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I titled this teaching the Garden within
cultivating a generational Legacy of
Praise because that is what scripture
says that we are meant to do that is our
first and foremost Legacy is that we
will tell of his mighty works from
generation to generation to generation I
want to be able to tell what God did for
my grandmother and my great-grandmother
I want my children talking about what he
has done for me not just in pulling us
out of lack but in the great victories
in the advance ments in the EXP in the
expansion of our gifts in my
contribution to being a part of a church
that is
powerful not a
building the body of
Christ that is what our first and
foremost generational Legacy should be
and we should leave Financial legacies
and we should leave wisdom but the
praise is of
god generational Legacy here’s the
problem generational trauma is the the
enemy of generational
praise your generational trauma is
opposing the legacy of Praise that you
are meant to leave and so we must look
at how we break the bands and the legacy
of generational trauma so we’re going to
talk about that today theologically
psychologically and
biologically how do we break free of
generational what we’ve been calling
curses
so the first thing I want to do is free
you from the generational
curse if you have
Jesus on the inside of you no curse can
follow you that’s that because what God
has called blessed no one can call
cursed now I know there’s a verse in the
Old Testament in the book of Deuteronomy
it talks about in The Book of Exodus it
talks about it that the sins of the
father shall be visited on the children
for three Generations but that is why
Jesus came to break the curse of sin we
don’t have to have my grandmother’s sin
I’m not punished for that by God I’m not
even punished by God for the sin I
committed last
week because it says that the blood
covers and so when I Repent he cast it
into the sea of forgetfulness if he
doesn’t remember it how is he punishing
me for
it but we have been able to to kind of
hold on to that idea that theological
thinking that we’re being punished for
something someone else did or more often
for something that we did because it
gives us a sense of control to be able
to figure out why things are going wrong
because I would rather have an
explanation that hurts me then no
explanation at
all because when I don’t have an answer
I don’t like
ambiguity is it just me so we’ll come up
with an explanation just to have one but
the blood of Jesus breaks makes these
spiritual curses and so right now if you
feel like there’s something in your
family that’s been a spiritual curse and
you have Jesus on the inside of you then
you declare in the name of Jesus that
curse is broken you cannot attach
yourself to me you cannot attach
yourself to my home you cannot attach
yourself to my family or to my children
I am blood covered Blood Bought and
blood
empowered that’s it every generational
curse in the room
broke we can leave now y’all done we’re
good the problem is not the
curse it’s the
memory what you’re really battling are
the
memories because the memories pass and
when we have a memory of something it
defines the way that we understand
things it defines what we believe and
every thought that you think is based on
a
belief and from those thoughts fruit is
what what you do how you behave but also
what shows up in your body and so I want
to talk to you about what it means to be
a garden that leaves a legacy of fruit
that is good generation after generation
let’s go to Isaiah
5811 some of you might be familiar with
this
verse most of you will be familiar with
Isaiah 58:12 but maybe not 11 and the
Lord shall guide thee continually and
satisfy thy soul in drought
and make fat thy bones and thou shalt be
like a watered garden and like a spring
of water whose Waters fail not when we
talk about what it means to be well
through the lens of scripture God gives
us
Gardens and they that shall be of thee
shallal build the old waste places Thou
shalt raise up the foundations of many
generations and thou shalt be called the
repairer of the breach the restorer of
pths to dwell in why is that significant
because we know there have been some
generational problems
anybody in a family that’s got some
generational problems addiction
addiction addiction addiction divorce
divorce divorce divorce uh finan poverty
poverty poverty poverty diabetes
diabetes diabetes diabetes and so we
look at and we see things running in our
line and we declare they’re going to run
out with me but sometimes it seemed like
they ran out and then they skip a
generation and then they pop back up my
mother’s father struggled with addiction
my mother’s mother’s father was an
alcoholic there was no addiction in my
mom’s generation or my dad’s gener my
Mom and Dad we we was
Holiness there weren’t no alcohol ever
even in the
house no cigarette child we couldn’t
play cards I can’t play spades
today I got PTSD right now about Spades
cannot play with my friends because my
dad saw me learning a car game at the
babysitter one time picked me up gave me
the look he got these green eyes gave me
the look I could have sworn I heard the
belt move rattling I was like what just
happened we don’t play cards yes sir
child Uno is all you can get from me as
a result I am I need to go to trauma
therapy over the cards because I can’t
play no cards so there was nothing like
that in our home but yet addiction found
my sister’s life and so sometimes you
think it’s run out because you don’t see
the
behavior but that doesn’t mean that the
emotional soil that’s fertile for the
problem isn’t still around and so it
finds its way back and so you have to
deal with what’s invisible and memory is
one of those things but in order to be
the generation that Isaiah is talking
about in 5812 that raises up the
foundations of generations we must first
be the well-watered garden that the
Bible says we should be it says he will
make you as a watered garden and then
you will go out and raise up Generations
so I need you to stop trying to repair
things when you have not been repaired I
need you to stop trying to save
everybody else when you are not well
your business is running your ministry
is popping you got the Bible study at
home you leading this over there and you
are waking up at 2: a.m. in an absolute
panic I want you to be well
first but so does God don’t confuse God
use me with God wanting to use
you he’s not a user and sometimes some
of us have lived in traumatic situations
that make us misunderstand that when we
talk about God use me because we’ve been
used which meant we were emptied out
which meant things were taken from us
with nothing being
returned and so then when we find
ourselves reaching the end of our rope
our empty vessel trying to do what we
think God wants us to do we think that
there’s something holy about that
because our definition of what it means
to be
used is
carnal but God doesn’t use Us by
draining us emptying us tapping us out
and giving us nothing in return and then
expecting us to keep going until we
collapse that may have been your father
that may have been your mother that may
have been your ex that may have been
that toxic friend but it’s not
God and so the first thing that we have
to do in Breaking generational memories
that are guiding us the wrong way is
examine whether we are receiving correct
information the reason that the garden
became a revelation to me is because
years ago when I was a graduate student
in my first Neuroscience class I saw a
picture of a neuron which is a nerve
cell a brain cell in a textbook and I
thought that thing looks like a plant
and I brought you guys a picture would
you show that first
slide
there it is look on the right is a
neuron neurons are the building blocks
of your thoughts they trade information
between them passing information one to
the next until a thought is formed and
we have about 70,000 thoughts per day so
neurons are like the building blocks of
your mind a neuron is on the right and
on the left a
sibling now this was such a faith moment
for me because I
thought do I really believe in the god
of my Sunday school
book some of you may have come into
Christ relationship and join churches
later in your life if you’re part of a
church but for me I had spent my whole
life there so Sunday school anybody else
go to Sunday school and we made oh a lot
of Sunday school survivors in here and
we colored
pictures we believe that a voice of God
told two animals to walk two by two in a
boat and that a fish swallowed somebody
and spit them up we have all these
things and we colored the pictures and
we said we believed it but do you really
believe in the god of your Sunday school
book because I felt like if I really
believed in that God then how could I
pass this image without assuming that
God had something to teach me about the
mind the Bible says he made plants on
the third day and he made us on the
sixth day so either he accidentally
swapped a
mold or God planted a garden not just
for us but within us so that before
there was a microscope before there was
any information before we had a brain
scan he had given us trees and plants
and seeds and soil to understand how we
are made it isn’t
complicated you’re a
garden and then God took me over to
Matthew Chapter 13 where Jesus tells a
story called the parable of the sewer
and in the parable of the sewer Jesus
puts all the pieces together he says
that a sewer went out to sew seeds and
they fell on different kinds of ground
there was three kinds of grounds that
had problems and he tells us that the
seeds are the words of God the soil is
our heart and he distinguishes between
the soil types by emotional descriptions
Joy anger fear it was the first
emotional vocabulary list the first
feelings wheel Jesus lists these
emotions to tell us what was happening
to the word of God that was falling and
then the plant Springs up that’s the
mind and then the fruit what we do seed
so oil plant
fruit believing feeling thinking
doing that’s how we were created to
function and so your beliefs are
actually attached to your emotional life
your heart is the soil of your life your
emotional life your well-being
emotionally is the base for how
everything else
goes and we’ve been taught that our
emotions are problems and we should
ignore them but but God made you a
garden now I know some of you are like
wait a minute wait a minute you can’t
listen to your emotions you got to get
this out that’s what the world’s been
telling us and we brought it into our
theology but when I look at my Bible
Jesus Calls the soil the heart describes
it as emotion and says when these seeds
fall how we’re doing emotionally affects
how the seed
grows and so I’m here to tell you that
the key to Breaking generational memory
and generational cycles that are toxic
is an emotional
healing Proverbs 15:13 says by sorrow of
the heart the spirit is broken that
means that not only does my emotions
show up where my spirit show up but my
emotions actually can do something to my
spirit you may have Jesus in your heart
it’s not saying it doesn’t have
salvation for you anymore but that our
broken hearts can break us spiritually
and I think some of y’all felt that how
many people have ever felt like I’m
still saved I still know Jesus
but I don’t understand what’s going on
that worship song is washing right past
me I’m at church trying to deal
something but all I feel is how hurt I
am why did my mother die why did my
brother kill himself why did the sex
abuse fall on my child why why did my
parents get divorced why did I go
bankrupt why did my business fail
because when your heart gets
broken spiritually we can get real real
confused and so the first area that I
want you to work today write this one
down to correct generational memories
that in form toxic generational Cycles
is that you must repair any definitions
of God that do not align with the word
of God because the seeds of God can fall
on the soil of a broken heart and
something that goes wrong and some of us
have been families where views of God
have been passed down that are not
script
natural because we have made up a story
to explain the problem that makes us
feel like we understand whether it
matches God’s character or
not I remember my first client that said
to me when I started out doing this work
I worked exclusively with adult
survivors of child sexual abuse for the
first four years of my work as a
therapists best work I’ve ever done in
the sense that I was honored that women
would share their stories with me but
also the degree of Freedom that I got to
see happen I love the work cuz I love
freedom and I remember one woman saying
well I know God picked
me for my stepfather to abuse because
I’m stronger than my little sister so he
picked me because I was Stronger than
her
no
no if you have a story about God
to
explain your childhood
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wounding my Bible says that we are told
by Jesus that it’s better to put a
millstone that’s a big rock around your
neck and throw yourself in the water and
drown than to hurt one of these little
ones so why would a God who loves
you make choice of a child to be abused
but we tell ourselves
stories this had to happen because X God
made it happen because X nothing happens
unless God wills it to happen I beg to
differ 1 John 3 says that sin is in this
world because the devil sins from the
beginning but for this purpose was the
son of God manifested to destroy the
works of the devil that means there are
works of the devil so that means not
everything is a work of God
and so I need you to stop trying to find
God purpose in the intention of every
bad thing that’s ever happened to you
now the Bible says God will bring good
out of it he’ll Force good out of it
because that’s how he destroys the works
of the devil but that don’t mean he
started the fire I’m sorry he did not
walk into your room and start the fire
of sexual abuse he did not walk into
your house and have your father beat
your mother half to death in front of
you he did not walk into your house and
have your family evicted and traumatize
you ever being afraid not to have less
than two jobs in a side hustle cuz
you’re so scared of being
broke not my God if that’s your God
please I want you to
meet my God
today generational trauma happen
spiritually because of with our
misguided well-intentioned wrong
explanations about who God
is I want you in the weeks to come to to
check your
story when I was a kid I remember my mom
saying and she came from that generation
my mom’s a mighty woman of God I got no
shade for her have prayed me through
some things when she came from a
generation in a church space that felt
that everything that happened the devil
must be doing it or God must be allowing
it and so when my older sister’s mental
illness persisted and persisted and her
addiction persisted and persisted my my
mom would sometimes say well I the the
devil is coming at me because I’m out
here preaching the gospel and I would be
like okay I’m a kid
okay and then one day I was out
preaching the gospel and I got a call
about one of my
children and I had to pull over my
car and I heard that saying I heard it
come to me you’re doing what God called
you to do and so God the devil’s
attacking you and it’s because you’re
doing what God called you to do and I
looked at heaven and I said God if this
is the
cost I don’t want
it if this is the cost if me doing what
you called me to do means that you’re
going to hurt my child I don’t want to
do it I said it I know I said
it and I sat there and I
wept until the presence of God met me
and reminded me of what I
know that one my perspective in that
moment was
selfish because I was seeing myself as
the target instead of my
child I got y’all I not I’m not I’m I’m
showing my mama problems I’m trying to
help somebody because that was making it
about me that is a spiritually
narcissistic perspective to have that
everything that goes wrong is because of
you don’t you you think the devil hates
your child don’t you think the devil
hates your mama don’t you think the
devil hate anybody but
you it ain’t always about you
boo I should have went straight in
intercession for my child but whoo is me
what’s happening to
me but a generational
memory a story about God that had
probably been in my family for
Generation after generation but if I
hadn’t sat there and wept like I wept
see you don’t want to let your emotion
see when I allow that emotion to flow
through me then Clarity was able to come
you try to get Clarity by suppressing
your emotion but you have to experience
and release your emotion so I sat there
and snotted and cried and said God I
quit I’ll
quit he not scared of
you holy Spirit waited for me to let my
pain
speak