Dr. Tony Evans is the founder and senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, founder and president of The Urban Alternative, chaplain of the NBA’s Dallas Mavericks, and author of over 100 books, booklets & Bible studies. His radio broadcast, The Alternative with Dr. Tony Evans, can be heard on more than 1,300 US outlets daily and in more than 130 countries.
One of the great challenges today is
marriage. And nothing shows that
challenge any more than the great
divorce rate that we’re experiencing in
our culture and in our churches. There’s
no way around the reality that divorce
hurts. There’s a lot of pain when there’s
the breakup of a family. There’s a lot of
sin and mistakes that contribute to the
breakup of a relationship. And yet, even
though that pain is real—it’s emotional,
it’s financial, it’s relational—you don’t
have to throw in the towel and give up. Because, God loves you, and God wants to
see any healing you need in your life
because of your divorce take place.
He wants to meet you where you are, enable
you to live one day at a time to take
that next step toward your future.
I don’t want to make divorce sound good
because it’s not, but neither do I want
to make it feel like your life is over
because it is not. God can meet you in
this place,
walk you through whatever you need to
move to the next step that He has for
you, and to do it in a way that brings
Him glory and brings you good. So I want
to encourage you, draw near to God even
with the pain or challenge or
difficulties you may be facing, whether
the divorce was your fault or someone
else’s fault or a joint venture. And I
want you to say to God, “God I give You my
life. Meet me here because I want to move
forward each day at a time
under Your covering.” And let’s see what
God can do with your life in spite of
the pain you may be dealing with right
now.
It’s been 10 years since my divorce (I filed). God has and is my refuge. Even now I still find it difficult to move forward. I’ve overcome a lot but it still stings that my daughters and I are so distant. I have one sister that I still keep in touch with. I’m most thankful for the quiet, but I know there’s more I’m meant to do to serve God. I have not remarried nor do I have a boyfriend. A Christian man can be hard to come by. Any suggestions on this I’d appreciate thanks