Dr. Tony Evans is the founder and senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, founder and president of The Urban Alternative and author of over 100 books, booklets and Bible studies. The first African American to earn a doctorate of theology from Dallas Theological Seminary, he has been named one of the 12 Most Effective Preachers in the English-Speaking World by Baylor University. Dr. Evans holds the honor of writing and publishing the first full-Bible commentary and study Bible by an African American. His radio broadcast, The Alternative with Dr. Tony Evans, can be heard on over 1,400 radio outlets daily and in more than 130 countries. Dr. Evans’ sermons are also streamed and downloaded over 20,000,000 times annually.

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so

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i want to talk to you today about the

process

of brokenness to encounter god’s process

of him stripping you of self-sufficiency

so that you can experience

a new level of his reality in your life

and mind

brokenness is when god intervenes

in your life through a negative set of

circumstances

to attack a flaw in your personality

there is a flaw in your humanity

that desperately needs to be addressed

and he recognizes that at the core of it

is independence and self-sufficiency

and to strip you and me of it

he begins a process of breaking us

you have three parts to you

a body a soul and a spirit first

thessalonians 5

23 you are made up of spirit soul and

body

your body allows you to function in the

physical world through your five

senses through the five senses you are

able to relate to the world

around you your soul

enables you to relate to yourself

your soul is your personhood the reason

why you know you’re you

and that you’re here is because you

possess a soul which is the life

principle that allows the body to

operate

so your body allows you to function in

the world your soul allows you to

function with you

your spirit allows you to function with

god

so your spirit is god your soul is you

and your body is the world around you

everyone who is born into the world is

born into the world with a scarred

soul sin has scarred

our soul we’re born in sin shaped in

iniquity

we are born flawed

now that shows itself at different

levels for different strokes for

different folks

but there is a scarring of the soul some

of that was transferred from your mother

and your father

and that’s why we find ourselves doing a

lot of things our parents did

because we picked up some of the

scarring from them

you didn’t just pick up their looks you

picked up their scars

and then the scarring is increased by

things that happen to us

by circumstances that overwhelm us by

wrong done to us by wrong done by us

all of this adds to the scouring of the

soul

this scarring of the soul breeds

independence

from god when a person accepts jesus

christ

the holy spirit invades their human

spirit

giving them the ability to now

receive spiritual data

when the holy spirit enters the human

spirit

the human spirit which is now infused by

the holy spirit

invades the soul to transform it

and get rid of the scars

he wants to strip away the scars of the

soul

which causes us to do all the wrong

things we do with our bodies

so we do wrong with our bodies because

we got scars on our soul

that the spirit wants to heal so that we

function

in a way that brings god glory and

brings us good

and so he must break us

but he’s breaking us to remake us

in genesis chapter 22

we have a breaking occurring in the life

of the patriarch jacob

jacob has a name

and his name means trickster

his name means heel grabber

his name means supplanter

his name means deceiver

jacob’s name fits his character

in the bible names matter

we name people because we like the name

in the bible names were given to explain

the character

jacob was a born deceiver

from the time he left his mother’s womb

he grabbed his brother his twin brother

esau’s heel he’ll grab her

he tricked his brother out of his

birthright

he comes to a crisis in chapter 32.

the crisis is that it looks like his

brother

has gotten tired of him and he’s going

to kill him

in chapter 32 verse

6 it says the messengers returned to

jacob

saying we came to you from your brother

esau

and furthermore he is coming to meet you

and 400 men are with him

then jacob was greatly afraid

and distressed and he divided the people

it says in the two camps

to try to make sure they didn’t kill

everybody

it says in verse 9 the next thing he did

was say oh god

isn’t that what you do when you get

scared enough

oh god lord have mercy

o god of my father abraham and god of my

father isaac

oh lord

who said to me return to your company

and to your

relatives and i will prosper you i’m

unworthy of all the stuff you’ve done

for me verse 10.

and then he makes his request in verse

11 deliver me

i pray from the hand of my brother

from the hand of esau for i fear him

that he will come and attack me and the

mothers

with the children what happens

verse 34 then

jacob was left alone

and a man wrestled with him

until daybreak

jacob is alone

he’s alone cause nobody he knows and

nothing he knows can help him

he’s by himself

you ever been in a situation where

you were all alone oh you you may have

had folk around you but you might as

well been by yourself

because nothing around you could make a

difference

he’s alone he’s by himself

he’s been stripped

now watch this he’s got a problem his

brother’s after him

he prays to god after he prays to god

things get worse

after he’s talked to god

somebody shows up at night and wrestles

him

until daybreak verse 25

and when he the stranger

saw that he jacob

had not prevailed against him

hmm when this stranger saw

that jacob wasn’t quitting

that jacob wasn’t throwing in the towel

that jacob wasn’t giving up

the jacob wasn’t wasn’t just running

away when he saw

he didn’t prevail against him he

touched the socket of his thigh

and the socket of jacob’s thigh was

dislocated

when he wrestled with him

so the man had to disconnect something

and make it worse

see when god is trying to break you

he’ll make it bad

but if you’re not responding he’ll make

it worse

he’s trying to move your core

the thing that you are counting on to be

able to

deliver you verse 26

then he says the stranger says i didn’t

hurt you now

let me go okay

that means that jacob was holding on

even with a disjo-located hip

so he’s hurting and holding

you didn’t miss that did you he’s

hurting

and holding

it’s easy when god is trying to break

you

to let go of god it’s easy

when god is trying to strip you to say i

don’t want it anymore

but jacob said you hurt me but i’m still

gonna hold you

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he says i am not going to let

you go he says

i am not going to let you go verse 26

until somebody say until

you bless me

wait a minute now all we know the

stranger doesn’t have a name

this guy has come at night when i’m

already scared

this man is wrestling with me now this

man has dislocated me

and i’ve gone from trying to win a fight

to trying to get a blessing

how do i move from fighting for my life

to saying bless me

well the only way you ask somebody to

bless you is if you have the

no they have the ability to do that when

the stranger

dislocates his hip

because it doesn’t happen until then

when his

strength is gone it dawns on jacob

this is not a human match

it’s a man but it’s not human

there’s more to this battle than just

the fight i’m in

i’m in the fight of my life but there’s

more to this battle

than the fight that i’m in something

spiritual is occurring here

that’s why he asked for a blessing

that’s spiritual

so he recognizes and he doesn’t

recognize it

until the dislocation happens

that this is a so here’s what i don’t

want you to do

i don’t want you to mistake

the hand of god for the hand of man

see because he’s wrestling a man but

he’s really dealing with god

if all you see is what you see you do

not see all there is to be seen

god may use something physical to take

you to a place that’s spiritual

he may use something that you can see

touch taste

smell and hear when he’s only invaded

that

to take you to a place that gets

him to have your undivided attention

and if you try to push him off up here

he gonna touch something down there

and he will fight until you hurt bad

enough

i’m not gonna let you go

until you bless me verse 27 so he said

to him

the man says to jacob what

is your name

okay to follow this i’m not gonna let

you go

till you bless me oh you want a blessing

what’s your name

remember naming in the bible refers to

your nature

your character not just your

nomenclature

we do that with nicknames like we call

somebody slim that means they’re skinny

so the nickname is reflecting something

about them you call somebody red because

they got red hair

you know the nickname is described so we

do with nicknames what they did with

names

we make it descriptive what’s your name

translation describe yourself to me

are you willing to admit your name

are you willing to acknowledge

you are a deceiver

because that’s your name are you willing

to acknowledge

that you are a trickster are you willing

to acknowledge

you are a flawed person who has lived

their lives using evil

to get by because it’s all wrapped up in

your name

but what god wants to know is are you

willing to fess up

to who you really are when you’re alone

with him

when you’re wrestling with him

now your name may not be jacob maybe

your name is liar

maybe your name isn’t jacob but your

name is cheetah

maybe your name isn’t jacob but maybe

your name is luster

maybe your name isn’t jacob but your

name is steeler

maybe your name isn’t jacob but maybe

your name

is racist what is your name what is that

character in your life that is against

the will

and character of god that keeps him

from blessing you

and he will wrestle with you until you

say your name

even if he has to dislocate your hip to

get there

what is your name he says

my name is jacob

i’m the deceiver verse 20

8. he says your name

shall no longer be jacob i’m going to

change your name

meaning i’mma change your character

but your name will now be israel

for you have striven with god and with

men

and have prevailed ooh

god says i got a new reality for you

jacob and that new reality is you’re

going

to experience what it looks like when i

run the show in your life

god prevails you’re going to experience

what it looks like

when i show up to turn something around

because it’s god’s prevail

you won’t have to live your life with

trickery anymore

you won’t have to be a deceiver anymore

you won’t you won’t have to try to

fix it yourself anymore because i’ma

change your name

see some of us have a name called

education

because we think because we got a ba and

an mba and a phd

that my education has made me

self-sufficient

well i’m gonna tell you now god’s gonna

change your name

some of us have a name called money

because we define our sufficiency by our

bank account

and by our credit cards but i want to

tell you now

if you want to experience god he gonna

try to change your name

some of us have a name called uh

relationships because we got all the

hookups we need

to get to where we want to go do what we

want to do but be what we want to be

but if you want to experience god he’s

going to change your name

by letting the relationships fall

through and not being able to pull off

what you thought they would be able to

pull off in order to experience god

he will strip you of your name

in order for you to know that god

prevails

that the spiritual trumps the physical

and that you

and i are not sufficient

within ourselves verse

29.

then jacob asked him and said please

tell me

your name you asked me my name

tell me your name listen to the man’s

response

but he said why is it that you

ask me my name

see a lot of us get like marvin gaye

what’s going on god said

you ought to know by now everything you

didn’t tried i didn’t blocked

every contact you made i didn’t stop

every time you think you don’t have have

any more debts i let something else

break down

you ought to know my name by now

it ought to be clear who you’re dealing

with

and so it dawned on him

so jacob named the place verse 30 peniel

for he said i have seen god he knew his

name now

i have seen god face to face

yet my life has been preserved

because it could have killed me see if

you only knew what god

could do that he didn’t do

doesn’t do some of us should be dead

right now

but because of the goodness grace

and favor of god he brought you out

brought you through

when you were thinking you were gonna

lose

your mind

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he said i’ve seen god face to face and

i’m alive to talk about it

so if you’re still here he ain’t

finished

oh but here’s where it gets good here’s

where it gets good let’s bring it to a

close here’s where it gets good

now verse 20 31

the sun rose upon him just as he crossed

over

penuel and he was limping on his thigh

because hebrews 11 verse 21 says that

when he

blessed his grandchildren

in order to bring them blessing he had

to lean on his staff

so years later he’s still limping

years later he’s still limping so if

y’all if jacob came on the stage today

and you say why are you limping jacob

would have to say i’m limping because

i’ve been blessed

i’m limping because i’ve been blessed

cause a few years ago

i was independent i was self-sufficient

i made it happen all by myself

god broke me down he

separated my socket and every time i get

up and try to go

somewhere i’m reminded about my weakness

i’m deminded about my dependency i’m

reminded

that i can’t make it without him every

step i take every move

i make god is reminding me

you better not get the big head boy

because you do have another hip

i i can’t dislocate another one if i

have to

so you better remember you are totally

dependent on me

and he says and i’ve been blessed but

what was the blessing

when he said i want to be blessed he

wasn’t talking about something general

he was talking about verse 13 where he

says you promised

that you would make of me a great name

and you would give me a great land

you see your blessing is something god

has already planned to do in the past

that he’s not free to do yet because you

are not broke down

far enough for him to be free to do it

so the blessing

is not something new it’s something old

that becomes new to you

when you are made ready to receive it so

some of us in here need to start limping

and say god i’ma break my own socket

so you don’t have to break my socket so

that i can be

totally dependent on you

look in closing if you remember years

ago when you were growing up

they used to have them piggy banks they

used to have them piggy banks with a

little slit at the top

and you would put your coins in the

piggy bank to save your money

when it was time to get your money you

shook the piggy bank

you took the pig you turned it upside

down

and you shook it now the reason you

shook it

was because there was something valuable

on the inside

that you wanted to come to the outside

and so you

shook it the harder it was to come out

the harder you shook it

because you wanted the money but it was

stuck on the

inside and you needed it on the outside

so you shook it after a while you got

tired of shaking it because it wasn’t

coming out like you wanted to

so you went and got a hammer and you

took the hammer

and you broke the piggy bank cause you

got

tired that it wasn’t responding to the

shaking

god will start by shaking you because

there’s something valuable

in you but if you don’t respond to the

shaking

he goes to get a hammer because he got

to break you

in order to get all the good stuff in

you to come

out for your good and his glory

so somebody ought to praise him that

he’s a god who breaks us

in order to make us

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if you’ve ever watched a wrestling match

you know the goal is to pin

your opponent into submission and

surrender

well god believes in wrestling matches

that’s what he did in genesis 32 with

jacob

he pinned him to the mat until he

surrendered

he surrendered to god because he wanted

to be blessed by god

did you know your greatest blessing

is when god puts you in a wrestling

match

until you surrender so he can have his

way with you and bring to you

what he has planned for you

just like jacob didn’t give up don’t you

give up

because god will put you in a conflict

and in a battle

until you say yes lord i give you my

life i give you my will i give you my

way i give you my desires i give you my

plans

i give you my programs i surrender

because when you surrender that’s when

he can do his greatest work in your life

because he sees you’re ready to yield to

him oh and by the way

like jacob when you surrender he just

might

change your name

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so

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so

you