOUGHT I WAS BROKEN.
LIKE I DIDN’T HAVE THAT NATURAL
TENDENCY THAT OTHER MOTHERS DO.
I LOVED KIDS, AND I DON’T
KNOW HOW THAT WORKS,
BECAUSE I’VE ALWAYS BEEN DRAWN
TO KIDS AND THEY’RE DRAWN TO ME.
BUT I DIDN’T HAVE THAT
BABY THING, WHERE LIKE,
“LET ME HOLD YOUR BABY,” AND,
“I CAN’T WAIT TO HAVE MY OWN.”
I WAS LIKE, “I WANT TO NURTURE
PEOPLE IN OTHER WAYS.
I WANT TO BE A LEADER.
I WANT TO SPONSOR
CHILDREN WHO NEED HELP.”
YOU KNOW, ALL THESE
OTHER THINGS.
ERIN: CULTURE TOLD YOU THAT
YOU WERE DOING IT THE WRONG WAY.
SO, THEREFORE,
YOU SHOULDN’T BE A MOTHER.
GINGER: EXACTLY.
SO, I DEALT WITH A LOT OF,
“WHAT’S WRONG?”
LISA: SECOND-BEST INSTEAD
OF FIRST BEST.
GINGER: YES, YEAH,
AND SO, IN PSALM 37,
WHERE IT SAYS, “DELIGHT YOURSELF
IN THE LORD AND HE WILL GIVE
YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART.”
IT WAS NOT AT ALL,
WHEN I STARTED PRAYING
THAT PRAYER, ABOUT GETTING
WHAT I WANTED.
IT WAS ABOUT GOD,
PUTTING THE DESIRES IN MY HEART,
THAT WERE IN LINE WITH HIS WORD.
AND SO, AFTER A WHILE
MY FEELINGS ABOUT MYSELF,
AND OUR FAMILY, AND MOTHERHOOD,
AND ALL THOSE THINGS CHANGED.
BUT WHAT’S SO BEAUTIFUL
ABOUT IT, IS IT DIDN’T TAKE
AWAY THOSE OTHER THINGS,
THAT DRIVE TO LEAD PEOPLE,
AND TO SEE GOD WORK
IN DIFFERENT WAYS.
YOU KNOW, I STILL BELIEVE
THAT EVERY WOMAN,
WHOEVER THEY ARE,
GOD HAS PUT SOMETHING
SPECIFIC IN THEM.
AND WE DON’T ALL HAVE
TO FIT INTO THE SAME BASKET.
WE DON’T HAVE TO LOOK THE SAME,
DO THE SAME.
WE CAN LOVE OURSELVES,
NO MATTER WHAT, BECAUSE HE DOES.
LISA: HOMOGENEITY’S
UNATTRACTIVE.
GINGER: YES.
LISA: WHEN YOU SEE
THE SAME THING, I’M LIKE,
“WELL, THAT’S JUST LIKE
STEPFORD WIVES,
THAT’S LEMMINGS, THAT’S NOT–”
I THINK, BECOMING A MOM OLDER–
BECAUSE WHEN I WAS YOUNGER,
AND I GREW UP IN THE SOUTH,
THERE WAS THAT STEREOTYPE
OF KIND OF THE,
“OZZIE AND HARRIET,”
AND IT LOOKED A CERTAIN WAY.
AND–BUT GETTING OLDER
AND SEEING PEOPLE LIKE YOU,
SEEING PEOPLE LIKE LISA BEVERE,
WHO’S YOU KNOW,
WEARING LEATHER PANTS
AND SWINGING A SWORD AT 60.
SEEING–I THOUGHT, “OH, THERE’S
NOT THIS NARROW PARADIGM.
THESE ARE WOMEN WHO ARE
RUNNING HARD TOWARD JESUS.”
AND LEADING–ISN’T WEIRD THAT
YOU GREW UP IN CHURCH,
BUT YOU THOUGHT BEING
A MOTHER AND BEING A LEADER
WERE TWO SEPARATE THINGS,
WHICH IS CRAZY.
GINGER: I DID, I DID.
AND THEY’RE NOT.
AND I THINK, EVEN FOR MEN,
MEN NEED TO KNOW THAT TOO.
YOU KNOW, THERE’S SOMETHING
ABOUT BEING A LEADER THAT
YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO LOVE
AND NURTURE THE PEOPLE
IN YOUR CARE.
IT’S CALLED BEING A SHEPHERD.
AND YOU KNOW,
THAT’S HOW GOD SETS IT UP.
SO, AS WOMEN THERE ARE SO MANY
DIFFERENT THINGS IN OUR HEARTS,
SO MANY DESIRES.
I GOT A MESSAGE FROM SOMEONE
THAT REALLY TOUCHED ME.
AND SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT
BEING IN THAT PLACE WHERE
THEY HAD TRIED TO HAVE
CHILDREN FOR A VERY LONG
TIME AND IT DIDN’T HAPPEN.
AND IT STILL HASN’T HAPPENED,
AND COMING TO WHERE SHE
WAS AT A PLACE OF PEACE IN THAT.
KNOWING THAT IT DIDN’T MEAN
SHE WAS IN COMPLETE.
THAT THERE WERE THINGS THAT
GOD WAS DOING IN HER LIFE THAT
WE’RE GOOD AND TEACHING HER
THROUGH THAT.
AND I THINK THAT’S IMPORTANT,
THAT WE LOOK AT ALL
THE DIFFERENT FACETS
OF WOMANHOOD.
ERIN: MY SISTER–I WAS
TALKING TO MY SISTER YESTERDAY.
AND SHE AND I ARE FOUR
YEARS APART.
SHE’S YOUNGER THAN I AM,
BUT SHE’S MARRIED,
AND PEOPLE ASK HER
ALL THE TIME, “WHEN ARE YOU
GOING TO HAVE A BABY?”
AND THEY DON’T WANT KIDS.
AND THAT HAS BEEN HARD FOR HER,
NOT BECAUSE SHE
DOESN’T WANT THEM,
THEY’RE COMFORTABLE
WITH THEIR DECISION,
BUT THAT’S NOT–LIKE WE’RE
TALKING ABOUT EARLIER,
“THAT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE.”
THERE’S SOMETHING WRONG THAT,
THAT’S NOT–LIKE,
“WHY DON’T YOU?”
AND THEY’LL SAY, TO MY MOM,
“OH, I’M SO SORRY.
YOU CAN’T HAVE GRANDKIDS.”
AND IT MAKES ME FRUSTRATED,
FOR HER, BECAUSE SHE’S NOT
A SECOND-RATE WOMAN.
SHE IS AMAZING.
AND GOD HAS PUT SO MUCH
IN HER AND SHE’S SO STRONG.
AND SHE HAS SO MANY GIFTS,
I CAN’T WAIT TO SEE
HOW GOD USES THEM.
NOT BECAUSE SHE’S GOING
TO BE A MOTHER, BUT BECAUSE
OF WHATEVER HER STORY IS.
SO, WHEN WE WERE TALKING
ABOUT THIS, I HAD THIS
REALIZATION THAT OUR
STORIES ARE SO UNIQUE.
MY STORY IS DIFFERENT
THAN YOURS, AND YOURS,
AND YOURS, AND EVERYBODY’S.
AND GOD LOVES US SO MUCH,
INFINITELY, LIKE YOU WERE
SAYING, THAT HIS STORY
IS UNIQUE FOR YOU AND ME.
AND THEY ARE GONNA LOOK
SO DIFFERENT, BUT HIS HEART
FOR US IS GOOD.
YOU AND I WERE
TALKING ABOUT IT EARLIER,
THE GOODNESS OF WHO GOD IS.
HE’S SO GOOD, EVEN AMIDST
THE PAIN OF THE WOMAN WAITING
FOR YEARS, OR THE WOMAN
WHO DOESN’T WANT KIDS,
AND FEELS LIKE SHE’S
DOING SOMETHING WRONG,
OR WHATEVER SITUATION YOU ARE.
THAT’S HOW GOOD HE IS.
GINGER: AND THE DIFFERENT
TYPES OF HEALING HE’S DONE
IN EACH ONE OF OUR LIVES.
THAT HOLE, THAT HEALING,
THAT WE ALL NEED IN ONE WAY
OR ANOTHER, THAT HE’S THERE
FOR EVERY ASPECT OF IT.
LISA: I’M SO GLAD THAT
WE’RE TALKING ABOUT
THIS BECAUSE I THINK,
EVEN Y’ALL TALKING ABOUT IT,
WILL HELP DISPEL THE MYTH
FOR SOME PEOPLE,
WHO DO THINK THERE’S ONE
WAY TO DO THIS CHRISTIAN
WOMANHOOD THING RIGHT,
AND EVERYTHING ELSE IS A,
YOU KNOW, IS KIND
OF A PALE IMITATION.
“BUT IF I DO IT RIGHT,
I’M TO BE MARRIED BY THIS AGE,
AND HAVE TWO POINT THREE KIDS,
AND I’M GONNA CROSS-STITCH,
MY BIBLE VERSES,
AND I’M GONNA–”
AND THERE’S STILL KIND
OF A PRETTY NARROW PARADIGM.
GINGER: WELL, YOU DO HAVE
TO DO THE CROSS-STITCH THING.
THAT ONE IS IN THE BIBLE.
LISA: OH, I’M GOING
STRAIGHT TO THE HOT PLACE.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: I’M ABOUT AS
DOMESTIC AS WALLPAPER,
I CANNOT CROSS-STITCH.
BUT EVEN THERE, GINGER,
WHEN I DID BECOME A MOM–
BECAUSE I MADE A CONSCIOUS
CHOICE IN MY FORTIES–
PROBABLY MID-FORTIES.
I’D READ–Y’ALL HAVE READ
IT A MILLION TIMES.
YOU MAY HAVE CROSS-STITCHED IT.
YOU KNOW THE CS LEWIS QUOTE
ABOUT IF YOU WANT–
IF YOU DON’T WANT TO GET HURT,
IF YOU DON’T EXPERIENCE
THE PAIN, TO NOT LOVE ANYTHING.
DON’T EVEN LOVE A PET,
DON’T WRAP YOUR–
BUT AT THE END OF THIS
QUOTE–IT’S ONE OF THE MOST
POWERFUL QUOTES ON LOVE.
HE SAYS, AT THE END OF IT,
“YOUR HEART WILL BE LOCKED
UP TIGHT IN A COFFIN.”
AND THE REAL–“THE REAL GRIEF
IS THAT YOU WON’T BE HURT,
BUT YOUR HEART WILL
BE IMPENETRABLE.”
AND I REMEMBER READING
THAT FOR THE UMPTEENTH TIME–
I HAVE A PLATONIC CRUSH
ON CS LEWIS.
AND I THOUGHT,
“I’VE GOT A CHOICE.
I MAY NEVER GET MARRIED
OR BE A MOTHER,
BUT I HAVE A CHOICE TO EITHER
PROTECT MY HEART AND KEEP
IT FROM GETTING HURT,
AND THEN MY HEART WILL GET HARD,
OR I CAN LEAD WITH
GOD SAYS TO WORSHIP
WITH MY HEART AND MY MIND.”
SO, I CAN PRESS INTO
THE LIVES OF MY FRIENDS’ KIDS.
I CAN PRESS INTO OTHER PEOPLE
KNOWING, “YEAH, THERE’S GONNA
BE MISSTEPS ALONG THE WAY.
SOMETIMES IT’LL BE HARD.”
BUT I JUST AM NOT GONNA
KIND OF COCOON MY HEART
BECAUSE PEOPLE HURT MY FEELINGS.
I HAD A GUY AT A CHURCH ONCE–
I WAS INTERVIEWING
TO BE ON A CHURCH STAFF.
I ENDED UP GOING
ON THIS CHURCH STAFF.
BUT ONE OF THE ELDERS,
IN THE INTERVIEW MEETING, SAID,
“LISA, I’M JUST WONDERING–”
THIS IS ALMOST VERBATIM
WHAT HE SAID.
I CAN REMEMBER IT.
SHOULD HAVE PUNCHED
HIM IN THE THROAT.
BUT HE SAID, “LISA, YOU KNOW,
I’M JUST WONDERING,
SINCE YOU’RE SINGLE, I MEAN,
WHAT CAN YOU TEACH OUR WOMEN?
I MEAN, WE ALL HAVE WIVES.
IF YOU’RE SINGLE, AND NOT
A MOM, HOW CAN YOU LEAD
THEM SPIRITUALLY?”
AND HE WASN’T MEAN, HE TRULY–
ERIN: MAY WE PUNCH
HIM IN THE THROAT?
LISA: POOR FELLA.
BUT HE TRULY WAS THINKING,
“WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO OFFER?”
GINGER: JUST A SERIOUS
QUESTION.
LISA: YEAH, AND I REMEMBER
BEING A LITTLE DISCOMBOBULATED.
AND OF COURSE, YOU DON’T WANNA
REACT, YOU WANNA RESPOND.
AND I SAID, “WELL, I THINK
THE GOSPEL EXTENDS FAR BEYOND
THE BOUNDS OF MARRIAGE.”
AND I BELIEVE–‘CUZ I BELIEVE
EVERYTHING IN HERE,
COVER TO COVER IS APPLICABLE
TO THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE,
WHETHER YOU’RE MARRIED,
SINGLE, NOT.
BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE
THOSE DECISIONS.
AND YOU HAVE TO, EVEN NOW,
AS AN OLDER, SINGLE MOM,
ADOPTIVE MOM, TRANSRACIAL
FAMILY, AND I TRAVEL,
I CAN’T TELL YOU HOW MANY TIMES,
OTHER MOMS HAVE SHAMED ME.
THEY’RE LIKE, “WELL,
WE’RE HAVING A THING.”
AND I WAS LIKE, “WELL, MY–
I’M NOT GOING TO BRING
GLUTEN-FREE.
I’M GOING BY WHOLE FOODS.
HERE’S WHAT I’M BRINGING,
BECAUSE I GET TO GO BE WITH MY
FRIENDS IN ST. LOUIS TOMORROW.
SO, I’M NOT GONNA STAY
UP ALL NIGHT, AND I ACTUALLY
HAVE A JOB, ‘CUZ I BRING
HOME THE BACON IN OUR FAMILY.”
AND I–SOMETIMES, YOU JUST
HAVE TO GO, “I’M JUST GONNA FLY
THE FLAG GOD HAS GIVEN ME,
AND DO IT WITH KINDNESS,
BUT GO, “NO, THAT’S NOT MY LANE.
THAT’S YOUR LANE.”
GINGER: THANK YOU, LISA.
THANK YOU.
BECAUSE I’VE FELT SO MUCH
OF THAT CONDEMNATION.
NOT SO MUCH, YOU KNOW,
FOR A LONG TIME,
BUT WHEN MY KIDS WERE LITTLE,
THAT “I WASN’T DOING IT RIGHT.
I WASN’T DOING IT LIKE
ALL THE OTHER CHRISTIAN MOMS.”
AND IT HURTS.
AND I REALLY HAD TO LEARN
TO GET THROUGH A LOT OF THAT.
SO, THANK YOU FOR
BRINGING THAT UP.
JAI: I REMEMBER THAT TOO.
BECAUSE I WAS FRESH OUT
OF COLLEGE, HAVING MY DAUGHTER.
I REMEMBER FEELING LIKE,
AND I WAS A MARKETING EXEC,
AND I REMEMBER GOING
TO THE BATHROOM AND PUMPING.
HUMILIATING, RIGHT?
ERIN: OH YEAH.
I’M LAUGHING, BECAUSE
IN THE MIDDLE OF THE WORKDAY
AND YOU HEAR…[PUMPING NOISES].
GINGER: ERIN USED TO CALL
IT GOING TO CHURCH.
SHE’D COME IN, SHE GOES,
“I’M GOING TO CHURCH.”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
ERIN: I’LL BE BACK
IN 30 MINUTES.
JAI: I REMEMBER THAT,
AND I REMEMBER, LIKE, OR,
LIKE, BEING–FEELING LIKE
I SHOULDN’T BE–HAVE TO DO
THAT BECAUSE, “HOW COULD
I POSSIBLY BE NURSING A KID,
AND WORKING, AND WHY
WOULD I BE HERE?”
AND I REMEMBER, ONE TIME,
SITTING SO LONG THAT I ENGORGED.
AND THEN, IN MY LITTLE TAN SUIT,
HAVING LIKE, TWO BIG OLE WET
CIRCLES BECAUSE I DIDN’T
GO DO IT, YOU KNOW,
‘CUZ I WAS LIKE, “I’M GONNA
JUST FORCE THROUGH IT.”
BUT I’M JUST SAYING
THE SHAME OF THAT.
AND THEN, THE THOUGHT OF EVEN
MY MOM, HAVING THESE GREAT
EXPERIENCES WITH MY KID ‘CUZ
SHE WAS WATCHING HER,
AT THE BEGINNING.
YOU KNOW, AND I WAS LIKE,
“I FEEL TERRIBLE.”
AND I REMEMBER
QUITTING THAT JOB.
I QUIT THAT JOB BECAUSE
I JUST COULDN’T–
I COULDN’T–
I FELT LIKE LESS THAN A MOM
FOR PURSUING MY CAREER
AND LEAVING MY KID WITH MY MOM.
LISA: THE STRUGGLE’S REAL.
BUT I’M SO GLAD, AGAIN,
I’M SUCH A SLOW LEARNER,
AND I HAD A LOT OF FRIENDS
WHO WERE REALLY HONEST WITH ME.
BECAUSE I HAD SO MANY
WOMEN–WHEN I WAS
BRINGING MISSY HOME,
FROM HAITI, FINALLY–
I LOST TWO ADOPTIONS BEFORE.
BY THE GRACE OF GOD, I GOT
TO BRING MISSY HOME FROM HAITI.
HER FIRST MAMA DIED
WHEN SHE WAS TWO.
AND, YOU KNOW,
I WAS JUST OVER THE MOON.
BUT, I HAD ALL THESE PEOPLE,
BEFORE I BROUGHT HER HOME,
AND THEY’RE LIKE, “SO, YOU’RE
NOT GONNA TRAVEL ANYMORE.”
AND I WAS LIKE, “OH.”
YOU KNOW, HOW YOU’RE LIKE,
“I DIDN’T KNOW MY MINISTRY
CALLING WAS GOING TO BE OFF
THE TABLE WHEN I BECAME A MOM,
BUT THAT IS WHAT EVERYBODY
SEEMS TO BE SAYING.”
AND IF IT HADN’T BEEN FOR
CHRIS CAINE AND PRISCILLA
SHIRER, BOTH OF WHOM, PULLED
ME ASIDE AND THEY WERE LIKE,
“LISA, YOUR LIFE IS NOT GONNA
BE CONVENTIONAL.
AND EVERYBODY’S GONNA
TRY TO PUT YOU INTO THIS KIND
OF CONVENTIONAL, CONSERVATIVE,
CHURCH MOLD OF WHAT
A MOTHER IS.”
THEY WERE LIKE, “YOU HAD
A CALLING ON YOUR LIFE,
AND GOD DOESN’T REVOKE THAT
CALLING WHEN YOU BECOME A MOM.
HE WILL GIVE YOU THE GRACE
TO DO BOTH.
YOU’RE NOT GONNA
DO BOTH PERFECTLY.
BUT MISSY WILL PROBABLY
BE A KID WHO LOVES TO TRAVEL,
AND LOVES THE CHURCH.”
AND I WAS LIKE–AND IT
SCARED ME, ‘CUZ I THOUGHT,
“OH, I’LL SO ANYTHING.
I CAN’T BELIEVE HE LET
ME BE A MAMA.
I’LL JUST WORK AT TARGET.
I’M STRONG, I CAN STACK BOXES.”
‘CUZ I THOUGHT THAT’S WHAT
I WAS SUPPOSED TO DO.
AND THEY JUST, BOTH OF THEM,
SAID, “IT’S NOT
GONNA BE COMFORTABLE,
AND YOU ARE NOT GONNA FIT.
AND YOU DO WHAT GOD HAS
CALLED YOU TO DO.
AND IF HE’S CLAPPING,
THAT’S YOUR AUDIENCE.
BUT, YOU’RE PROBABLY–”
IN THE SOUTH
I’M VERY CONSERVATIVE
THEOLOGICALLY.
THEY WERE LIKE, “IN THE SOUTH,
IN SOUTHERN CULTURE,
IN ORTHODOX CULTURE,
THERE’S NOT A WHOLE LOT
OF TEMPLATES FOR WHAT YOU DO.”
SO, THEY WERE LIKE,
“DON’T EXPECT EVERYBODY
TO PAT YOU ON THE BACK.
YOU RUN YOUR RACE, AND YOU
LISTEN TO THE HOLY SPIRIT.”
GINGER: I LOVE THAT.
THAT’S SO GOOD.
I LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUT
PHILIPPIANS 4:13, ‘CUZ WE GRAB
THAT SCRIPTURE, “I CAN DO ALL
THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO
GIVES ME STRENGTH.”
AND SO, AS WOMEN,
THEN, WE GET THAT,
“I CAN DO EVERYTHING,
AND I WON’T DROP ANY BALLS,
AND IT’S THROUGH CHRIST.
IT’S NOT ME, BUT I CAN
DO ALL OF IT.”
AND I LEARNED SO STRONGLY
THROUGH THAT,
THAT IT’S, GOD SAYING,
“I WILL GIVE YOU ALL THINGS.
I WILL GIVE YOU STRENGTH
IN ALL THINGS,
BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN
YOU WILL HAVE ALL THINGS.”
AND SO, LEARNING WHO GOD
HAD FOR ME TO BE,
WAS REALLY IMPORTANT IN THAT.
WHAT THINGS DO YOU
PULL OUT OF YOUR LIFE?
WHAT THINGS DOES HE ASK
YOU TO FOCUS ON?
LISA: AND FOR A SEASON.
GINGER: YES, RIGHT.
LISA: THERE’S SOME BALLS,
THAT YOU GO, “I’VE GOTTA SET
THIS ASIDE, FOR THE NEXT
TWO OR THREE YEARS,
WHILE I DO THIS.”
THAT DOESN’T MEAN
IT’S JETTISONED FOREVER.
THEN, WHEN THIS SHIFTS,
WHEN THEY START TO DRIVE,
“OKAY, I HAVE MORE TIME NOW,
‘CUZ I’M NOT A TAXI MAMA,”
WHEN THEY–THERE’S JUST–
WHEN YOU’RE NOT PUMPING,
YOU DO HAVE MORE TIME.
I THINK THAT’S WHERE,
GOODNESS, GRACIOUS,
AS CHRISTIAN WOMEN,
WE HAVE GOT TO GIVE EACH
OTHER MORE LATITUDE AND GO,
“YOU DON’T HAVE TO LOOK LIKE
ME IN HOW YOU DO IT,” AND,
“HOW CAN I HELP YOU?”
LET’S KIND OF BLOW THE PARADIGM,
AND MAKE IT GOD’S PARADIGM.
DEBORAH LED ISRAEL.
YOU GO–I’M SURE THERE WAS
SOME YAYHOO ON THE SIDE GOING,
“DID YOU MAKE YOUR HUSBAND,
A HOT MEAL TONIGHT?”
AND YOU KNOW DEBORAH
PROBABLY SAID, “NO, I WENT
THROUGH CHICK-FIL-A.”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: AND SO, I THINK
SOMETIMES, WE HAVE TO GO,
“LET’S JUST KIND OF GO, WHAT
REALLY IS GOD’S PERSPECTIVE?
AND WHAT KIND OF BAGGAGE
ARE WE SADDLING ON EACH
OTHER SAYING, ‘THIS IS GOD’S
PLAN FOR YOU.'”
ERIN: I’M SO GLAD
YOU’RE SAYING THAT.
AND I THINK, AS A YOUNG MOM
REPRESENTED HERE,
WE NEED TO HEAR THOSE THINGS,
BECAUSE WE FEEL THE PRESSURE,
LIKE YOU’RE SAYING, OF BEING
HOME WITH MY YOUNG KIDS.
BUT I AM CALLED TO THIS JOB.
I’M CALLED TO BE HERE,
“BUT I’M NOT A GOOD ENOUGH MOM
AT HOME BECAUSE I SEND MY KIDS
TO PRESCHOOL, OR WHATEVER.”
BUT ALL THOSE SORTS
OF PRESSURES THAT ARE
SO PREVALENT RIGHT NOW.
GINGER: AND THE SAYING
IS JUST THE AND THE OPPOSITE,
FOR THOSE MOMS, WHO ARE
AT HOME, AND THEY ARE GETTING
THE OPPOSITE FEELING,
“YOU SHOULD BE DOING
SOMETHING ELSE.”
ERIN: “WHY ARE YOU NOT
HELPING PROVIDE FOR
YOUR FAMILY?”
WE’RE ALL DOING THE BEST
WE CAN, SO FOR YOU, TO TELL US,
“YOU’RE DOING GREAT.
KEEP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING,
GO WHERE GOD IS CALLING YOU,
AND THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS,”
THAT IS–THERE SO MUCH
FREEDOM IN THAT.
JAI: I WANNA, EW…
IT’S SOMETHING THAT
JUST STRUCK ME.
ERIN: EW, HERE WE GO.
GINGER: WHAT IS IT?
[LADIES LAUGHING]
JAI: OKAY, SO, I’M DOING
SOMETHING, RIGHT THIS MOMENT,
THAT MY 18-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER
IS NOT THRILLED ABOUT.
AND SO, TO HER, “I’M NOT
A GOOD MOTHER,” AT THE MOMENT.
BECAUSE LIKE, I’VE SHARED
THIS A BUNCH, HOW I’VE GONE
THROUGH A DIVORCE RECENTLY,
AND SHE’S 18, GOING TO COLLEGE.
WELL, WE THOUGHT SHE WAS.
SHE WANTS TO TAKE A GAP YEAR.
BUT SHE’S DECIDED TO DO
SOMETHING THAT HER,
AND HER DAD, DECIDED THAT,
I SUPPORT HER COMPLETELY.
BUT I’M JUST NOT IN A PLACE
WHERE I FEEL LIKE SHE’S
READY FOR THAT PARTICULAR JUMP.
AND I TOLD HER, A COUPLE
MONTHS AGO, I SAID, “IF YOU
GO THIS ROUTE, I LOVE YOU,
I SUPPORT YOU, GO AND DO
WHAT YOU’RE GONNA DO,
BUT I CAN’T BE A PART OF THAT.”
YOU KNOW, AND SO,
THAT’S WHAT I HAD A PEACE ABOUT.
THAT’S WHAT I STILL
HAVE PEACE ABOUT.
BUT BECAUSE SHE STILL NEEDS
MY HELP WITH THESE THINGS,
MY NATURAL, YOU KNOW,
MOM INSTINCT IS TO LIKE,
JUMP IN AND HELP HER,
BUT I KNOW I’M NOT SUPPOSED TO.
AND SO, SHE IS BEYOND
ANGRY WITH ME, AND LIKE,
NOT TALKING TO ME BECAUSE OF IT.
YOU KNOW, AND THEN,
I FEEL THE GUILT OF MAKING
THAT DECISION, PUTTING
MY FOOT DOWN, BUT I ALSO,
SEE ON SOCIAL MEDIA,
ALL THE PARENTS THAT ARE
TAKING THEIR KIDS TO SCHOOL,
DECORATING THE DORMS,
AND DOING ALL THIS STUFF.
AND I ONLY GOT ONE KID,
I ONLY HAVE ONE, AND SO,
I’M LIKE, THIS IS MY SHOT,
YOU KNOW.
AND SO, THEN, ALL THIS GUILT
WITH BEING A MOM THAT’S
TRYING TO FIGURE OUT IF SHE
WANTS HER HAIR SHORT,
LONG, OR WHATEVER.
YOU KNOW, LIKE JUST TRYING
TO KEEP MOVING AFTER DIVORCE.
BUT I’M LIKE,
“AM I BEING SELFISH?
AM I DO–” BUT I FEEL A PEACE,
IN GOD, THAT I’M DOING
WHAT I’M SUPPOSED TO DO.
SHE MADE HER DECISION,
IT’S MY VERY FIRST, REAL,
TOUGH LOVE SITUATION.
GINGER: THAT’S HARD.
JAI: IT’S JUST THE PRESSURES
OF BEING “A MOM” AND–
GINGER: IT CAN
BE GUT-WRENCHING.
JAI: IT’S SO HARD.
AND I’M LIKE, I WANNA POST
A PIC OF ME GOING TO TARGET,
WITH MY KID, TO FIND SOME
BED SHEETS, BUT I CAN’T,
BECAUSE SHE’S ANGRY WITH ME,
BECAUSE OF ALL THE THINGS
THAT ARE GOING ON.
BUT I HAD TO PUT MY FOOT DOWN,
AND YEAH.
LISA: YOU KNOW, WHAT’S
BEAUTIFUL, IN WHAT YOU’RE
SHARING–AND YOU DIDN’T ASK
MY OPINION, BUT–IT’S FUN
TO BE WITH Y’ALL KNOW.
BECAUSE I LOVE YOU ALL,
AND WATCHING YOU FROM
THE CHEAP SEATS,
IT’S JUST A GIFT TO BE HERE.
BUT YOU ARE REALLY CONSISTENT,
IN THE WAY YOU SPEAK,
AND THE WAY YOU MINISTER,
THERE’S JUST THIS–
ALL OF Y’ALL,
HAVE THIS CONSISTENCY.
YOU KNOW, Y’ALL DON’T LOOK
LIKE EKGS THE WAY YOU
LIVE YOUR LIFE.
WHEN I WAS BRINGING MISSY
HOME, FROM HAITI–I’VE BEEN
IN CHRISTIAN COUNSELING
FOR YEARS TO KINDA KEEP
IT BETWEEN THE LINES.
THE ANSWERS ARE IN GOD’S WORD.
IF IT’S–I’M TRYING TO APPLY
IT TO A PLACE WHERE I WAS
WOUNDED, I CAN BE SUCH A–
JUST SUCH A DWEEB.
AND SO, HELPS ME TO HAVE
AN OLDER, WISE COUNSEL TO GO
HERE’S WHERE YOU NEED TO GO,
TO WALK RIGHT WITH THE LORD.
SO, I DID A LOT OF–A LOT
OF COUNSELING, PRE BECOMING
AN OLDER ADOPTIVE MOM.
AND MY COUNSELOR WAS TALKING
TO ME, ONE TIME, ABOUT LOVE,
AND SHE SAID, “LISA,” SHE SAID,
“WHAT WILL IT LOOK LIKE FOR
YOU TO LOVE MISSY?”
AND I WAS LIKE, “WELL,
I’LL JUST–I’LL LOVE HER.”
AND SHE WAS LIKE, “BUT LOVE.”
AND I SAID, “YES, THERE’S THREE
GREEK TERMS FOR LOVE…”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: ALL MY LOVE KNOWLEDGE.
AND SHE SAID, “BUT WHAT
WILL IT LOOK LIKE?”
AND I WAS LIKE, “WELL, YOU KNOW,
I’M GONNA AFFIRM HER VERBALLY,
IF THAT’S HER LOVE LANGU–”
LIKE, I’M–I WAS LOST.
YOU MIGHT AS WELL HAVE
ASKED ME–YOU KNOW,
I DATED A PHYSICIST ONCE,
THAT WAS EXCITING.
YEAH, I READ A BOOK
“PHYSICS FOR THE REST OF US,”
BUT THAT’S WHAT IT FELT LIKE.
I FELT SO FOOLISH WHEN
SHE WAS SAYING,
“WHAT WOULD THAT LOOK LIKE?”
AND SHE SAID, “YOU KNOW
HOW TO DO THIS.
YOU JUST DON’T SEE THE PROFOUND
SIMPLICITY OF IT.”
SHE SAID, “LOVE FOR MISSY,
A CHILD WHO LOST HER PARENT
WHEN SHE WAS A BABY,
WHO’S BEEN IN AN ORPHANAGE
IN HAITI, WHO’S VERY SICK.
LOVE FOR HER WILL BE
CONSISTENCY AND SAFETY.”
AND I WENT, “OH.”
AND THEN, I WENT,
“BUT LYNN, I TRAVEL,
I’M ALWAYS IN DIFFERENT CITIES.”
AND SHE GOES,
“YOU ARE CONSISTENTLY
IN DIFFERENT CITIES.
YOU ARE CONSISTENTLY…”
AND I WAS LIKE, “THAT’S HOW
I LOVE MY KID.”
I’M CONSISTENT.
I’M CONSISTENT WITH DISCIPLINE.
I’M CONSISTENT WITH
MY PERSONALITY.
I’M A VERBAL AFFIRMER.
I’M CONSISTENT WITH–
AND I THOUGHT, “OH.”
IT’S LIKE, IT TOOK ALL THIS
PRESSURE OFF.
SO, WHEN YOU GO,
“I DON’T KNOW IF I’M EVEN
DO IT RIGHT.”
I’M LIKE, “YOU’RE DOING
IT BEAUTIFULLY,
‘CUZ YOU’RE BEING CONSISTENT.”
EVEN ABOUT I’M HAVING
A BOUNDARY, YOU SAID, “I LOVE
YOU WITH ALL MY HEART.
I’M STILL YOUR MAMA.
THIS IS HOW I’VE BEEN FOR
EIGHTEEN YEARS.
YOU KNOW, MY HEART, FOR YOU.”
I THINK, AGAIN, THAT’S WHERE
WE HAVE TO DO IT “AS UNTO
THE LORD,” INSTEAD OF AS UNTO
INSTAGRAM OR TIKTOK.
IT’S LIKE, EVERYBODY
ELSE IS DOING STUFF.
MISSY IS DIFFERENT THAN
MOST OF MY FRIENDS’ KIDS.
SHE AND I–I’VE GOT THIS
BEAUTIFUL KID FROM HAITI.
SHE DOESN’T LOOK LIKE
MY OTHER FRIENDS,
SHE’S SOCIALLY–THERE’S SOME
PLACES WHERE SHE’S
PLAYING CATCH-UP.
AND I’M JUST DETERMINED
TO HAVE HER BE EXACTLY
WHO GOD MADE HER,
AND IT MEANS, OUR LIVES
LOOK A LITTLE DIFFERENT.
AND I DON’T ALWAYS GET THE–
I JUST DON’T ALWAYS FIT
IN WHAT A MOM LOOKS LIKE
IN THIS SEASON OF LIFE.
BUT I THINK BEING–I MEAN,
60 IS RIGHT AROUND
THE CORNER FOR ME.
THE ONE THING I HAVE IS,
I LOOK BACK AT THE CONSISTENCY–
THE CONSISTENT FAITHFULNESS
OF GOD IN MY LIFE, AND GO,
“THAT’S WHAT HE’S TEACHING
ME TO DO, IS JUST–”
I’M GONNA TO KEEP WALKING.
EUGENE PETERSON SAYS
OBEDIENCE IS A LONG WALK
IN THE SAME DIRECTION.
THAT’S WHAT YOU’VE DONE
WITH YOUR BABY GIRL.
YOU HAVE WALKED A LONG WAY IN
THE SAME DIRECTION, BEAUTIFULLY.
GINGER: THAT’S WHAT
WE ALL NEED TO HEAR.
ERIN: YOU KNOW, ONE VERSE
I JUST WANNA SHARE REAL FAST,
THAT, I THINK I WANNA
SHARE WITH YOU.
AND IT WOULD–I THINK IT
APPLIES TO ALL OF US WOMEN,
IN GENERAL, AND THE HEART
OF WHAT GOD HAS FOR US.
BUT TO YOU, SPECIFICALLY:
PSALM 46:5 “GOD IS WITH HER.
SHE WILL NOT BE MOVED.”
THAT IS WHO YOU ARE.
AND THAT’S WHAT YOU’RE
WALKING OUT, RIGHT NOW.
LISA: THAT’S RIGHT.
ERIN: GOD IS WITHIN YOU,
AND YOU WILL NOT BE MOVED.
YOU’RE CONSISTENT AND YOU’RE
CONSISTENT WITH YOUR DAUGHTER,
AND GOD IS WITH HER.
SHE WILL NOT BE MOVED.
GOD’S HEART IS FOR HER, TOO.
AND THAT GIRL,
SHE’S GONNA BE FINE.
JAI: YEAH, I BELIEVE IT.
I JUST–I BELIEVE IT,
AND RECEIVE ALL OF THAT.
AND–BUT I DO KNOW, IT’S REAL
WHEN, YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU–
AND THE DIFFERENT PHASES,
OF COURSE, YOU KNOW.
LIKE, EVERYBODY HAS DIFFERENT
PHASES OF HOW THEY, YOU KNOW,
FEEL GUILT OR SHAME WHEN
THEY’RE MOTHERING AND THEIR
CHOICES THAT THEY’RE MAKING.
I TOLD TAYLOR, MY WHOLE TIME,
I WAS LIKE, “THIS IS ME
AND GOD RIGHT HERE.
I DON’T KNOW WHAT I’M DOING.”
I’VE NEVER HAD
A TAYLOR AT THIS AGE.
LIKE, I WOULD ALWAYS SAY,
“I’M KIND OF GUESSING, SO.”
GINGER: THERE’S ALWAYS
SOMETHING NEW FOR US,
WE GOTTA FIGURE OUT.
JAI: BUT THAT’S WHY
I APPRECIATE, THIS GROUP
OF LADIES, LIKE WE’RE
ALL DIFFERENT.
AND I LOVE HAVING PEOPLE
IN DIFFERENT PHASES, YOU KNOW,
AND HAVING JOYCE, AND HAVING–
YOU KNOW, JUST TO HEAR THOSE
DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES
ON MOTHERHOOD,
AND LIKE, “OKAY, THIS
IS WHAT HAPPENS AT EIGHTEEN?
‘CUZ SHE’S CRAZY.”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
JAI: AND I’M HOPEFUL ‘CUZ
I SEE, YOU KNOW, I SEE GINGER
AND HER GIRLS AS ADULTS,
WITH HER GRANDKIDS, LIKE
FACETIMING, YOU KNOW, WITH
LITTLE ELSIE, WITH HER LITTLE
HAT ON, AND DIAPER.
YOU KNOW, SO IT’S LIKE, YOU SEE
THAT IT’S HOPEFUL TO SAY–
GINGER: AND THAT AREA THAT
I THOUGHT I WAS BROKEN IN,
THAT AREA THAT I THOUGHT
I DID NOT HAVE WHAT I NEEDED
TO DO IT HAS BEEN ONE OF
THE GREATEST JOYS OF MY LIFE.
LISA: ISN’T THAT AMAZING.
GINGER: ABSOLUTELY.
AND SO THAT’S JUST GOD IS.
IT’S JUST–GOD KNOWS WHO WE ARE,
AND HOW HE’S CREATED US,
AND OUR WEAKNESSES, AND COMES
IN AND HELP US IN THOSE AREAS
THAT WE JUST NEVER IMAGINED
WE COULD BE FULFILLED IN.
SO, IT JUST SAYS SO MUCH
ABOUT WHO GOD IS.
SO, THAT CONSISTENCY,
THAT GIVING IT OVER TO HIM
IS NOT EASY FOR US.
IT’S NOT EASY FOR ME,
BELIEVE ME.
BUT IT REALLY IS THE KEY
TO ALL OF IT.
LISA: IT IS.
AND I LOVE THAT PLUMB LINE
YOU LAID OF, IF GOD IS IN HER–
WITHIN HER, SHE WON’T BE MOVED,
BECAUSE HE’S NOT SAYING,”
IF GOD IS WITHIN HER,
IN THIS FRAMEWORK.”
IT’S IF, “GOD IS IN HER,
AND SHE’S A LEADER,
AND SHE FEELS CALLED WITH THIS.
AND GOD IS IN HER,
AND SHE’S NOW,
DOING IT BY HERSELF.
AND IF GOD IS IN HER,
AND IT TOOK A WHILE, IF YOU–”
IT’S LIKE HE’S NOT SAYING,
“GOD IS WITHIN HER,
IF SHE DOES IT EXACTLY
LIKE THIS.”
I GO, “HOW COOL IS THAT?”
BECAUSE IT MEANS, FOR THE WOMEN,
WHO ARE WATCHING,
RIGHT NOW, WHO GO,
“YEAH, I’M TOTALLY WITH JAI.
LIKE, GOD GAVE ME THIS BRAIN,
I’M SUPPOSED TO USE,
AND I WANT TO WORK, BUT I WANT
TO BE WITH MY KIDS, BUT IT’S–”
I’M LIKE, THEN YOU DO WHAT
HE’S GIVING YOU TO DO,
AND YOU DO IT WITH
ALL YOUR HEART.
AND YOU KNOW THAT
YOU CAN’T HAVE IT ALL.
I HATE THAT OLD COMMERCIAL.
YOU REMEMBER THAT PERFUME
COMMERCIAL?
“SHE CAN FRY IT UP IN A PAN,
SHE CAN NEVER, NEVER–”
I’M LIKE, “NOBODY CAN
DO ALL THAT!”
GINGER: I CAN NEVER COOK
ANYTHING IN A PAN.
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: LISTEN, I THINK DRIVE
THROUGH, I THINK ORDERING
IS A GREAT SPIRITUAL GIFT.
BUT I ALSO, THINK YOU ALL,
WE JUST WEAVE–
WE THINK PROVERBS 31
IS A REAL THING.
WE DON’T REALIZE THAT’S ACTUALLY
HEBREW HYPERBOLE.
THERE WAS NOT ONE WOMAN.
THAT WAS A COMPOSITE
OF SEVERAL GIFTS.
AND WE’VE SAID,
“WELL, YOU CAN HAVE…”
AND I’M LIKE, “THERE WAS NO ONE
JEWISH WOMAN WHO DID THAT!”
I’M LIKE, “STUDY YOUR BIBLE!”
[LADIES LAUGHING]
LISA: BECAUSE WE’VE MADE
IT TOO HARD, I THINK,
FOR OTHER WOMEN, INSTEAD
OF SAYING, “MAN–”
LIKE, I’M LISTENING TO YOU
AND GOING, “I’M CALLING YOU
IN SIX YEARS WHEN MISSY’S 18,”
‘CUZ YOU’LL HELP ME.
BUT MISSY AND I WILL LOOK
DIFFERENT THAN YOU AND TAYLOR.
BUT YOU’RE GONNA GO,
“LISA, THIS IS WHAT GOD DID.”
‘CUZ ALSO, PSALM 84:11,
“NO GOOD THING DOES
HE WITHHOLD FROM HIM WHOSE
WALK AS UPRIGHT,” I ALWAYS
PARAPHRASE OR SAY, OR “FROM HER,
WHO OFTEN STUMBLES.”
IF WE’RE WALKING TOWARD JESUS,
WE’RE NOT GOING TO MISS IT.
WE MAY DROP A FEW BALLS,
WE’RE NOT GONNA DO IT PERFECTLY.
BUT HE IS–HIS CONSISTENCY
IS WHAT WE STAND ON,
HIS FAITHFULNESS IS WHAT
WE STAND ON.
JAI: AND I DO THINK
IT’S IMPORTANT TO BRING BACK
WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT THE CS LEWIS
QUOTE ABOUT THE “COCOONING
OF THE HEART,” BECAUSE
IT’S EASY WHEN YOU HAVE THOSE–
YOU KNOW, THE WHOLE,
LIKE THE, “HOPE DEFERRED
MAKES THE HEART SICK.”
YOU KNOW, LIKE,
IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO–
AND THIS IS WHY PEOPLE SAY LIKE,
“HOW DO YOU KEEP–”
I GET A LOT OF MESSAGES LIKE,
“HOW TO KEEP MOVING?”
I DON’T–I JUST MAKE
A CHOICE THAT,
“GOD WE GOTTA DO THIS.”
LIKE, I WILL NOT ALLOW
MY HEART TO COCOON.
I WILL NOT ALLOW MYSELF
TO SIT IN A DARK ROOM,
AND BE UPSET, OR SAD
BECAUSE THIS HAPPENED.
‘CAUSE THAT CAN APPLY TO NOT
JUST TO MOTHERHOOD,
BUT TO DIVORCE, OR TO ANY
KIND OF DISAPPOINTMENT.
ANYTHING THAT YOUR HEART
HAS DESIRED THAT YOU
HAVEN’T GOTTEN YET, LIKE,
YOU CAN ALLOW YOURSELF
TO GET IN THAT DARK SPACE,
WHERE YOU SAY, LIKE,
“I’M GONNA HAVE
MY HEART HARDENED.”
BUT THE KEY IS TO KEEP THAT
HEART PLIABLE AND KEEP IT OPEN,
AND RUN TOWARDS GOD
AS HE’S RUNNING TOWARDS YOU.
LIKE, I THINK THAT’S SUPER,
SUPER IMPORTANT.
GINGER: WHAT A GREAT
CONVERSATION.
THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH.
AND WE’RE GONNA END
WITH JOYCE, IN JUST A MINUTE,
PRAYING OVER ALL OF US,
AS WOMEN, AND MOMS.
AND SO, JUST A GREAT PRAYER.
BUT WHILE WE HAVE OUR FRIEND,
LISA HARPER, LISA IS GOING
TO BE ONE OF OUR SPECIAL
GUESTS AT OUR 40th ANNIVERSARY
WOMEN’S CONFERENCE, NEXT YEAR.
LISA: I CAN’T BELIEVE IT!
GINGER: IT’S GONNA
BE SUCH A FUN PARTY.
LISA: IT WAS SO FUN,
WHEN I GOT TO BE WITH YOU
ALL A COUPLE YEARS AGO.
I KINDA AM WAITING FOR
THE OTHER SHOE TO DROP,
I’M LIKE, “SURELY, YOU ALL THINK
YOU’VE INVITED LISA BEVERE,
OR LYSA TERKEURST.”
LIKE I DON’T EVEN WANNA
TELL YOU IT’S HARPER,
I’M AFRAID I’LL GET DISINVITED.
IT WAS AWESOME.
IT’S ONE OF MY FAVORITE
EXPERIENCES, AND I CAN’T
WAIT TO COME BACK.
GINGER: AND IT WAS SO FUN
WHEN YOU WERE WITH US TOO.
IT WAS JUST AMAZING.
LISA: GOD SHOWS OFF
AT Y’ALL’S EVENTS.
AND IT’S LIKE HIS
PRESENCE IS PALPABLE.
IT’S AMAZING.
GINGER: WELL, TO GET
US ALL WARMED UP, WE HAVE
A WOMEN’S CONFERENCE COMING
UP REALLY SOON THAT
YOU CAN REGISTER.
IT’S COMING UP,
OCTOBER 8th AND 9th.
IT IS THE LOVE LIFE WOMEN’S
CONFERENCE 21.
AND IT IS GOING TO BE SO HANDY
AND LIFE-CHANGING.
AND I LOVE PUTTING THOSE
TWO THINGS TOGETHER.
HANDY AND LIFE-CHANGING!
[LADIES LAUGHING]
GINGER: ‘CUZ IT’S VIRTUAL,
AND YOU CAN BE PART
OF ALL OF US.
WE’RE GONNA HAVE
A TALK IT OUT THERE.
IT’S GONNA BE SO FUN,
WITH DR. HENRY CLOUD.
LISA: OH, HE’S AMAZING.
GINGER: SO, WE’RE JUST
GONNA HAVE A GREAT TIME.
SO MANY WONDERFUL SPEAKERS.
GREAT WORSHIP MUSIC.
PLEASE GO ONLINE TO REGISTER,
GO TO:
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THAT REALLY IS THE KEY
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LOVE YOU ALL.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH.
ERIN: WE LOVE YOU BEING
HERE WITH US.
LISA: THANK YOU FOR LETTING
ME BE HERE WITH YOU ALL.
IT’S BEEN A GIFT.
GINGER: AND YOU,
AND YOUR SWEET HEARTS TOO,
AND WE WILL SEE YOU NEXT TIME.
RIGHT NOW, HERE IS JOYCE WITH
THAT PRAYER OVER YOUR LIFE.
JOYCE: FATHER, WE LOVE
OUR KIDS SO MUCH.
AND REALLY,
NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO,
WE STILL LOVE ‘EM.
AND WE’RE GRATEFUL
TO KNOW THAT YOU LOVE
US THAT SAME WAY.
AND SO, WE’RE ASKING YOU TODAY,
WE’RE ASKING YOU,
TO GO AFTER THESE KIDS.
TO NOT LET THEM
BE COMFORTABLE IN THEIR SIN.
I PRAY THAT YOU WOULD
SURROUND THEM WITH PEOPLE
THAT ARE CHRISTIANS,
THAT ARE THE REAL DEAL,
THAT THEY CAN LOOK
UP TO AND ADMIRE,
AND WANT TO BE LIKE THEM.
SOME OF THESE KIDS
PROBABLY FEEL HOPELESS.
THEY MAY BE ADDICTED
TO SOME KIND OF SUBSTANCE,
AND THEY FEEL THERE’S
NO WAY TO GET OUT.
SO, I ASK THAT YOU WOULD GIVE
THEM JUST EVEN A SPARK OF HOPE.
BECAUSE WHERE THERE’S HOPE
THERE CAN ALWAYS BE VICTORY.
AND FATHER, OUR NEW CONFESSION
IS, “I’M EXPECTING MY CHILD
TO BE SAVED AND FILLED
WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT,
AND SERVE GOD WITH
THEIR WHOLE HEART.
I’M EXPECTING GOD
TO DO SOMETHING
AMAZING IN THEIR LIFE.”
SO, WE THANK YOU, LORD,
FOR RELEASING
ANGELS AND THE POWER
OF THE HOLY SPIRIT,
AND FOR RESCUING THEM,
AND BRINGING THEM OUT
OF DARKNESS INTO THE LIGHT.
AND I PRAY THAT YOU WOULD
GIVE US, AS PARENTS,
THE WISDOM TO KNOW
WHEN TO SAY SOMETHING,
WHEN TO BE QUIET.
WHEN TO PRAY,
KEEPING OUR CONFESSION
IN LINE WITH OUR PRAYERS.
LET EACH OF US BE GREAT
EXAMPLES TO OUR CHILDREN,
AND NOT JUST PREACH TO THEM,
SOMETHING THAT WE’RE
NOT DOING OURSELVES.
IF THERE’S DAMAGE THAT’S BEEN
DONE IN THESE RELATIONSHIPS,
THROUGH THINGS THAT HAVE
HAPPENED IN THE PAST,
THAT MAYBE EVEN,
THE PARENTS HAVEN’T
HANDLED PROPERLY–
I KNOW I DID THAT.
YOU ARE THE GOD OF RESTORATION
AND YOU CAN RESTORE ALL OF THAT.
SO, I PRAY FOR ALL THOSE
BREECHES TO BE HEALED.
AND I THANK YOU, GOD,
FOR BUILDING BRIDGES
IN THESE RELATIONSHIPS,
AND BRINGING FAMILIES
TOGETHER IN PEACE AND UNITY.
LET US BE AWESOME CHRISTIAN
FAMILIES, SERVING YOU,
AND BEING AN EXAMPLE
TO THE WORLD.
IN JESUS’ NAME,
WE REBUKE SATAN, HE IS NOT
GONNA HAVE OUR CHILDREN.
WE CLAIM THEM.
WE SURROUND THEM WITH OUR
PRAYERS, AND WE PUT A COVERING
OVER THEIR LIFE TODAY.
AND WE SAY, THAT THEY ARE
COMING INTO THE KINGDOM.
AMEN.
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